Why do some guys not like their girlfriends wearing revealing clothes when they follow a ton of provocative women/models on social media?

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A lot of guys have issues with their girlfriends wearing revealing clothes and showing their cleavage etc but they would follow a ton of provocative/almost naked women on Instagram. What’s their perspective? In a way isn’t the girlfriend just being one of those girls that their boyfriend find attractive on social media? Why are the guys not okay with their girlfriends doing the same thing?

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Accepted Answer

We see it as advertising. There is only one reason to post such pictures and that is attention. No more no less. Here is the difference. I do not agree with the double standard let me be clear but the difference is access.

Does he, following and watching these girls have any chance of interacting with them? Do they have any chance of that woman approaching him and asking him out? Offering him money for his time? Offering trips to exotic locations? No. Unless he is top tier in looks or lifestyle and be honest if that is the case he isn't going to be trolling instagram. Men look because we are visual in nature. Just as we can appreciate the look of a Bugatti or a Lambo. We look at women.

Now lets look at the women posting. What is the possibility of some guy seeing that picture and hitting up her DM's with the same offers? What is the possibility of that happening? Nearly 100 percent. Now it is known women get smashed with dm's So let's assume she gets 20 DM's a day. 365 x 20 is 7300 DM's a year. Considering the rate of infidelity we are now faced with possibilities and probability. Now what is the probability she will get offers. Around at least 99%. She now has international access to men offering her money, trips, material items. So what is the probability she is answering even at just 50%. So in todays society if people have difficulties in relationships they leave. They don't do the work they leave.

To further it what if even 5% of those guys have celebrity status? Women will automatically accept their offers. This is women chasing better opportunities lets be real. This is women start yelling about insecurity but realistically we know men and their intentions and the PROBABILITY they are looking to hookup and run is 90% or higher. We KNOW this. Women will cope and you hear "they are just friends" which is total horse manure. Why would some guy reach out from the other side of the world "just to be friends". So what is the POSSIBILITY it will implode the relationship? At least 80% or higher. We analyze, and we know if someone is actively posting thirst traps it isn't to get your boyfriend approval or it being a flex. It is increasing the risk that all of his emotional, mental and financial investment will be stripped in seconds because she woke up one day, got pissed because he didn't empty the trash can when she expected it and blows his world up.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

This is a really common and frustrating double standard, and it usually comes down to a mix of psychology, insecurity, and social conditioning. Here are some of the main reasons behind it:

1. Control and Possessiveness
Some men feel like their partner’s body is a reflection of their status. When their girlfriend dresses revealingly, they may feel it makes them “look bad” or invites unwanted attention. But when they follow models online, it doesn’t trigger the same feelings because those women are at a distance and not “theirs.” In short, it’s about control—wanting to dictate how their girlfriend presents herself while consuming what they want privately.

2. Insecurity and Jealousy
If a man is insecure, he may worry that his girlfriend dressing provocatively could attract other men who are “competition.” Scrolling through models’ photos feels safe, because there’s no risk of those women actually engaging with him or threatening his relationship dynamic.

3. Compartmentalization
Some guys separate the women they look at online from the women they date. Models and influencers are seen as “fantasy” or entertainment, while their girlfriend is “real life.” This double standard leads to expecting a partner to dress modestly, while still indulging in highly sexualized content elsewhere.

4. Cultural and Social Norms
A lot of men are raised with contradictory messages: they’re encouraged to consume sexualized images of women, but also taught that “good girlfriends/wives” shouldn’t present themselves in that way. This Madonna–whore mindset reinforces the idea that their partner should be “different” from the women they lust after online.

5. Lack of Self-Awareness
Some men don’t even realize the hypocrisy. They rationalize following models as “just looking” but perceive their girlfriend’s clothing as something that directly impacts them socially. They may not reflect on how unfair or contradictory this is until it’s pointed out.

✅ Bottom line: It’s less about clothing and more about control, insecurity, and ingrained double standards. A healthy dynamic would mean respecting a partner’s autonomy and not holding them to stricter standards than the ones they indulge in themselves.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Lol. They want what they want… and don’t like to share their stuff with other guys.

Consider that the models are “public figures” so all the guys like and look at them… but the girlfriend/SO is their special gal… he doesn’t want his favorite to be so visibly available to everyone.

I’m not saying it to be old fashioned either. The feelings — real feelings — of a guy manifest in a little level of possessiveness that’s very endearing. He watches you closely and guards you from unwanted attention and all that… your very own personal cuddly bodyguard.

IF HOWEVER the guy hits a toxic level of possessiveness that shows a lack of trust, that’s oppressive and shouldn’t be tolerated.

