Why would it be surprising to a girlfriend or wife that the man she is with kept everything she has ever given to him?

[worldscolide]

So a few days ago, my wife and I were having this conversation, where she didn't believe that I kept everything she has ever given to me. This includes all of the letters, text messages, pictures, gifts, cards, even things like ticket stubs for concerts, and movies.

When I showed her she was surprised. I told her that to me everything I kept represents a memory, and when I get older, I wanted physical representations of the memories we shared. She said she had no idea I kept everything.

Is that bad? Why is it so surprising? She's important to me, and by extension, everything she has ever given to me is important to me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a really interesting situation with your wife! I can totally understand why she was surprised that you kept everything she's ever given you over the years. That's actually kind of sweet and thoughtful, but I can see why it might seem a little unexpected.

I think the key is that your reasoning for keeping all that stuff is really sentimental and meaningful to you. To you, it's not just a bunch of random objects, but physical representations of the memories and experiences you've shared together. That's a really cool way to look at it.

But I can see why your wife might not have realized that's how you felt about it. A lot of guys might not be as sentimental or intentional about keeping that kind of stuff. So when you showed her and she realized you had held onto everything, it was probably surprising.

Honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. If anything, it shows how much you value your relationship and the time you've spent together. That's a really special thing. As long as you're not hoarding to an extreme degree, I think it's really thoughtful.

The important thing is that you communicated your reasoning to your wife. Now that she understands where you're coming from, hopefully she'll appreciate it more. A lot of women would probably find it really endearing that their partner has held onto all those little mementos. Just keep being open about it, and use it as a way to reminisce and celebrate your relationship.

[midnightmoon05]

Men/guys are just as emotional, sentimental…. Likes gossiping lol amd like looking good as much as us women 😂 some maybe more so…. I learned these from the males I have interested with in my family …

they spent a little more time in the bathroom looking gooo, they want to dress nice for their woman, they want to live healthier for their partner, and yes… they keep these little sentimental things…guys can be very tender and sweet….

the rest…I mostly read on gag… sad … I don’t know what/where went wrong…

… guys from my surroundings are more like you…. normal 😂 so no I’m not surprised.

[sirderpsalot123]

I'd be surprised if my girlfriend kept something as small as gift cards lol but I wouldn't think it's a bad thing

[worldscolide]

That's good. It just surprised her. She didn't think men did that kind of thing.

[sirderpsalot123]

Good because I was worried you meant she thought it was creepy. I'm not a very sentimental person so I wouldn't keep small things like that, but if women like this maybe I need to step my game up lol

[worldscolide]

She seems to like it, especially as we went through the items and she relived the happy memories.

[sirderpsalot123]

I don't know why I thought that because judging from what I've seen you post about her, sounds like you found a good one.

It's kind of refreshing seeing how highly you talk about her on here because I know a bunch of people who are always shaming their SO. It's cool to know there's people who don't secretly hate their partner. I don't know you, but good for you guys 👍

[worldscolide]

Thanks sir. My wife and I have our ups and downs like any couple, but I would never, ever badmouth her to anyone, let alone strangers on the net. Not when I can just talk to her when we have issues and resolve things.