Well, what are your intentions with her in the first the place? Girls don't want to rush into things so quickly because we need to 'feel you out' for what you're really after. We all know guys only wants to get into relationships with girls they want to have sex with, and that is not always something that girls wants initially in that way. I can't be with somebody who doesn't share the same or similar values. You have the right to reject friendship, but understand you hurt her as well. She made it clear that she wasn't attracted to you in that way. But you are still a valuable friend. All you did basically is reaffirm her belief that no guy really loves or wants her. For her. If she said that she is not having sex with you until marriage, let's say. Do you like her that much you will actually wait that long for that?
I'm sorry, but she told you no the first time. Don't use her inability to stay coherent to change her mind. That was wrong.
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It seems to me like you went into the friendship in hopes of trying to date her, which can make a girl feel really betrayed. It makes it like you don't care for her, like you were just waiting for the right opportunity to strike. And I never understand what's wrong with being friends with a girl, even one who you have or had feelings for. Once you accept that they're not returned, you can continue the friendship with a sense of relief at least you have an answer. I've experienced a friend not liking me back, from both genders, and it does hurt. But l'd rather appreciate the connection that we shared platonically over simply severing a good friendship over some a temporary crush.
tbh, i find it very selfish when girls do this. she just wants a guy friend for her to be able to talk about her feelings to and have a guy opinion, but she isn't taking into account your feelings and how badly it would hurt you to stand around and take in all this while you still have feelings for her. it's being inconsiderate by just dismissing your feelings like that. It's okay for your to end the friendship, don't feel bad for it. she had a right to decline your offer to go out, just like that you have the right to decline her offer to stay friends.
Let me just say, I am proud of you. You slipped up the first time, but you figured it out by the second time. You learned, adjusted, grew. That is all you can do. Just keep plugging away. You will get where you want to go.
I think they do that to have a back up. if they get truly desperate they could always go out with the love sick puppy that has been following them around for years
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I wouldn’t continue to be friends with her. She doesn’t feel the same way, but wants someone to talk about her feelings with. She should talk to her girlfriends. That isn’t fair to you especially since she knows you like her.
What's wrong with being friends? You just can't smash. Big deal lol
Yeah fuck that. The only reason I was friends with you in the first place is because I wanted a relationship. No. We are not going to continue to be friends
They're dumb. Nobody wants to be friends with someone they've been rejected by
If someone friend zones you cut them off
They want to feel better about themselves.
Because they're evil manipulative cunts
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