Do you think a woman is wasting her life if she doesn't have kids?

[chocolatetwopointo]

[bobalife]

She has a choice and still have a lot more in life to live, pursue, learn, explore, and find joy. Not everyone wants and needs kids. If a woman can’t have kids, it’s out of her control. Therefore, the answer is no, of course it’s not a waste of her life.

[Ladsin2]

Do you think most women find fulfillment in child rearing?

[CB-Raido-Time]

I don't know about if it's wasting her life or not but children are a must so she sure would be wasting mine.

[chocolatetwopointo]

@CB-Raido-Time why are children a must?

[CB-Raido-Time]

Because children are highly important to God me and humanity they bring great joy and happiness there could not be enough of them in this world.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok so js letting yk, js bc u want kids doesn't mean everyone else should want kids

[Brittanyroseee]

Not everyone likes kids

[CB-Raido-Time]

@Brittanyroseee Isaiah 13:11-13 11 And I will punish the world for their evil, and the wicked for their iniquity; and I will cause the arrogancy of the proud to cease, and will lay low the haughtiness of the terrible.

12 I will make a man more precious than fine gold; even a man than the golden wedge of Ophir.

13 Therefore I will shake the heavens, and the earth shall remove out of her place, in the wrath of the Lord of hosts, and in the day of his fierce anger.
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Women have set a new trend in the so called sisterhood to not want children and as it is written in Prophecy women will get they have wished.

[chocolatetwopointo]

bro js put a spell on me💀 anyways have as many kids as u want but me and many other women won't have kids

[Brittanyroseee]

@CB-Raido-Time it isn’t evil to not have kids🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣you are on heavy drugs my guy

[Brittanyroseee]

@Chocolatetwopointo i think he is on drugs🤣

[Brittanyroseee]

@CB-Raido-Time stfu with this religious shit!!! NOT EVERYONE IS RELIGIOUS

[Brittanyroseee]

@CB-Raido-Time it isn’t a sin to not have kids wierdo.

[Brittanyroseee]

@CB-Raido-Time go complain about the people WITH kids and they abuse them

[CB-Raido-Time]

@Brittanyroseee If I were to go complain about people WITH kids that abuse kids I would be complaining about women because women are the only ones privileged to have or even be around kids. Yes imagine that the very ones that claim they care so much about kids are the very ones that abuse a murder them both birthed and in the womb. They are the ones that do what they accuse men of doing and then accuse men of their own evil deeds.

www.youtube.com/watch

[Brittanyroseee]

Ok whatever you say

[Brittanyroseee]

Like i said kids are a choice not a must.

[PetLover24]

@CB-Raido-Time -- there's certainly enough children in the world. Hundreds of thousands suffer neglect & abuse on a yearly basis in the USA alone.

[CB-Raido-Time]

@PetLover24 Women hold a monopoly children most men can't even go near them. And if there are so many that are being abused and neglected who would be at fault for that?

[PetLover24]

@CB-Raido-Time I suggest you EDUCATE yourself. There's 4 different youtube channels on child abuse for those people who failed school & can't read beyond 10th grade even. And 90% OF the abusers ARE men.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

@PetLover24 Those aren’t the biological fathers, those are step brothers, mons boyfriend/step dad, mom’s brother, etc. And the statistics say that most murders are actually done by mothers. In some chronically fatherless communities that I am reluctant to name due to other political sensitivities and personal reasons, women have been caught pimping their kids for ebt cards and drug money, its sad and infuriating to all hell. And due to those racially charged political BS reasons for doing things that there is no excuse for and not a hot enough place in hell for, the news is brushed under the rug. Often by the feds themselves. Pure evil and unacceptable

Spanking a kid is now illegal in some states so thay doesn’t even count.

[Saramad_Hill]

No, it's her life and she's the one who decides what makes it meaningful. Just because we are alive does not mean we have to procreate. We're not mice.

Now, this answer contrasts sharply with declining birth rates in developed countries-- leadership really frets over it. And maybe there's some drawbacks when there's less working class and too many elderly.

But ultimately I don't think anyone should be able to force you to have kids. I also disagree with shaming someone for not having kids. Again, we're not born specifically to keep the bloodlines going. World kinda sucks at the moment, anyway.

It's a complicated topic, sure, and I noticed the question wasn't exactly aimed at men in any way, but my answer would stand for them, too. It's your life, you pick what matters to you. I do feel like more people in general wouldn't mind kids if they weren't so expensive to have. Housing, fees, groceries, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes, everyone is as they are missing out on one of the the most important, defining, and rewarding parts of life.