So follow the middle ground. I’ll dress in a way that’s patently feminine and a little sexy, but never overly revealing. So when I have a guy in my life (1) there’s no need to shift my style bc it’s already not outrageously revealing, (2) he’s glad that you look good (brownie points to him from his friends seeing his hot gal), (3) he is secure knowing he’s the one who gets to see the more revealing side of you in private bc you love and care for each other.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

I can't really answer for men but I think they see it as being disrespectful to them. I've had single friends that would dress sexy/provocative when we would go out but once they had boyfriends, they would dress more conservative, kind of a way of saying "my goods are no longer on the market" lol Just the same, it's disrespectful for a man in a committed relationship to flaunt over women's pictures and also weird in my opinion. I'll never understand that.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I love how the assumption that we all follow thirst trap women on Insta is shoe horned in there. Sort of makes me wonder what kind of dudes you're fucking with... Insta is for picture loving bitches (yes some men are bitches). I Digress with that observation...

Those insta bitches are doing what? They're thirst traps. They literally feed on clicks and likes (attention based), and the professionals of them seek the pay piggy mega SIMP's that would fork over money to see more. Now to your question...

Why do some of us guys not want our girl to be like them? Isn't this basically asking why I'd eye fuck a model or fuck a hooker, but not want to be her man? If you're trying to build something real with a woman that's a bit more family oriented (like having kids and homemaker), a thirst trap attention seeker isn't exactly a great choice for that. That's why. The kids don't need to be bullied because they have pictures of their Mom shoving things in their butt that they payed $5 for, and I don't want to deal with that either from other adults.

Attention seekers are horrible partners. They are constantly on the prowl to get eyes on them. I would argue the non-professional ones are worse than the professional ones because they literally only do it for validation reasons. What kind of mother and wife are you going to have when she can't even self-validate and relies on having a constant flow of male attention? Imagine having to go to work as that man, that requires time away from her and your attention placed elsewhere... Yeah, that's where cheaters that claim he didn't show her enough attention comes from.

Why do some guys not like their girlfriends wearing revealing clothes when they follow a ton of provocative women/models on social media?

Finchie40 · Answer

Some guys’ are very territorial over their girlfriend or wife and they don’t want other guys’ hitting on her or checking her out , he basically wants her all to himself. Some girls’ like having a boyfriend or husband like that, and some don’t. A girl that dresses that way , unfortunately is seen as she is seeking attention and validation from other men. So her partner might feel uneasy and insecure about her doing so. Me personally doesn’t mind when my partner wear sexy clothes and outfits , mainly because I know she is coming home with me , if she didn’t’ then I would be concerned and more than likely kick her to the curb where she belongs lol

WonderingManII · Answer

Men have hormones and a logical brain. The hormones want to pull you in one direction, while your logical brain wants to go in another direction. Instagram is the problem. Our bodies respond to the provocative. Which is why some of us don't want other men looking at our girl that way. Anyways, if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't care how she dressed, because it would make me a hypocrite. I love sexy girls in bikinis, and if she wanted to dress that way. Then that is fine with me. I'm not a controlling person.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

It’s simple!

men are visual, and they’ll follow Instamodels like they’d watch a movie — entertainment. But when it comes to commitment, men have boundaries. If you’re dressing in a way that invites male attention, you’re competing for male validation — and a man who values himself doesn’t tolerate that from his girl.

He doesn’t control you, he just won’t commit to someone who behaves like she’s still on the market. either way if you why do you want to be in the market when you already in a relationship? are you not happy in that relationship?

HawkPerception · Answer

I think that guys who follow models on social media are still in their immature phase. But we just don't want others looking at our partners with

A partner that respects you would only want you looking at them like that and not broadcast it for the world to see. I don't understand why some girls have difficulty understanding that. They're not ready for relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I don't mind it at all but I totally understand what those protective guys wants.

The provocative women guys follow are just as a sex symbol, nothing more than that. They don't have any feelings or anything for those girls, and they're just as an advertisement or porn.

But when it comes to their own girl, they know what men think, and how their mind goes. When some guys, (not all) look at women in revealing clothes, it's natural to have sexual thought. Real men don't want any guy, whoever is looking at their girl, to fantasize about sleeping with them. I think that's why.

But in my opinion, my girl has a really good body and there's nothing wrong in showing off what she took years to built.

Genie23 · Answer

Because they know how most guys feel when girls wear skimpy clothing and they don't want their girlfriends/partner get started at and hit on by other guys as they've also done the same while being in a relationship. My first ex wanted to stop me from wearing the clothes I thought looked cute but he thought looked sexy/revealing and later I found out he was cheating on me, lol. So, yeah, those who do those things are often afraid of those things happening to them.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Probably due to personal insecurity.

