Why are most females’ easily vulnerable and influenced by her friends’ when she is in a relationship?

[Finchie40]

One thing about most of us guys’ is we don’t allow our friends’ to influence us when we are in a relationship with a girl that we adore , but Girls’ on the other hand allow her friends’ to influence her and then she wonders why she becomes single again and again. I have witnessed and experienced some many toxic girlfriends’ jeopardize their friends’ relationship, whether it’s out of jealousy , or they feel she can do better etc. Us guys’ don’t really do that to a girl we give our heart to , I have had male and female friends’ tell me you can do better than her, you deserve way better than her basically trying to influence me to dump her , but it goes on one ear out the other , unless they have solid proof she is no good , then that’s a different story , But most females’ on the other hand , don’t let it go on one ear out the other , they are easily influenced by their toxic friends’ that wish they had what she had. Females’ I’m sorry but you are more vicious than men are when it comes to this shit. why is that? Why can’t you just be happy for your friend that she found a guy that she adores , why rain on her parade? Is it jealousy? Are you gay and want her all to yourself? I witness this happen so many times to the point it’s pathetic. I hope you all know some of your so called friends’ will easily backstab you as well the second they influence you to break up with your boyfriend, because they will show up on his doorstep or call him hoping to have a turn with him behind your back. Mark my words on this , it’s happened to me plenty of times after my girlfriend dumped me that was influenced by her toxic friends ‘ why you should never prioritize your friends’ over your partner period

[RavVid]

Why is there fashion which is essentially girls wearing the same style of clothes even if it doesn't suit them as well as other styles?

The answer has to be group think. There is a classic pysch test where girls are shown pics of guys and asked to rate their attractiveness. If it is implied the guys are coupled they are rated as more attractive than if it is implied they are single.

This phenomenon is called mate copying and it can become boyfriend stealing as well.

Evolutionarily fitting in with the other tribal girls was important to their survival in a way it just wasn't for tribal men. Particularly in child birth, a woman wouldn't want the other women to walk away saying "We don't like you. Good luck birthing by yourself SLUT". Conforming was important for a girl.

Mirroring is an established way of building rapport, so it is not surprising if women do this more avidly than men.

Women are more jealous of other women's success than men are. Men are more likely to think "he worked for it. Good luck to him" whilst another woman having a beautiful house can make a woman feel ill.

Women have always been more in a man's hand than the inverse. I think these threads explain most of what you talking of.

I certainly have experienced most of what you have described. Jealous girl friends of your girlfriend lose no opportunity to sabotage for sure.

[Anonymous]

The thing is, it’s not like that with a lot of girls. I for one don’t include my friends in my relationship UNLESS I have an odd feeling or feel like I’m in danger. Also not sure why you’d state the friend would want a “turn” with the said ex in this situation lol. I’m assuming you’re saying that because that’s what guys do. But then again just as you can’t speak for all women in this scenario you also can’t clear the men.
I for one with my ex boyfriend his friends did influence our break up, and he tried to come running back not even 2 weeks later after his friends ditched him afterwards. His friends always feed him the “she doesn’t give you enough time to yourself” we both worked and had a set schedule of when we would get together, such as every other day or a day during the week + the weekend as we would both be off on sat/sun. They would also say “she isn’t even that pretty” “she gives you too much freedom, you should take advantage of that” if he wants to hang out with his friends then he’s free to do so not sure why not having a problem with a boyfriend wanting to hang out with his friends is grounds for cheating lol. But dude broke up with me about a month of his friends constantly texting him shit like that, which I can verify because after the two weeks when he came over he showed me all the texts from the entire month and they were definitely brutal, talk about peer pressure.

also what I would like to add is that some friends aren’t there to convince her to “leave”, it’s more of making sure she is comfortable and seeing the relationship from a different point of view. Because a lot of guys will say in order to be emotionally fulfilled you must have sex with them and fulfill there needs. So I mean yeah for me I’d see that as a red flag, because I personally wouldn’t have sex with my partner unless they had me emotionally fulfilled.