We were designed by nature to have and raise children, this is what much of our life is suppose to be dedicated to. If we don't go into that mode we don't really leave the dating mode and skip out on that hugely important part of life.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what if they dont want kids?

[Opinion Owner]

Most people don't know what they want until they have it. @chocolatetwopointo
Regardless children are an obligation to the family and sociality that had and raised you to pass on the torch of life to the next generation as their torch was passed to you.

Not wanting to carry on this obligation is basically poisoning the land to deny anyone else use of it after you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok and what if they have a kid and hate it? they will neglect it maybe even abuse it, how do u feel ab that?

[Opinion Owner]

It is not my or your business to decide the merits of THEIR life.

People and animals inappropriately use other people & animals all the time @chocolatetwopointo.

If any of them really felt that was worth forfeiting their life all together to avoid it the possibility of such abuse, they would have done so. Most of them have not, because they would rather live with the possibility of such abuse than not live at all.

This fact is self-evident in that they attempt to escape rather than simply kill themselfs.

[Vanny20]

Well, I believe it's either an individual choice as a woman or a collective choice between a man and a woman in a relationship or marriage, but whatsoever choices that were made, One's innermost happiness is paramount even though having kids has been a blessing from above. As a single lady of 35 years of age, having kids in the nearest future would be so nice, but at the other hand if my future partner doesn't want any kids then so be it, as long as we are both happy together with or without kids. So it's a choice

[MisterWack]

No. Again men play a part in the making of a baby so, why isn’t it a man wasting his life though there is expectation of the woman?

My answer: It is a choice NOT a burden.

[Lliam]

Fuck no.

My wife sure as hell didn't waste any of her life.
I never wanted the responsibility of kids.

We've been happily married now for 28 years, had LOTS of fun and built a wonderful life together. We look forward to our future together.

I think she would have made a wonderful mommy. But we've talked about it and both agree that we're glad we didn't have any kids.

[MillieMin]

No, and I think the pressure on women to have children is problematic

[Ladsin2]

Do you think most women find fulfillment in child rearing?

[RingOfFire]

In the eyes of nature yes because natures most important function for any species is reproduction because without it the species cannot survive.

To nature women are a baby making machine. That is their purpose.

But from a more philosophical point of view, there are other factors to measure the value of a life by. Subscribing to that view it's entirely possible a woman's life may not be wasted even if she has no children.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so why isn't it for men?

[RingOfFire]

I didn't say it's not. Reproduction is also nature's most important mission for men.

But there is a bit of difference. A healthy man can impregnate a virtually unlimited number of women over his lifetime whereas a female is limited in the number of children she can have. So the bottleneck to offspring is women and it is more critical that they each bear children.

You need less men in a population to bear children than you do women to keep the population alive.

[chocolatetwopointo]

thats not true tho? a mother could have multiple children, and its not like we need more people.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Hell, I even think a man who lives for only himself is a waste as well, especially if he is fertile and able to accumulate resources and wealth.

He can’t take it with him when he goes, who gets it? The government? A nephew or niece? A university? A charity? A loyal employee? A friend, I suppose it wasn’t all in vain if anything/anyone except a government or university gets his wealth when he dies, but its still bittersweet don’t you think?

[chocolatetwopointo]

no? if someone doesn't want kids they shouldn't want one, what makes u think everyone should have a kid

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I listed criteria didn’t I?
Its sort of selfish if you are a competent and capable person. Nihilism and narcissism tend to be a trait of “successful” childless people in their late 30s.

[chocolatetwopointo]

or they js dont want kids? do yk how expensive kids r nowadays? and its only going up

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Be a good woman and at your age you could find a wealthy man easily

[chocolatetwopointo]

if i wanted a rich man id have to b a 10/10 and prob alr rich by wealth

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Negative, you don’t need to be wealthy. And you only need to not have a septum piercing's and be a decent and young woman who is fit.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nah u need to be a 10/10 u can't b a 4/10 and expect a rich man, thats js unrealistic

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Thats still not true. You could find an old rich dude that’s decided he wants kids. Now he’s probably a very busy guy who is socially autistic but he’s out there and you have to lower your standards and date guys who own plumbing business or a farm or something. That means you’re more attractive than 40% of other young women.

You have to think differently

[chocolatetwopointo]

well i dont want kids and i won't risk my life for money, and there r no rich men where i live

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Okay then. How us dating a rich guy risking your life for money?

[chocolatetwopointo]

u said a guy that wanted kids would need a woman, i dont want kids and having kids would ruin my body and life

[strateguy632]

Thr fact she female grows a baby in her seems to indicate that is her purpose.

