Do you think your life is a waste without kids?

Question

Without kids I feel you have no legacy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Impotent or having performance issues or emotionalproblem due to the break up of a past relationship. I had performance anxiety a while back and it's a negative loop of not being able to perform because you are anxious about performing and being anxious because you can perform. It becomes all you think about and very depressing. With my girlfriend when I first met her even with viagra I struggled to get fully erect. Even masturbating by myself I could orgasm but my penis was flaccid. My girlfriend is gorgeous, she's 5ft2, redhair, 34F boobs l, gorgeous round behind, thick hips and very pretty with pale skin and dresses in moderate clothes but like a sexy librarian with glasses.

Anyway she was very patient but one night and my place after trying and failing and the viagra doing nothing yet again after a night of making out and me trying to pleasure her but she wasn't into it we fell asleep naked and for the first time she stayed the night. We cuddled up naked under the covers we both awoke to find that not only was I erect but I was inside her thrusting, I came fairly quickly. This is how I was finally able to get my erection back and we must have banged three times that night/morning. I still take viagra every so often though I don't need it anymore, I find the effects last a week or more.

If he's reluctant to make the first move I suggest you do. Just take your tits out and see how he responds. A few women I dated in the past did exactly this

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Sorta... for me it's really a question of feeling like I was relevant in life in the moment. When I mis an opportunity to make a positive outcome in others lives, I feel regret. To me, it's about eternity. Living for Christ feels good, that is helping out another spiritually and giving salvation out of this world as well as help in the moment. I gravitate to those whom are down, like I want to give them a boost in life, spread some joy wherever I am.

Kids I think are a place to focus ones energy and pass on life. important, maybe not essential. I have none of my own but step kids, but there is that void.

Brittanyroseee · Accepted Answer

What legacy? Im not royal blood. You can leave a legacy without reproducing. Not everyone should have kids anyway. Plus this economy and how this world is going is just not good… im also far from being “maternal”. I have no patience and I wouldn’t want to be around a baby or child 24/7 cleaning up after them, dragging them with me everywhere, etc. I also value my money and my sleep and I enjoy being free to leave my house whenever i want without having to schedule my life around for someone else or let alone drag them with me and then they have a tantrum in public. Also kids are a lifelong tie to the baby daddy. No thanks.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I think that life without kids is a blessing.

No new generation to pollute our planet. Give the Earth the break it deserves from humanity and let it regenerate without the destruction potential of us human beings.

Since we have populated this planet, we have incessantly started destroying it. It is about time that humanity declined and gave the Earth a chance to regenerate, to give all those animals we have brought to the brink of extinction a chance to take our place.

Humans are destructive by nature like no other animal and it is about time to stop that.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yess that's why I have kids. I see it as a essential part of life. I understand everyone is different but it's natural to have the drive to have kids. People who don't want kids probably have a few screws loose. Usually trauma from their own childhood or other issues. I won't judge them tho

Crimsyjo · Answer

That's a good question and a lot of people get a biological drive to have kids. Is that purely the body trying to pass on its dna?

I didn't really want kids for a long time but life with my husband started feeling empty despite having income and frequent travelling for pleasure. That's when I said hey let's have a baby 🙄

But I 100% don't think life is wasted without kids. I knew this most fantastic old lady in the care home who died recently. She was amazing. Full of wisdom and life and cheek and she had a wonderful adventurous life. Never married or had kids but she had a huge network of friends and she acted like a 2nd mum to her sisters children.

She was over ten years living in the care home due to physical disabilities an age. Bit she touched SO many lives Including mine. Her legacy lives on in me and the other people she helped raise up with her fight and spirits.

Bless her soul.

Tamera952 · Answer

Are you outta your mind? Since when did a ‘wasted life’ = not having a ‘legacy’ (whatever that means) & since when did ‘legacy’ = kids? — you could leave a ‘legacy’ in a million lasting ways, or impact society (on a small scale or a large scale) while you’re here, without involving your offspring, or in ways that don’t involve your mutant spawn.

And talk about a weird burden you thrust upon your kids! Who’s to say your kids don’t exactly turn out the way you ‘intended’ or fuck it up entirely, or reject the imposition, OR obliterate your ‘legacy’ replacing it with one of disrepute or scandal?
There’s no inherit value is procreating, just cause you can. One could make the case that you’re selfish & hogging up valuable resources, adding to an overburdened system, by having kids. Plus, not everyone SHOULD, or CAN have kids.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes! We had a really really fun family gathering this past weekend! The best of course my almost 2 and half yr old nephew.!! He was the life of the party.
my 2 teens are older now and their cousins are all teens. The little guy being so cute… when we were talking about moon cakes…he picked up the two bags full and was running out the door to leave lol… the said he will drive…smh!! Kids!! Love them!
my life would be okay without… but as you can see they bring sooooo much more life/fun!

abc3643 · Answer

WITH kids, your life is a waste!