Men will hit on an attractive woman regardless if she's in a bikini or a burqa, so it's pointless to worry.

All because she dresses "immodestly" doesn't mean she'll cheat on you. And the other way around. Dressing "modestly" doesn't guarantee she WON'T cheat on you.

So it depends on her individual personality and her personal loyalty.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

I am in favor of Brides wearing the dress of their dreams, the mothers and mothers in law need to keep their opinions to themselves. A female has waited through her adolescence to attain a figure. This is a chance to announce to the world "I am Here". As far as swimsuits are concerned, God gave you a marvelous one. Wear it in Pride not shame. If you have problems with sensitivity, cover those areas that make you uncomfortable. It is your life and no one should judge you.

ohsheeT · Answer

Like I have always said. Pay attention to what your guy says. How he says it because. He will tell you everything. He doesn't want you to be wearing that stuff so guys can look at you. Because he knows what he thinks when he's looking at other girls. And i'm sure it's not very appropriate.
Maybe he's message them before. Or has thought about it or maybe has chatted with them. And of course he doesn't want that to happen to you ...

Firesparks · Answer

There is no wee see it... it trashy when... when guys do that n it's not right for anyone doing that period... if I'm going to look at anyone it would some one im with vs listing after some one I'll never be with n if a guy is doing that he into just not the girls he with n that's very sad !

tzdc21 · Answer

Lol its complicated. I dont do it but I know why others do it. They place the women wearing revealing clothing in a "sex only" category meaning that that's all they'll see her as, but know better than to commit to someone like that. But a woman who he has deemed "relationship worthy" doing it is a whole different reaction. It's gonna take ages to explain this thinking though.

DJB72 · Answer

Generally it's  because  they follow those accounts and they don't like the idea of another guy getting off to the thought of their girlfriend. But for some reason it's ok for them to get off thinking about other girls. Pure, adulterated hypocrisy.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are your typical insecure, hypocritical males.

Zhangyuxin · Answer

Men who follow a large number of attractive women on social media, yet dislike their girlfriends wearing revealing clothing, may have a variety of reasons, including objectification of women, low self-esteem and insecurity, societal pressures and cultural norms, relationship power dynamics, and different contexts. Understanding these reasons can help us better understand this phenomenon and promote more equal and respectful relationships.

soe11 · Answer

Yes , but I'm not one of them  I say proudly my girlfriend wear publicly all sort of revealing outfits, I got nocomplaints, but compliments and encouragement.  Especially she wear much more revealing outfits with going out.  I hope your boyfriend too.

Tarifa · Answer

I never tell my wife what she can wear and what she can't wear. She'll do her own thing anyway. It's OK to be jealous, I think it's a normal and healthy reaction, but it shouldn't be of any concern if your relationship is based on trust.

Anonymous · Answer

Because one is your girl, someone you care about, maybe even love. The other is just some random girl you’d fuck w out having feelings for. Yes I get it doesn’t make sense but like a lot of things women do that makes no sense to men, this is something men do that make no sense to women. To a lot of men it can be disrespectful,. Sort of like a man who’s still got an active protein on a dating site, his girl would most likely be upset like he’s still advertising.

Richardjd · Answer

I love when my girlfriends wear revealing clothes my ex girlfriend would always wear really tight shorts and leggings and really short skirts and dresses she would look smoking hot she would show everyone hot hot her body looked and show other men how lucky I was to have her and for underwear it was always really tight tiny g strings that barely covered anything she was perfect so I have no problem with any female who wants to wear revealing clothing

ErebusD · Answer

Personally I wouldn't want my girlfriend to bare all out there for the world to see and I wouldn't do the same but I feel that for most men have been desensitized to seeing women scantily dressed that they think it's okay as long as it's not Thier partner's and some men don't care. It's all personal preference

Jackblue · Answer

It is hypocrisy, but it is also similar to how women sometimes read romance BDSM stories, but wouldn't want their partner to actually act like those men in real life (unless it had bee pre-planned), it is a difference between fantasy and reality.

Twalli · Answer

Guys don't see those girls as girlfriend material. It's the same reason why most guys would never date a girl who does or did OnlyFans. There's sexual attraction, but they think it cheapens the girl since she's essentially selling her body. She's devaluing herself as a person. Also, some guys don't like the idea of their girlfriend dressing in a way that will elicit sexual interest from anyone else.

2_beHappy · Answer

A lot of them are just be possesive from nature, but it s kinda useless If they still feel the need to follow other women on social media, women that are clearly dressed very sexy. Don t blame the women , men aren t actually forced by anyone to look

slatyb · Answer

They are insecure. They are afraid their girlfriend will attract attention from a superior man, and leave them.

