Why do girls bully by pretending to be sorry?

[Anonymous]

One of my co-worker's daughter is currently in 7th grade. She's been having a very hard time and there is a particular girl (along with her 3 friends whom act like silent followers; they're basically guilty of doing nothing) that's been mainly passive aggressive.

Supposedly she apologized slightly over a week ago but just yesterday, she came to her and said she was just pretending all along, that they're not her friends and had a smile on her face when telling her that. Her daughter came back home angry and hurt. She's back to being ostracized again.

What's with the plot of faking an apology for a week, then go back to bullying again. I've heard female bullies are the ones into that plot. Why pretend to be sorry, if you're going to bully again? Needless to say, my co-worker is close to either getting her daughter homeschooled or moving elsewhere. This has been going on for several months and she really thought the girl was sincere with that recently apology but it was a set-up.

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The other girl then told her they were really joking around with her.

[Vesuvius87]

That's because they're cruel, manipulative narcissists that take pleasure in seeing someone suffering. Bullies like that rarely changed. By the time they're 12 and older, they're already experiencing significant changes in personality and traits. Some traits have already formed. You either have empathy or you don't. They just become more subtle as adults.

[Anonymous]

I always tell my daughter if someone hit you once, hit them back twice. It means when someone trying to bully you, let them taste it worse way no matter what.

[Asker]

Her daughter isn't hit at school but ostracized and ridiculed by the girl and her followers who just watched and do nothing. Or as soon as they see her on the hallways, they screamed ''eww'' and run away or walk the other way, leaving her all alone.

[Asker]

Her daughter comes emotionally hurt and doesn't know why she's hated, what she ever did to that girl, etc.

[jahaims]

The way males and females bully is due to evolution. The weaker sex uses mental manipulation more often than physical manipulation to bully.

[Vesuvius87]

yet all bullies have one thing in common; the act of manipulation and the fact that it takes a special personality to really enjoy, get pleasure out of hurting others (a sense of feeling superior when doing that), then coming home from school as if nothing happened and continue doing the next days and so on.