Why?

Because you are not living your life but wasting the best decades of your life as a slave to keeping other humans alive.

The happiest people are:

1. Childless

2. Unmarried

Ask yourself this:
Q: When was I really the happiest?
A: When I was a teenager.
Q: Why?
A: Because:
1) I was mentally almost an adult; still inexperienced and immature, but, for the most part, I had my shit together.
2) I had dreams.
3) I had my health.
4) I did not have any real responsibilities.
5) I did not have any real debts.
6) I had freedom. Yes, I lived at home and was a dependent on my family, but I had some privacy and freedom which disappeared once I had a family of my own.

So, what two critical attributes can you ascribe to teenagers, the happiest people on Earth?

1. They're childless.

2. They're unmarried.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, it's certainly not been a waste but, I SURE WOULD like to have kids!! At this point, the best I can do is adopt. I might, still, if I ever get the money to but, it just wouldn't be the same as having my own kids and bloodline. I'm the last in our family that can continue the family name, now! But, it's looking very much like the name (in this branch of the family tree) dies with me! All we've got left is a cousin in Texas and a 2nd cousin in Missouri. Billy doesn't want kids and, it doesn't look like I'm gonna have any! I think Jake has one or two and Mark has a few kids but, I think they might all be girls. Now that I think of it, another 2nd cousin has kids but, I think they're all girls and another 2nd cousin MIGHT have a couple boys! But, as I said, none of those are my particular branch. My brother killed himself a decade ago so, that leaves me!

Anonymous · Answer

Kids are an absolute detriment and a nuisance. I’ve babysit once in my life.

Thats all it took for me to decide no kids.

Its why I’m selling my eggs. F—k those shits. Then I’ll have my tubes tied.
I’ll raise dogs and cats and horses. And have husband with the same mindset of not having kids.

I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND BABIES AND CHILDREN. STAND THEM!

When moms bring their newborn brat on an airplane and that sh*t starts crying. ….

OMG. I’d just wish the airplane would …

💥 Nevr mind. Babies and children stress me tf out severely.

Anonymous · Answer

And what exactly is that "legacy" worth?

Do you genetically come from people of greatness? Did your genetics in any way change the world? Past or present? Has your family tree invented substantial things? Have they cured diseases?

What's an obsession over a family name and continuing this big "legacy" if that family name only exists and hasn't contributed shit into this world?

Because genetically, your kids will probably just continue to only exist.

It's ok to have a normal family but let's not delude ourselves into thinking it's some great "legacy".

You are a normal person, you come from normal people.

Your offspring will pretty much just be normal and average in the grand scheme of things.

Anonymous · Answer

I have always aspired to have a family, but I learned that what tends to come with that, to get to that point, you have manipulative, interpersonal relationship dynamics to manage and contend with, in order to even sustain having a partner, and I just can’t deal with that crap.

Like if you want to be with me, just be with me and be happy. It should come organically… you should be a pleasant person to be around and deal with your problems and feelings internally… not feeling like you have to constantly gaslight each other to “maintain” an “interesting” relationship.

In short, people need to come correct, and most people don’t have a concept to what that even means. And when they do, it’s way too late in life. It’s why I’ve always gotten along with older people, but I don’t want to date older women. You see?

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Of course not! There's still many ways you can give back & leave ur mark on the world without having kids.

& even besides that, life by itself is an amazing thing! Just living your own life, even if u don't leave a legacy or make any big difference in the world, it is valuable to be alive and to experience life. To do what you love & learn & grow & then eventually you die& return to dust. That's still a life worth living & can be very beautiful.

exitseven · Answer

I suppose it is true however having kids basically occupied my whole life for the last 30 years. I really did not do much besides raised 3 kids and got them through college. If I did not have them maybe I would have accomplished something else.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Legacy only matters for someone valuing legacy, additionally, a hard focus on the concept of legacy  might lead you to deny identity of your kid . We've done that since thousands of years already, it's not really a moral accomplishment I think lol.  More like generating a lot of bots and copies of the same source.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Without them I really feel I have no need to be here, there is always someone who could replace me at work or just in general. I could die tomorrow and nothing would change or matter lol. At least I would be important to my kids and I would raise them to be excellent people who could accomplish a lot and go far in life.