Still all female animals do that but a female human has other abilities do need both the purpose of nature and intelligence abilities.

Waste both is wasted life. Just one missing purpose but not waste. But need both as above.

Also men need and it is on laslow pyramid just bad wording.

[morganherrel]

She is not wasting her entire life, but she is certainly wasting something. I would argue that this something is what makes her special as a woman, without which she deserves no special privilege for being a woman.

[missindiana93]

I don't think it's a waste but to me children are blessing and as a mother myself hearing more laughter and having little humans love you so much is the greatest thing ever. If your a career driven woman with no desire to do anything and heartless and cruel then you shouldn't have sex or kids.

[Brittanyroseee]

Its heartless and cruel to not want kids? Odd take but ok

[Brittanyroseee]

I have desire to make $ 😂

[chocolatetwopointo]

id rather be rich and not having to wake up to kids arguing, screaming or crying, kids r horrible

[Brittanyroseee]

Same. I have no patience for babies and little children. I get overstimulated easily and that would overstimulate me very much. I also lose my temper and i would rather not lose my temper on my “baby”

[Brittanyroseee]

Im far from being maternal

[MrOracle]

If you want a real answer to this question, ask childless women in their 60s and 70s and 80s if they regret not having children. Their answers are really the ones that are going to be relevant, more than anyone else's.

[chocolatetwopointo]

true

[Seinna]

If she wants them and doesn't get them by 35 at the latest, then yes. If not then no, not everyone wants to have children. Problem is, often times women thing they don't want them until it's too late... and it's a terrible regret to live with.

[chocolatetwopointo]

would u rather regret having kid or regret not having kids?

[Seinna]

I'd rather regret having kids... but tbh I don't understand how that can be, unless you're a psychopath or you end up with a seriously sick child and have to watch them suffer. Even if you're not good with children, they will grow up and you will still have your (grown) children. I don't see what is there to regret. A lot of work for sure, but very rewarding... gift that keeps on giving.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok so you’d rather neglect, maybe even abuse ur kid instead of adopting? i would never have kids bc i hate them and there's no point of it

[Seinna]

I'm sorry, what? If you'd abuse your kids then definitely don't have them. But you can regret having children and still take care of them and love them as is your duty. It's a bit troubling you'd jump to such a conclusion though... definitely don't have children.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ofc they dont know they’ll abuse their kids, many do it bc they’re stressed and their kids keep crying and is annoying. ur more likely to neglect ur kid instead of loving them if u hate them, trust me. and trust me i dont want kids

[Brittanyroseee]

Ew no. I hate when people think a woman’s only purpose is to pop out babies like some mindless rabbit. It’s gross. Its 2024. Grow up

[ManInChains]

Women are made to have children. It's their purpose in life. If they don't they'll end up miserable. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[chocolatetwopointo]

why do u think they end up miserable?

[ManInChains]

Because they focus on their job and have no man no kids nothing but material things. 🤷🏻‍♂️ They become like you. Miserable and hateful

[chocolatetwopointo]

who says they’ll only focus on their job? who says they wouldn't have a man? and what makes u think that makes them miserable, js bc somebody doesn't want exactly what u want doesn't mean they’ll be miserable

[Ladsin2]

I don't think it's a solution that will provide joy for most women. Most women find fulfillment in relationships. The ultimate relationship is between a woman and her children. This is borne out by every study ever done. Is it the case that some women can lead fulfilled lives without children? Sure, it is theoretically possible. Just not likely. I'd say Mother Theresa lead a pretty fulfilling life and she didn't have children.

[DrPepper12]

No. Do you think a man is? Why is that question NEVER asked if men? Or the ubiquitous, how do you try to find or maintain a work/life balance?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc people only say a woman is wasting her life not a man, if a man doesn't have kids he's responsible and focuses on his career, but if a woman does the same she's wasting her life

[old_grump]

Anyone who thinks a woman is wasting her life if she doesn’t have kids is a complete nincompoop! Your life is as vibrant as a rainbow-colored unicorn doing the cha-cha, and anyone who says otherwise is as clueless as a goldfish trying to climb a tree. Keep shining like the glitter on a kindergarten art project, and don’t let those dingbats get you down!

[Account]

How? If she doesn't want them how would she waste her life? She would be wasting her life if she had them due to societal pressure, yet didn't want them.

[Christian_Cartier]

In short, yes. The female body is biologically built to bear and nurture children, and the female brain is built to reward it. A woman can of course choose to invest her time in other pursuits, but none of them will ever make her as happy.