[Anonymous]

Yeah that’s definitely not all girls lol.


My one friend dated an awful dude but because he love bombed her and was a different sort of abusive compared to her parents she stayed up until she finally lost it. Same friend dated my roommate a year later and I was the one telling both of them they can do better. Much like the first they eventually got too physical and hostile and ended.


As for my best friend who’s married I will forever hype her up, she can absolutely do better than the man she married. That doesn’t mean I hope they end because they’re decent together

[Finchie40]

Yea not all girls’ but they are out there , Girls’ that are selfish that only care about themselves, that get into a relationship thinking she needs to be catered to at all times , that her partner is just supposed to do for her but she doesn’t have to do for him , He has to make her his top priority but she just treats him like a convenience, and her friends’ come before him. Relationships do not work that way whatsoever, I am not saying they can’t have friends’ but friends’ should never come over your relationship period , when you allow friends’ to come over your relationship, you are digging your own grave because it’s just going to be a matter of time before your partner throws in the towel on your selfish ass. Me personally never prioritized friends’ over my committed partner , the second we become official is the second my friends’ come after her , but unfortunately some of the girls’ I been with didn’t see it that way , like how dare she say no to her friend now that she has a relationship? Unfortunately this sort of thing happens in a lot of relationships and people wonder why they don’t last in relationships, Bottomline is choosing your friends’ over your partner on a constant basis , is damaging the relationship you chose to be in , especially if you have toxic friends’ that try to pull you away from your relationship and you allow them to do so , there are 2 types of friends’ a good friend and toxic friends’ , a good friend will support your relationship and be happy for you a toxic friend will sabotage your relationship every which way they can , my advice is to get rid of your toxic friends , because the second they meet someone , they disappear from you. Or they try to get with your ex behind
Your back

[Batsy01010101]

Wow you're a toxic asshole

[aisha22]

That really shows how much you care about your friends—you’re willing to be honest even when it’s hard. Sometimes people need that outside perspective to recognize patterns they can’t see while they’re in it. And with your best friend, it’s great that you can both support her marriage and still believe she deserves the best. That balance of honesty and loyalty is what makes you a solid friend. check this :https://syedibrahimacademy. com/

[Finchie40]

A partner should already be your best friend , if they aren’t your best friend , than the chances of that relationship surviving decreases big time, why so many friends’ pretty much disappear out of your life the second they meet someone they are head over heels for , I’m not saying they become your enemy , they just invest more of their time into their partner instead , which is the proper and respectful thing to do , As a friend you should support your friend and their happiness in the relationship they are now in , the friends’ that are not supportive of your relationship are friends’ that you shouldn’t invest a lot of your time into , to be respectful to your partner. If my friends’ expected me to invest more time into them over my partner , then they will be shocked when I choose my partner over them, I don’t get committed to a girl to be single , people that do, will never experience true love because all they care about is themselves

[Opinion Owner]

A partner should already be your best friend yes but that doesn’t guarantee it’ll last. My brothers getting divorced after like 18 years there are several factors that go into relationships surviving or not

[Finchie40]

Exactly , pretty much why most guys’ today do not want to get married , because in most cases it doesn’t last

[Batsy01010101]

You're still a toxic asshole

[Batsy01010101]

@aisha22 you're still a toxic asshole

[Anonymous]

Women are generally (and I repeat GENERALLY) incapable of thinking for themselves. Most of the time they are afraid to make “the wrong choice” and base how they do things on how other women would.

If a “pretty” girl is interested in a guy, she will ask her friend what she thinks, if the friend (usually the fridge protecting the snacks) says eww… she will change her mind because her choices are based off what her friends think.

The same goes for the girl who has the slutty friend, even if the girl has morals her slutty friend will convince her that it’s ok to be some bar guys drag off because as a slut she wants to make herself feel better about what she does so convincing her female friend to be the same way, she doesn’t feel as bad about herself.

Women are so easily swayed that most advertising is aimed at women. Stores put female items up front because women are the ones that will buy.