DJB72 · Answer

If you're building your purpose in your life, do it where you can't be replaced within 48hours of your death by someone equally competent with more vision.

Elon Musk will, eventually, die. His media and business empire will be divided up and within two years he'll be a footnote in business manuals. Ok, maybe a chapter.

But his kids have the opportunity to build on what he's done and go beyond it in a way no employer ever could.

Unit1 · Answer

Nah, I'd love a life full of love, sex and money and no kiddos. Being a kid was nothing but misery to me and I will not reiterate misery once more.

Anonymous · Answer

You can leave a legacy in other ways, maybe by teaching nieces and nephews what you would teach your own kids. Or working with children in one way or other (such as volunteering with Boys and Girls Club). You can create a company that employs hundreds of people and pays them well, or you could be an author or a musician. There are many ways to leave a legacy that don't require you to have kids of your own.

DrPepper12 · Answer

You couldn't be more wrong says this father. You don't need kids for a fulfilling life!! Do you know who the happiest people on earth are? GAY COUPLES!! Why? Only accountable to each other and ALL that disposable income and no kids!! You do not need kids!!!

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Of course not! If I happen to have babies in the future, great. If none.. that's fine as well. And what exactly is this "legacy" are we talking about? As if I'm a Rothschild to think about legacy.. 😆

Anonymous · Answer

Two kids, entering adulthood.
They are not fully baked yet but I expect they will continue to provide colour and interest in my life as we edge closer to retirement and their lives broaden.
Raising them has provided a lot of new experience, new challenges, and an opportunity to revisit childhood themes.
A life without kids is not necessarily wasteful but it is not a rich as it might otherwise be.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, there is more to life than having kids. If you haven't found that, you are failing.

Lliam · Answer

It's up to the individual.  I never wanted the responsibility of being tied down with kids. My wife and I are child free and have agreed that we are glad.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Well, having kids isn't for everyone. I have never fathered children because I didn't think that raising kids was for me.

ManInChains · Answer

Personally not really, no. In order to have kids you have to have sex with a female and I reject intercourse

Redstang88 · Answer

Why do I give a shit about my “legacy” if I’m dead anyway? All our lives are completely irrelevant in the big picture whether we have kids or not, so might as well have fun with it

art84 · Answer

I don't think it's a waste, I have two nieces and nephews so that's good enough. Never wanted children in my 20's and after I hit 30, I just settled for not having children. Not worries at all in my life.

77five · Answer

What legacy? Holy shit i do not give a F*** about a so called “legacy”😂 Im not royalty like wtf.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Your legacy is your own life. When you have kids, their life is THEIR legacy, not yours. I don't want any kids, the stress from it would shorten my own legacy.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

I chose yes because I always wanted children of my own biological wasn't a requirement and life to me is a waste of time without having children. However it's not a waste of time if you serve God.

RebelinSteel · Answer

No not at all, the global population is crazy.

AGAM1 · Answer

No a waste but kids when you’re married and have the appropriate family, give such a higher level of joy.

zagor · Answer

So what if you have kids and then they don't have any? Yeah, same result. And someday the sun will destroy the earth, if we don't do it first.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Kids would be nice, but I don't think kids are the only way to have a legacy.

bolverk · Answer

I would have liked to be married and have children, but I'm single and have invested a lot in my nieces and nephews.

OtterMan68 · Answer

George Washington had no biological children

elaphe · Answer

As a teacher or a doctor, for example, you can still leave a legacy in education or health.

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn't say that. I have kids and I love them, but life can be pretty great without them too.

noohair · Answer

If you don't produce good citizens, they will import bad ones.

Stavoula82 · Answer

No cause we’re much more then ability to reproduce. And if I wanted kids I’d adopt.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

LOL... FUCK NO. DON'T HAVE KIDS IT'LL RUIN YOUR LIFE. SERIOUSLY.

Anonymous · Answer

I think my life with kids would be a waste.

katiesmuff · Answer

Not a waste, but surely a lot less interesting!

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Wasn't meant to be. 🚫

Tim2nice · Answer

No. Life without children would be heaven

Anonymous · Answer

You've wasted yours being a clown.

Dongie · Answer

Nah, I can't. I have none and that's fine.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Life is a waste if one wastes it.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

I am a kid myself

Eleni06 · Answer

Of course not life waste when you waste it.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Legacy? Who gives a shit about legacy?

paledreams · Answer

Disagree lol 😆😅

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, probably.

jahaims · Answer

Nope.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Nah.

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