[chocolatetwopointo]

multiple women who have kids are miserable tho? women are different, not every woman will be happy bc thry have a kid

[Anonymous]

yes given that women have a shorter fertility window than men

men would be wasting their lives too but men are the disposable gender thus society don't care if a man doesn't have kids unless he got amazing genes

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I wanted kids but I can't.

I don't think my life is meaningless or wasted just because I don't have kids.

[Danny_dan92]

Nah. Some women just don’t want kids.




In fact I once met a woman that loved sex but never wanted to have kids

[chocolatetwopointo]

acting like its rare💀 there r loads of women who r like that

[Danny_dan92]

A lot of girls have baby fever… many have asked me to put a baby in them

[chocolatetwopointo]

yh bc of baby fever..💀 they’ll regret it once their born, and js so yk 1 ≠ 4B

[Danny_dan92]

Yes, I’m aware

[Josey29]

Do you believe men are wasting their lives if they don't have children?

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg, nope i have never said anything like that. i asked bc people always ask that towards women and not men

[Josey29]

I know you didn't say that... society likes convince women that their only contributing to this earth is being fruitful and militiplying. We celebrate the 60 year old bachelor but we condemn the 60 year old woman that chose the same lifestyle.

I think pregnancy and childbirth are a beautiful experience but I wouldn't jugde a woman that chooses a different path. Caring for an actual human beings for 18 years is a big deal! Never mind putting your body through the stress pregnancy and breastfeeding.

[Josey29]

I have a teenager. He's my life but he's also the reason I stress everyday. Is he healthy? Is he happy? Did I raise him right? I almost positive that feeling with never go away.

[rienna888]

No I think this world is overpopulated and there’s not enough resources for everyone

[Anonymous]

Not if she does something useful to society.

Now if she doesn't have kids and she ends up working in the gender studies department at a university or is on the DEI staff in HR, THEN she's wasting her life.

[strateguy632]

💖🤴👍

[chocolatetwopointo]

why? if it makes her happy why does it matter?

[blueonblack22]

If she voluntarily chooses that option it’s one thing. Quite another if she just couldn’t find the right mate.

[AmeerX]

I think man and woman who don't procreate for fear of poverty and not getting married are both wasting time and all birth control should be banned so people start taking things seriously

[Brittanyroseee]

Are you ok? You want birth control to be banned? Tf

[Brittanyroseee]

So you want unwanted babies to just be born left and right no matter the circumstances? You are asking for trouble this is worse than banning abortion…

[Brittanyroseee]

Not everyone likes kids. They are a lot of work, a big responsibility. And this economy sucks.

[Brittanyroseee]

If birth control and abortion is banned, unwanted babies will be born left and right, getting abandoned. The infantacide rate will skyrocket due to not having any access to prevention. You sound extremely stupid brother. Just stop. Not everyone needs to procreate. Many people have kids and are horrible parents..

[AmeerX]

It's already infanticide when you abort a fetus. Only reason someone should be alright with abortion is when the fetus has genuine birth defects.

You are not a believer in God aren't you?
Do you not understand that He gives kids to whoever he pleases? It's not for you to decide. If someone doesn't want kids they should just go and not have sex.
Why do you hate your own kind so much? You were once a kid too. If you parents had used a condom that night you wouldn't be alive today.
You always speak of economy but you forget something, South Asia alone supports more people than all of the world combined.
India, China, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Nepal, Bhutan combine have just 10% of the world mass but they have 56% of the worlds population. If people thought like you then they would have lost themselves in the process.

You are the same type of person who hates immigrants too for coming to your pristine nations. You are the stupid one who thinks with less people it is easy to give them education and food and with more people it's not. Look, food supply in the world is far abundant. Just some people like you have been fooled by the devil that children are a burden and they don't deserve to come.

[AmeerX]

And this is why you need a husband and a wife back to the traditional roles. When men work, they don't complain about poverty as much as women when they work. Working women feel they are doing so much and finances are high. How about stop flaunting about your wealth and phones and cars and expensive dresses and get back to simple living. A person in today's world can have 20 children if they earn like today and had standard of living like in the 1960s. Stop expecting that everyone needs to go buy a new house, stop thinking like you need a PhD before having children, stop thinking you need new branded clothes every fucking week otherwise you cannot breathe. Trim down on the unnecessary things and then and only then you will be out of this mindset that children in this economy are bad.