Young girls dress and act like the trash females (Sabrina Carpenter types) they idolize even if it tosses all dignity and morals out the window.

It’s a hive mind and a follower mentality.

do some men act this way, sure!
And some women don’t… but the majority do.

So don’t come at me like I said “All”

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

It kinda depends on the relationship they have. Like me and my bestie knows one another for 17 years now. We know each other's do's and don'ts and triggers and blindness. So you develope a trust in your friend. If the one who knows you best says NO, then you take it with a BIG pinch of salt.

If they only know one another for a short term it could be that one has more trust in the other one, or one thinks they know the other person when in reality they are still getting to know one another. I don't trust easily. Trust needs to be earned. So with new people I only take their input with a little pinch of salt.

And thirdly, if they are still young it could be because they are inexperienced and take advice from someone they Think knows better. They don't want to be seen as dumb. Or they can just be a personality that can be easily manipulated.

OR at one point in the past the friend/s were right and now they play the game where they make the woman think that They are always right. And they remind her how They were right.

There other factors too. But these are the top 4 I can think of now.

[Zionne]

It’s not that most women are “easily influenced but close friends often have a big voice because of trust and emotional support. If she values her friends’ opinions more than her partner’s, it usually means she’s unsure about the relationship or doesn’t fully feel secure in it.

[Finchie40]

Exactly if she values her friends’ opinions over her partner, she is already destroying that relationship with him , because it will just be a matter of time before he throws in the towel on her selfish ass or fall for another girl that respects him the way he wants to be respected, Most of us guys’ value respect in a relationship and if we don’t feel respected, we will be open to a girl that shows us respect , No guy wants to stay in a relationship with a girl that constantly disrespects him and puts him down , we give our heart to a girl hoping she does the same in return not the other way around

[Anonymous]

I WISH I wielded that sort of magical power with my female friends, but no, I'm on strike 3. One of my long time friends dated a guy who was absolutely toxic, we literally had an intervention. She refused to listen. Cut to 8 years later, after 2 kids, he unalived himself after putting her completely in debt and stealing the kids college funds. Best friend dated a guy who I didn't feel was good for her. She said she was her own damn woman and to butt out. I absolutely did. He cheated on her. When it next came to her husband. I didn't say a single word against him. I got blamed when the marriage failed after a year because I didn't tell her everything wrong in her relationship as a friend. Yeah, no. Don't have as much power as you think we do. There are some bitter women out there for sure, just as there are bitter men, but people are literally going to do what they do.

[Anonymous]

I know many guys who are influenced by their friends too, and it's usually bad influence when it comes to relationships.

Both girls and guys should think with their own head, and not to listen to what other people think about their relationship.

[Finchie40]

Yes guys’ do this as well, but from my own personal experiences and things I have witnessed through the years , Girls’ hold the title for it , but overall no partner should choose their friends’ over their partner , your partner should be your top priority if you want your relationship to last and for love to continue to grow between you both , Your friends’ will not be by your side as much as your partner will be if you choose your partner over your friends’ once your friends’ meet someone themselves , you will be lucky to even see your friend again. The second my friends’ met a girl , I barely ever saw them period why I never choose friends’ over my partner , I get into a relationship with a girl to be my partner , her and I vs the world , not the other way around

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed, I know what you mean.

[dwreborn]

Iam not sure but i know if thats happening with my wife now iam screwed because all of her friends are either into drugs so screwed up themselves or been separated more then you can count so i hope our marriage problems dont depend on them cause that can't be good

[uniquelyshy]

Damn, guess that sucks for me I don't really have any friends and I'd never let them jeopardize my relationship im with him to marry him now we just need to sign documentation and we'll be set.

