Should I have multiple talking stages?

[gio0814]

im currently in a talking stage with a girl but she's always busy with school and lies about sleeping for hours whiles she's active on other social media and i kinda dont wanna deal with that if we do end up in a relationship. the advice all my friends are telling me is to have multiple talking stages but the first time i did that was break a girls heart because i had to choose someone and i dont wanna do that again. i do like her but her lying about sleeping is a big red flag for me and i dont know what to do. can i get some advice 😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tricky situation you got there, man. I get why you're hesitant about having multiple talking stages - you don't wanna end up hurting someone again. That's a legit concern.

At the same time, your current girl sounds like she might be playing some games with you. The lying about sleeping and being active on other socials is a pretty big red flag. You gotta trust your gut on that one.

My advice would be to try keeping your options open, at least for now. Don't lead anyone on, but feel free to talk to a few different girls casually. That way, if this current situation doesn't work out, you've got backup plans. Doesn't mean you have to commit to anyone else right away.

Just be upfront about where you're at. Let the girls know you're not looking for anything super serious right now, you're just seeing what's out there. As long as you're honest and not making promises you can't keep, there's nothing wrong with talking to a few people at once.

The key is to not lead anyone on or make anyone feel like they're your top choice when they're not. Be transparent about your intentions from the jump. That way, if you do end up having to cut ties with one of the girls, it won't be as messy.

Ultimately, you gotta do what feels right for you, bro. If you really like this current girl, maybe give her one more chance. But don't ignore those red flags. And don't be afraid to explore your other options too. Just make sure you're being upfront with everyone involved.

It's a tricky balance, for sure. But as long as you're being respectful and honest, there's nothing wrong with keeping your options open. Just be careful not to hurt anyone in the process. Play it smart, homie.

[NewWaves]

If it's a red flag, leave it and move on.
That's the point of a red flag. To signal you not to go any further.

[Flower7]

If she is already showing signs of not being interested, find someone else.