You should be welcoming to children. It's because of women like you in my country too that they are single and have lousy attitude in a lot of cases.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay so u think women should be sex slaves and js used for births? is that what ur saying? god i hate men

[AmeerX]

@chocolatetwopointo you think having children makes you a sex slave. No it doesn't and you should take care of your body and don't bother me.

You were so blind you didn't want to read I wrote men and women both. I didn't single out women.
And people who care about their money can eat it in hell. Use it to pay for sex and get out of my sight

[chocolatetwopointo]

you said we should have trad lifestyle back, thats basically what women were back then. why would i pay for sex? im not that desperate unlike men💀

[AmeerX]

What's wrong with a man wanting to take care of his family? A wife will already be at home cooking and taking care of the home so why would I want to throw my wife in the cold world? This is wrong if you think all women were Slaves to their men.

By the way, you will grow up and understand. No need to just accuse people

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc they literally were?💀 unless it was by choice which it usually wasn't bc women couldnt even get a job back then and men would look down on them. ur wife would be a grown woman, work is not that hard if she likes what she works at, but if she wants to be a housewife thats HER call not yours. grow up and understand what exactly?

[AmeerX]

No, you need to grow up because you are 19 years old and you think you know better than others.
If a woman is going to think like she is enslaving herself in marriage then she is wrong same as you.
No one is forcing anyone here. Aren't girls like you the one crying they need a 6 figures salary guy? What's the point of that if you want to keep working for a boss but not work for your family?
Gosh, you don't want to hear it but do you even know how to love someone

[chocolatetwopointo]

i do tho💀 and im saying women who put themselves in situations like that and have no backup plans are now basically slaves for their man, im not gna get married by the way, and why would i want a man to buy me shit when i can do it myself? not every woman is the same as ur ex bro. not everyone wants or needs love in their life yk, like me

[AmeerX]

Get out of here and grow up. You will get your answers later in life when you learn the meaning of love and affection in your heart.

[chocolatetwopointo]

im fine thanks

[HungTexan]

While it’s a wonderful thing, not every woman wants kids. Her choice! She’s not wasting her time - it’s her life.

[RavVid]

Women who do, seem to think it was the best thing they did. I can't give an opinion in general.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

No. Everyone's life, even men, are important. With or without kids.

[RedThread]

lol no. I hate the idea that it's somehow selfish or wrong to choose not to have children. It's YOUR life to live. It's better to remain childless than have a kid you never wanted.

[mstbooblover]

There are many different ways to lead a satisfying life. N

[mstbooblover]

Nature has determined women the ability to give birth. Does this make it an obligation? I don't think so, considering humanity is proliferating at an alarming high rate. There many different ways to lead a satisfying and useful life, and it's only up to involved women to decide what to do with their life. Some succeed nevertheless to have at the same time a career and a family, but at what price?

[Smashingdoozy]

No. Having kids is a choice not a necessity

[schoolgirlskirtcaley]

Not in the least. She has her reasons for not wanting a child. Again.. the right to choose.

[ohsheeT]

That's not for me to judge I'm sure there's a reason and that's her reason that's all it counts

[strateguy632]

Woke of the day award. 🏅 you have no opinion.

[ohsheeT]

It's not my business

that only has to do with her and all her reasonings behind what she feels

[dragoblack]

Nope. A womans worth should never be judged by her ability to bair children. A womans worth is based on her moral & intellectual character

[SmileyLady]

No, I don’t want kids. I used to think women were wasting their lives by not having kids. However, I still don’t think women having families are wasting their lives.

[CB-Raido-Time]

don't know about if it's wasting her life or not but children are a must so she sure would be wasting mine.

[chocolatetwopointo]

why?

[Brittanyroseee]

Children are not a must🤣what the fuck

[Brittanyroseee]

That is insane thinking

[Brittanyroseee]

Its a choice lol

[Mac-One]

The way the world is today I can understand anybody not wanting to have kids.

[Radiate143]

There are people with kids who waste their life. If she is content then it isn't a waste.

[Anonymous]

I think she is missing out on a significant aspect of her potential but that is not too easy she cannot enjoy other aspects and not every woman excels with the child experience anyway.

[Anonymous]

What about women who can't have kids? Seriously, this question is insensitive and ignorant.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what?

[Opinion Owner]

There are women in this world who can't have kids due to not being able to get pregnant. Please, before you post such an insensitive question, think first.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes ik? whats that got to do with them? adoption and surrogacy r options, how is it inconsiderate? ur 100% one of those women i bet

[Brittanyroseee]

@Chocolatetwopointo dude🤣i hate when people say that shit. Like when you tell them “oh i don’t want kids” and they get offended and say “there are women who are dying to have a baby” its like? Ok?

