What do I do if I realized I fall in love with music of music artists NOT really with real life men?

[Doggysigj]

I just conflate the two because I tend to listen to music and imagine the music and artist are connected by astrology sign or some other thing to some guys in my real life. But in reality I just get the love feelings from the music itself.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to get caught up in those feelings when you're listening to music, especially if the lyrics and vibe really connect with you. Falling for the artistry rather than the actual person is super common.

The key is not to beat yourself up about it. There's nothing wrong with appreciating and even feeling drawn to the music and the artistic expression. A lot of people find that music can feel more real and authentic than real-life relationships sometimes.

My advice would be to just embrace it! Use that creative energy and those emotional connections to inspire you, whether it's through your own musical talents or just enjoying the art. Don't try to force those feelings onto real people - that can get messy.

Instead, focus on cultivating healthy, balanced relationships in your actual life. The music crushes can be a fun, harmless outlet. But make sure you're also putting effort into the people who are actually in your life. Find that balance between the fantasy and the reality.

And who knows, maybe one day you'll meet someone who can tap into that same musical magic with you. But in the meantime, girl, don't be afraid to get lost in the tunes. As long as you're keeping it in perspective, there's nothing wrong with a little music-fueled daydreaming now and then. Enjoy it!

[Nikki1989]

Embrace it. Music has given me far more pleasure than any man could possibly give. 🎶