How long should the “talking” stage last?

[Someone_w_a_phone_22]

I met this guy about two weeks ago, we kissed on the first night we met and decided to get to know each other, we been talking since that night every day, he introduced me to his friends and family invited me out and I’m really enjoying it but I’m also nervous that he is not looking for anything (I also told him one night we were hanging out that I wasn’t looking for a hook up and he said to not worry about it) anyways, I know it’s a little to soon for me to expect him to ask but again, I’m nervous that he’s just passing the time with me and isn’t looking to actually have something

[ThinkFitness23]

The talking stage should never end.


Your quite vague but I think what your asking to put it blunt is when should sex materialise…


The answer is when your comfortable/confident that you have found someone who respects you and wants the same. The trouble is many young men will not truly know what they want for months and sometimes years.


Questions for yourself:


Do you want sex with him now?


Are you willing for it to be possibly be just physical?


One thing for sure is that once a man has lost respect for you it’s not coming back, not fully.


I totally see why your asking this question, men talk. The stories I’ve heard at football some would call boy banter but I wouldn’t want anyone talking about my daughter like that.


I’ve also done this in the past and had sex with many that I had no wish to romantically pursue.


This guy seems to like you, 2 weeks in and you’ve met friends and family but take it slow, make yourself be that girl that he tells everyone about for different reasons, compliment him, continue kissing and let him know your looking for courtship.


YOU WANT TO BE COURTED, FOR RIGHT PERSON TO PURSUE YOU ROMANTICALLY.

[RealMarek]

A couple things can help with this. There is a lot of ground between talking and having sex. Can you gradually show more physical affection? Like hold his hand when you’re walking together, touch his knee on occasion when you’re talking (a clear sign of interest in him), maybe escalate to making out. You don’t have to “hook up” or have sex anyway. Also, I think you should have a talk about the status of your relationship. Are you dating? Are you dating exclusively? Talk about intention and make sure you are on the same page before getting more deeply involved.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Give it 6 more weeks be soooo good he can’t say no be soooo sweet and helpful and cute he can’t say no. If after 2 months he’s not committed asking him where he stands give him an ultimatum if he’s the one he’ll committ if not sorry girl he’s not the one

[melanieeeB]

How long it fits for you two and feels comfortable and etc🙏🏼

[Guy13]

Are you going to worry the fun out of it all... He can feel that worry wart vibe. Have fun more and worry less, please...

[Avicenna]

A few weeks max, I would say. Otherwise guys think you aren't really interested and they look elsewhere

[Summeroflove]

Until you’re both ready to make it “official” or become boyfriend and girlfriend

[Jamie05rhs]

If you're just passing the time, then it's not a Talking Stage. "Talking" means actively getting to know the person better so you both can decide if you want to date.

Also, I find it odd that you kissed already. If there's kissing involved, then you're WAY past the Talking Stage! 😅

[slatyb]

What do YOU want? Eventual marriage and children? If so, when? It's perfectly reasonable for you to ask him the same questions. If he doesn't want to talk about it, that's an answer.

[LazerBean]

Until you know how they vote, how many kids they want, and how they think house duties should be split, much money theyre expecting you to make.

[bamesjond0069]

All good things to know. Best to ask that stuff fast to get in the pants. Make it like a quiz and there is a reward for a good grade. Lol

[MountAverage]

You're being very vague. How long before what exactly? And what are you hoping him to ask you?

[pmodern]

Get past a few dates at least! If you still feeling it’s not getting serious after the 5th date, I would have a conversation about what the both of you want.

[RandomGuy1032]

Its going a long way. Knowing how easy you are just makes him feel really secure about investing his time and money in you

[serious_miss419]

Trust your instincts-

[ZenJen444]

You were easy. It's not going anywhere

[Dargil]

3 to 5 dates.

[Anonymous]

No idea!