[Opinion Owner]

You're so insensitive, and I'm reporting you for being rude.

[Brittanyroseee]

Go report me i don’t give a flying fuck🤣snowflake

[Brittanyroseee]

Its not being insensitive bitch

[Brittanyroseee]

Womp womp

[Brittanyroseee]

“yOu ArE RUdE” 🤣grow tf up i was never rude. Its the truth. Someone not wanting to have a pet sperm doesn’t affect someone who is infertile. You are dense af

[chocolatetwopointo]

how is this insensitive or rude? its not my fucking problem ur infertile? not everything is or will be about you all the fucking time, gosh

[Iron_Man]

You are here to breed to have a kid that looks exactly like you

[chocolatetwopointo]

what if im ugly, should i still have a kid?

[Iron_Man]

All you do is talk about you being ugly

[chocolatetwopointo]

answer the question

[Iron_Man]

Never mind you’re too irritable. All you talk about is your face being ugly every single day

[chocolatetwopointo]

can't even answer smh

[Iron_Man]

Most women should have kids

[chocolatetwopointo]

why?

[Iron_Man]

Keep the human race going

[chocolatetwopointo]

we’re alr overpopulated and i doubt a few people not wanting kids won't make us go extinct

[Iron_Man]

Please be positive. You’re too young to be so negative.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what? if somebody forced me to have a kid that kid would grow up in a horrible home

[Iron_Man]

Why?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc id be a horrible mom, id be selfish, and i wanna b a lawyer so i would have to work a lot and i like being alone so the time im not working id like to be alone, most kids r clingy to their mom

[Iron_Man]

you’re young yet you’ll change your mind

[chocolatetwopointo]

i won't tho, im 19 im old enough to know what i want, not everyone wants to end up miserable

[chocolatetwopointo]

and i js told u id be a terrible mom, r u ok in the head? thats not smth u can change, if u hate kids u hate kids

[Iron_Man]

Are you in school yet preparing to be a lawyer

[chocolatetwopointo]

nah but im about to be, why?

[Iron_Man]

Look in the mirror and ask yourself are you OK in the head after all your negative messages that you put on here

[chocolatetwopointo]

what negative messages?

[Iron_Man]

In the questions

[chocolatetwopointo]

like what? give me an example, and pls see the difference in negativity and realisticly

[Iron_Man]

You seem like a very selfish person in this question and you’re always cutting yourself down. Maybe you should try professional counseling.

[chocolatetwopointo]

why would i? how am i cutting myself down exactly?

[Iron_Man]

you’re always saying that you’re ugly you’re horrible. I don’t know if if you want attention or sympathy what you’re doing

[chocolatetwopointo]

im not horrible at everything, js some things👍 and i am actually ugly, its common

[Stu234432]

Of course not. Lol. Don't listen to the hellfire and brimstone assholes.

[Ladsin2]

Do you think most women find fulfillment in child rearing?

[Jackblue]

Nope, there are many ways to live a fulfilling life.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

No, kids aren't the be all end all to this life.

I'm a dude, and I don't want kids

[gatixek710]

Yes. Getting married, raising children is the pinnacle of the human experience.

[Brittanyroseee]

Getting married without the crotch goblins 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[Brittanyroseee]

Not everyone who has children are good parents. Not everyone should have kids. People who don’t want them shouldn’t have them:)

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee children are a blessing from God. Period.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 for you maybe. Not for me. And not everyone believes in god even though i am coptic. However god did mention in the bible that not all women are destined to be mothers:) so god understands:) you don’t however

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 I personally prefer animals, and pets. I have absolutely no desire for children. I have no patience for them and i definitely would get overstimulated, and i have a temper. Not for me!:) but i would love to one day get married! 😄

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not everyone should have kids. There are plenty of bad parents out there. Many people have kids and neglect, or abuse them its sad! Better to be aware of yourself of what YOU want, and what you can mentally handle instead of giving into society and having kids then realizing it is too much. Just facts. Too many irresponsible people have kids. Too many immature people have children.. narcissists have kids too which produces MORE narcissistic people. Not everyone needs to have kids haha. Just honesty!

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 drug addicts have kids too and choose drugs over their child🤣drunks have kids and beat em every night…… yeah… kids are such a blessing to everyone and everyone should have kids no matter the circumstances!!!🤣

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 or what about some of those women who birth babies and then shortly kill them after birth because they couldn’t get access to abortion?

[Brittanyroseee]

Im just being honest my guy and im not even a liberal.