[Finchie40]

You’re a girl that most guys’ would be happy with because a relationship is partnership , the both of you should be a team working together , not against each other , when a partner chooses friends’ over the relationship that partner is damaging the foundation that they both agreed upon , I am not saying you can’t have friends’ but friends’ should never come over your partner , when people do that to their partner, their partner feels used and feel like they are just a convenience to you when my ex started prioritizing her friends’ over our marriage , that’s when I knew our marriage was coming to an end , she started to become more excited to spend time with her friends’ over spending time with me , to the point I didn’t even know who she was anymore , I just felt like a paycheck so she could go have fun while I stayed home taking care of all the responsibilities, I felt
Like I no longer had a partner, I had a user instead , that acted like she was supposed to be catered to at all times , but the second I wanted to go do something fun with my friends’ she would have now about it , so I laughed and said so it’s ok for you to go out with your friends’ but not ok for me? Make that make sense? I said you are a narcissistic selfish POS person so you and I are better off not being together anymore , Because I want to be with a girl that wants to do things together not a girl that wants to have constant separate lives , like what’s even the point of being together , if we aren’t going to do things together and experience things together? I never chose my friends’ over my partner , I always included her but unfortunately she didn’t do the same for me , She would make plans with her friends’ and completely exclude me and not even tell me til last second that she is going out with her friends, but how dare I did that to her. , the girl is selfish and lost and not meant for a relationship period because all she cares about it herself. Not my kind of girl whatsoever

[uniquelyshy]

No me and my husband do everything together if we can, we do have our personal time but we both pay bills and work and take responsibility for our actions, we love each other were gonna make it through everything together to and be together till we're Grey and old and them some.

[heruncommonsense]

Some women care about other women.

Males never care about women. Males ESPECIALLY hate their girlfriends and wives, they talk about it all the time.

Why would I be influenced by someone who wants my life to be hell on earth? This is why I refuse to lose my virginity.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Finchie40 I hear you Finchie - same could be said of a woman's a guys dating her's nearest and dearest, her's work colleagues and friends even. No wonder I stay single 🙃🙌

[SuperZonicGUY1992]

My girlfriend took advantage of me. As long as you have the cash they're ass be chasing after you!

My over spend my savings. I'm Sephora and some shit called Lululemon. What the fuck is Lululemon? Weird. I never shop at Lululemon.

[Markella7]

Some like the idea of a relationship. Cause it’s the “norm.”.

[Finchie40]

Yea they like the idea of it , only if they get their way , My ex would say things like What do you do for me? , which didn’t sit well with me whatsoever, just by her saying those words to me , made me lose all respect for her , she acted like she was supposed to be catered to at all times and acted like she never did anything wrong. So I said wouldn’t it be , what can we do together? A relationship to me is partnership , we are a team working together but what do you do for me? Not my kind of girl whatsoever, so I dumped her ass. On top of that she would compare me to her friends’ husbands and try to belittle me every which way she could , her friends’ were always right and never wrong , again, something I never do in a relationship iwith a girl , she is my partner and my top priority over friends’ and over whoever , but unfortunately I wasn’t her top priority , she is a user and I feel bad for any guy that falls for her selfish behavior and attitude. I rather be single than be with a girl like that. What do you do for me? I just shake my head when I hear those words lol

[Miristheiss]

LOL, every cheater has a friend who knows and covers for her.

So many happy couples have the girls friends still trying to drag her off to clubs nights.

[Nikki1989]

I stop reading after that first line. You couldn't possibly be more wrong.

[californiareaper]

That's an ignorant statement. What applies to your life does not necessarily apply to others

[beenherebefore]

They put their friends over the relationship and seek validation from their friends.

[MannMitAntworten]

I say this with satire, but be good with her friends but let her parents want to hand ya from your pinkies and you’ll be good as gold. :-p

[Anonymous]

because women must all worship feminism above all these

the feminist sisterhood takes priority over everything in her life and is her God

[Pohjolan]

Well for starters men don't have fake friends.

[robocop666]

sadly this is they way it is. You gotta deal with it.

[Finchie40]

We can deal with it but we can also put a stop to it as well , if we spread the word around , because this is something that has been happening to relationships for a long as time and people wonder why they constantly have failed relationships, and unfortunately this is a big part of the reason why