How to stop crushing on women easily?

[Avcfhcic]

I've had a crush on 2 and a thing for 2 other of my colleagues in work, non of which I would say years ago I would've found attractive, but now I do?
I made it awkward with 1 before because I tried to act on it, but not the rest. And I don't want that to happen

[NathanDavis]

how... and why are you crushing on women so easily?

idealization?

[Avcfhcic]

How - no idea, just catching feelings.
Why - probably because I'm a loser in regards to women, never had a girlfriend or a date. Desperation maybe?

[NathanDavis]

a crush is infatuation... not feelings

have you considered or tried therapy before

[HelpfulGirlll]

Focus on building genuine platonic friendships instead of romantic pursuits.

[Avcfhcic]

But I want romance in my life, but I don't want my desperation to ruin my work life

[Anonymous]

I know the feeling, when I see a girl I like, I'm completely overwhelmed.

[RedInnocent69]

Why would you want to stop? They’re all so… 🥰

[HelpfulGirlll]

@RedInnocent69 hahaha

[Avcfhcic]

2 of them are married with children, the other 2 have children and are 4 and 9 years older than me

[RedInnocent69]

I hear you. I’m in a great LTR with an incredible partner and plenty of sex. I still crush out on plenty of others. One in particular, a married lesbian, I regularly dream about… 😳

[Avcfhcic]

I just don't want to crush on co-workers, especially ones I have no chance with and shouldn't want to go for

[RedInnocent69]

It’s a combination of biology, chemistry, and proximity. Not really much you can do about it, except not doing anything about it