[Brittanyroseee]

I hate liberals if anything but children are a choice at the end of the day and not everyone should be reproducing…..

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee They are period. What they are is not conditional.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 nah they aren’t a blessing to everyone. Not everyone likes kids and many people do have kids and see them as burdens

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not everyone should have kids:) I explained why:) thanks!

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee How people see them doesn't change what they are. Passing on your genes is literally the only reason you're put on this planet.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 we are past our primitive days. Its 2024. Not everyone needs to breed. Do you want irresponsible people having kids? Do you want me to have a child and potentially neglect it because i am not mentally capable of handling a child? Do you want kids to be abused and born to people who weren’t sure about them?

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 well sir not all genes should be passed down🤣thats how mental illness gets passed on, and cancer and health issues! Not everyone needs to breed bro. Relax!!!

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 imagine the child comes out severely disabled and i have to be a caretaker for life. Yeah lets just pass down genes 🤣

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee You're the one having a fit when I'm stating simple facts.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 im not fit to be a mother.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 you aren’t speaking facts at all. You just have a weird breeding mentality. Again not everyone should have kids!!!

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not everyone should have kids

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not all genes should be passed down

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixen710 i am not mentally capable to handle a child. Therefore i shouldn’t breed and reproduce.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not everyone should have kids.

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee yeah, we can tell. None of that invalidates what I typed.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 it does because you are saying everyone should have kids. No they don’t. Many people have kids and abuse them

[Brittanyroseee]

Not all genes should be passed down

[Brittanyroseee]

Im just saying the truth. You just go by biology. Its more than that.

[Brittanyroseee]

You have to desire kids to have them..

[Brittanyroseee]

Many people have kids and are terrible parents so not everyone should be breeding that is my point bruh and it flies over your damn fucking head each time.

[Brittanyroseee]

Too many people have kids and abuse them. Its facts.

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee neither thing you just typed is true.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek719 so its untrue that people have kids and don’t abuse them?

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 are you stupid?

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 are you actually like stupid? Many people have kids and abuse them. Many people have kids and are bad parents. How are you going to deny such a thing? Wow bro. You truly are a fucking retard. Pathetic

[Brittanyroseee]

Many people have kids and neglect or abuse them. I don't know how you can deny that. That is sad

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 many people are married and have kids and are miserable in their marriage. Its not always going to be sunshine and rainbows

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 divorce happens. I don’t want the baggage of a child if the dad left me.

[Brittanyroseee]

@Chocolatetwopointo look at this guy. He doesn’t believe that there are people who abuse their kids. He denied it. He doesn’t believe that not everyone is a good parent. He said its not true lol

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 i cannot believe you would deny that there are parents out there who abuse their kids🤣i can’t believe you denied that irresponsible, bad parents also have kids.

[Brittanyroseee]

That’s pathetic as fuck that you could deny such a thing… sad look at all the abandoned kids in foster care and all the kids that get abused by their parents.

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee children are a gift from God. The best thing humans can do is make more humans.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 no. They aren’t a gift from god for everyone. Not everyone thinks they are. You can’t really say that.
Also not everyone believes in god, and im a christian. You can’t impose biblical views on everyone and expect everyone to follow…. Thats not.. how life works.
Not everyone should procreate. Many people have kids and are terrible parents. I stated that many times, why don’t you get that? Not everyone who has a child, is a good parent. Many irresponsible, immature people are having children.
There are people who have kids, and either abuse them, or neglect them.
Drug addicts also have kids and choose drugs over their own child… do you think they really think they see their child as a blessing from god?
Or what about the alcoholics that have kids and beat them every night while drunk screaming “YOU RUINED MY LIFE” huh? Or what about the pedophiles that have kids and sexually abuse them? You don’t think these things happen everyday?
Or the parents that sex traffic their own kids for money…..
You have to be kidding me if you think everyone believes children are a “blessing” and you gotta be dense to think kids aren’t abused everyday by their parents.

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee They are a gift from God. That is a fact.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 not for everyone. Not everyone will think that and not everyone believes in god, and im a christian. Im repeating myself

[Brittanyroseee]

You think they are a blessing. If i ever got pregnant, I wouldn’t see it as a “blessing to happen” i would freak the fuck out and have an abortion. Just being honest.

[Brittanyroseee]

A child would overstimulate me and i would probably lose my patience and temper. I wouldn’t personally necessarily see it as a blessing for myself. I would see it as a chore.

