Why do some girls take so long to respond even if you message them back right away?

[massb]

I've been talking to and seeing a few women. Some respond within minutes or seconds and some take hours to days to respond. Why is that? Like I was talking to one girl she told me she'll let me know in a few hours if I can come by. Doesn't say anything then messages me last minute to come and I said no it's to late then she
Gets upset

[Screenwriter]

Don't you think it's that people are hedging bets? They have three options and they're waiting on the "best" one for that particular day or weekend, and when the other two fall through, you're the last bet, so you're contacted at the last minute.

As you can see by my age, this is not how I plan. I ask people in advance, that's my plan, they say OK, and we all show up to do something.

The "I'll get back to you" always means they're waiting on something or someone else, or keeping their calendar open, and you're secondary. This means you're just not that important to them, in my book. Ugh.

[Screenwriter]

I'm glad you told that woman it was too late. Respect yourself, even if she doesn't seem to. And find someone who DOES seem to make you a priority. I think good friends/relationships are precious and the people you're choosing to be with should feel the same way.

[MannMitAntworten]

Your late example was holding out for a better option. Similar to your talking with multiple women, she is talking with multiple men. That is why.


As for the rest, it is some sort of text game both sexes use to cause the other they are talking with to believe that they are more important than they really are. In reality both sexes are largely full of shit, full of themselves, and are better at sabotaging a potential relationship versus carrying one out. Both see the messages both choose to ignore it till some set time in their heads. Short of work disallowing phone use or being in the air at the time, people can respond fairly immediately. They just choose not to.

[OneViewpoint]

Why is that? Women live on their phones. If she likes you and putting any effort into it, she's replying within a couple of hours. If she's taking 1-2 days to respond she's not that interested and she's just keeping you around as a backup in case the guy she is interested in dumps her and it looks like she may have to pay for her own drinks Friday night.

[OneViewpoint]

Try this response for last minute yes girls.

Oh, sorry. I never heard from you. I made plans with Beth (or whoever). I gotta run. Don’t wanna be late. I’ll give you a shout sometime. Let’s do something.

Keep it vague as hell. Then go complete silence. She may not even care. But if it happens often enough, she’ll either wise up, or not. Doesn’t matter. She’s someone else’s problem now.

[Nikki1989]

There is a thing called talking. Try that. It was once very popular.

[Finchie40]

Because she isn’t interested and not attracted to you , or she doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression of you are investing to much of your time into her , bottom line you are not her priority , find yourself a girl that makes you her priority , don’t settle for a girl that treats you like a convenience

[Miristheiss]

She is not interested. Women are ALWAYS on their phones. She saw your response. That guy just doesn't excite her enough and he doesn't have her just thinking about him all the time wondering about him and yearning to hear from him.

She feels very blah about guy. A guy sitting around stressing over how fast a girl responds? That sounds like a simp. A needy guy with no other options or things to do.

[RavVid]

It is because they are busy with other guys of course. In the last minute 'come messages she was waiting for a guy she likes better most likely.

I don't know if you have noticed but girls give very short replies. That is because they are very busy.

[NathanDavis]

people have jobs, chores, responsibilities, things to do... unexpected issues

or... they are not that interested sometimes, lol

[anon1903]

Probably because they have a life outside of social media

[OneViewpoint]

Then just say “thanks but sorry, I can’t”. Done in 10 seconds.

Or maybe you do have a big portion of your life dedicated to dating apps and you’re juggling 10 guys.

Or maybe you just want the dopamine hit when a guy texts you or responds to you. You don’t really care what guy.

Not saying you specifically. The generic “you”, she.

[anon1903]

@OneViewpoint block her, mate. That's the benefit of digital age

[OneViewpoint]

Oh sure you can block her. After the fact. The point is the degradation of social etiquette and good manners. That’s the consequence of the digital age. Ghost em, block em, be a complete asshole. There are no consequences.

[anon1903]

@OneViewpoint there are no manners on dating apps

[anon1903]

@OneViewpoint that's like complaining twitter is impolite to you

[OneViewpoint]

Exactly. So why go there?

[anon1903]

@OneViewpoint I am not on twitter. Dunno

[Staximus]

Don't expect a woman to take you seriously if she knows you're fooling around with other women

[SamWinchester058]

Because she has 10 other chads that are giving her the attention she wants in the hopes that they can score.

[Anonymous]

I guess they need to think more about what to answer.

[SotiCoto]

She isn't interested.

[Dongie]

It's what they do! They're cute aren't they?

[Anonymous]

What race were they?

[Anonymous]

Some men do this too

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

bc they have a life.