RavVid · Answer

You were almost there up to follow a ton of provocative etc.

Then you just completely lost your grip on reality. The second part of the first sentence completely explains the first part of the same sentence.

You over thought again.

Anonymous · Answer

The question is, why do you want to wear revealing clothing I'd you're in a committed relationship.

Reveling clothing is literally only for attention. If you're seeking attention from other men while in a relationship you're the one with the problem.

Models are public figures everyone looks at them. What he is doing is shitty. Don't get me wrong. But what you're doing is an apples to oranges comparison. If you want to seek other male attention, don't be in a relationship.

Screenwriter · Answer

Because it's THEIR girlfriend. They don't want other guys ogling her like they ogle those online women. Called being hypocritical...

NervousIndividual · Answer

I personally believe it is not faithful for a man to follow nearly naked women on social media when he has a girlfriend. If he does this, I believe such a man is in need of therapy. I also believe couples should have a frank and loving consultation about boundaries.

TylerDurdenn · Answer

When guys do follow models... etc, they're doing it in a dirty way, so when their girlfriend dress like models, guys instantly knows that other guys are following her in a dirty way.
Their evolutionary protective instinct tells them to protect her because she is their way to procreation.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Its why porn is as big as it is... any chance to get a free look to store in their phone or computer. They are childish and cannot have someone looking at their beloved.

avery58 · Answer

I'm not even attracted to guys who follow them, such a turn off and yes they're often hypocrites

Miristheiss · Answer

What would motivate a woman in a committed relationship to want to dress proactively? She isn't relationship material if she craves that stuff.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I personally never cared. But let me find out she’s flirting back with a man that clearly saw her and liked what he saw so then tried to flirt with her…

She’ll end up single and never see me or hear from me again

bowenw · Answer

Low self esteem that makes them think another guy will take their girl away if she attracts attention.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

. I agree with what you said. They say they only follow other girls for fun, then they say they are whores and I don't care about them, then they say never dress like them.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I do not mind at all. I want her to be comfortable with her body and I like seeing a lot of skin myself. Nice pic by the way.. thanks for sharing she is way hot

Berethor · Answer

He might be jealous that other men look at her, but when it's only him then he okay with that.

Kelly6 · Answer

@danielamontoya06 my husband is opposite that he loves when I dress revealing clothes

leahzrc · Answer

If they follow whores online they aren't worth dating.

DonaldDarko · Answer

They're not serious about the women they look at on Instagram. For actual relationships, men don't want thots.

AviatorTom · Answer

Pictures of models are fapping material. Guys don't want their girlfriends to be fapping material for other guys.

SphynxUK · Answer

They are insecure and worried that someone will ‘take you away’ from them.

genericname85 · Answer

have you never seen something in social media that you thought was kind of hot but you didn't want your partner to actually do that or look like that?

bobalife · Answer

Insecurity. Period. Hypocritical & toxic behavior. Double period.

juleyboo74 · Answer

I'm lucky, my husband requires that i wear as little clothes as possible when we go out. :)

Purpleronnie · Answer

Many guys watch porn , doesn’t mean they want a porn star as a girlfriend 🤣🤣

elizamichale1 · Answer

Typical hypocritical behaviour of our society

Anonymous · Answer

Daniela, the world is a mysterious place even for 33 year old you or 30s old me, it's weird why humans do a lot of odd things  I can only put it down to personality differences between people's

Anonymous · Answer

A woman who wears revealing clothes in public is looking for attention and validation. A woman who does that while in a committed relationship is a ho, pure and simple, and men generally don't want a relationship with a ho.

hellopeoplee · Answer

My boyfriend always complained about my clothes but would like it on other girls I brought it up an he said yes there whores your not. I think some males think of girls like objects

stayorgo · Answer

Because man nowadays more so now we'll keep it in their pants. That's why we're mostly doing that now. Because they can't hurt us. You women nowadays. Have a harder time keeping it in your pants

DrPepper12 · Answer

That's easy! Rank hypocrisy and compliant docile girlfriends would put up with that shit

Brad08 · Answer

I think it’s hot. Keeps you in check. Wearing panties with friends over. Wearing a little night outfit and apologizing all panties are dirty. Just so they know she not wearing any.

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

" Don't objectify meeee. But watch while I objectify meeee".  Women

jahaims · Answer

Because they know guys are being pigs like they are.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Cause it shows jealousy. Secure women don't need to

Gaylordslav · Answer

You answer your own question. They dont want you dressing provocatively so other guys thirst

fish5505_87 · Answer

I have no issues, although my wife never has or does, maybe that's why?

qwerty2469 · Answer

Its because they lust after whores but dont want to date one.

MasterKS · Answer

I always love when girls shows her skin, its attractive for me.

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