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee Just because you suck as a person doesn’t mean children do.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 many people have kids and are horrendous parents. Go bash on the irresponsible people having kids

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 i am an amazing person. Just because i don’t want the responsibility of another human being doesn’t mean i suck. Kids are a lot of work. A huge responsibility and 90% of the responsibility falls onto the woman. I don’t want to be constrained and tied down to someone else. I also value my money too, kids are hella expensive and this economy sucks. So i care more about financial stability than anything else.

[Brittanyroseee]

I also don’t want to be pregnant nor give birth. Im terrified of that. A baby isn’t worth sacrificing my body.

[Brittanyroseee]

Im not motherly as simple as that. I will put it that way.

[Brittanyroseee]

Again i just have no patience for those kinds of things and i prefer my own company and not having someone glued at my hip ya know

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee yeah, because you’re mentally ill.

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 did you know that mentally ill people have kids?

[Brittanyroseee]

@gatixek710 im not mentally ill for not wanting kids. I just am not motherly enough and i literally have no desire nor interest so therefore i wouldn’t sacrifice my body nor dedicate my entire life. Does that make sense? Kids are also a personal choice not a must at the end of the day. Not everyone needs to procreate like i said. Many immature people have kids. Why do i have to keep saying this? Many bad people have kids too.

[Brittanyroseee]

I would love to get married one day without the responsibility and constraints of a child. Simple as that. Cuz at the end of the day i have to be pregnant for 9 months, sacrifice my body for it, and give birth which has a risk of death.
90% of the responsibility and duties of the baby falls on the mother. I would have to stay home and be with the baby 24/7. I hate that idea! I also have no patience for noise, i don’t want to clean up after others. I don’t want to be on my feet constantly doing house chores. I don’t want to be the one to bathe, feed, dress, clean, take care of the baby/child. I don’t want to have to drag it everywhere i go. Kids have tantrums and i would be so embarrassed in public. They are messy. They constantly touch you and touch stuff. I don’t want to change diapers that’s disgusting! I love sleeping and wouldn’t want to get up throughout the night for a crying baby. They are expensive. They cost money. I hate spending money unless extremely necessary or its an emergency or, its my RENT.
I like being able to leave my house whenever i want without worrying about what i will do about my kid and having to take it with me.
I have a short fuse (temper), i lack patience and get annoyed very easily.
When you have kids nothing else matters but them including your own mental health and for the love of god i could never prioritize someone else over my own health that is just complete insanity.
What if the child is born with a disability i don’t want to be a caretaker especially if its severe.
I don’t want the burden of a kid if my husband/baby daddy ever left me. I don’t want that type of baggage. I would feel held down and kids also a life tie to someone else. I like cutting people off.
Im lazy. I would rather lay on the couch watching tv than having to take care of a baby while my husband works.
I like working and making money.
Hmm should i keep going on or are you gonna keep saying how “doesnt matter still have kids”?

[gatixek710]

@Brittanyroseee Your psychosis does’t mean children aren’t a blessing from God.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

no, I think we are past the primitive image of only existing to reproduce

[Staximus]

No, she's only wasting her life if she's doing nothing with it

[Shy_Steve]

I think a lot of People are wasting their life sadly.

[In_Trance]

That depends on what she's doing with her life in lieu of having children.

[Shamalien]

The portion of her life that continues to live after she dies, yes, but otherwise, no.

[Mynameistommy]

Absolutely not. I don’t want kids. I think in this weird day and age it’s completely ok not to want kids.

[straightmax12]

No. Having kids or not is a choice. I doesn't mean your life is being wasted.

[Unit1]

Absolutely not

[Avicenna]

It’s her life, that’s for her to decide.

[Ironic_Method]

Nah. Life isn't about having children.

[Brittanyroseee]

Exactly!!!

[Brittanyroseee]

Life is what YOU make of it!

[Brittanyroseee]

Not everyone even likes kids!!!

[shortster]

Yes, the same for guys that don't have kids.

[Agape93]

Nope

[Ladsin2]

A bit surprised by your answer.
Do you think most women find fulfillment in child rearing?

[Agape93]

Why is that surprising coming from me of all people? Sure majority do, but not all of us, and not having them regardless isn't a wasted life

[Ladsin2]

I interpret the question as having a bit of subtext to it. If a woman is infertile and can't have children then obviously her life isn't wasted. I figured the question to be more about whether or not a woman can have a fulfilling life without children and everyone knows most women get their sense of fulfillment from their familial relations, particularly children. If that's the case it makes sense to hedge your bets a little and say "not all women".

[jahaims]

Nope

[Toxic_Skyler]

No to each their own

[beefcakebradybatson]

No, if she's following her dreams.