What are your thoughts on my best friend who betrayed me do you believe she is a narcissist?

[Anonymous]

So I founded out that my now ex best friend betrayed me behind my back and dated a guy I told her that I had a crush on for years and her excuse was something wrong I did when I was a teenager and I couldn't express my feelings healthy and maturely. I believe she scapegoated me and bullied me behind my back cause she had a secret animosity and was envious of me when I tried to comfort her she was playing she was giving me the silent treatment and liked the fact that I was hurt and confused like I could see it in her face that she was enjoying it. I tried to protect myself by not answering on her calls cause she was acting weird and she used it as proof that I was abusive and she was the victim. I tried to talk with my other friends but it seemed to me that they had the role of the messenger, they weren't telling me what was going on. When I finally confront her that she sold me for the guy cause I know what the f she is (a h*e) she froze and her little smile disappeared that's when the reality hit her and she wanted to talk things out she cryed she brought her mom who screamed at me that I was being jealous hateful and that her little girl was innocent that I am the one who was the problem cause I didn't want communicate with her when in reality she didn't want to communicate with me. She then acted like a baby who was confused she was asking questions such as "I don't know why are you treating me like this" and faked her crying while she had a smile in her face. It was clear to me that she was playing innocent went she wasn't the situation ended with her leaving with her mom while I got isolated confused and heartbroken. I have no problem taking accountability for my actions by based on her behavior I believe she used my past mistake to justify her betrayal to hide her envy to bully me and basically to emotionally abuse me. It's been years since then and she still talk about it like I was fake and she leveled up and found true friends while she still stalks me.

[SueShe]

Let me see if I read your story correctly.

So you are in the age group 45+ and the girl in question is holding a grudge on you for something that happened 30+ years ago. Also, this girl's mom (who must be at least 65+ years old) is screaming at you for going on your ex friend's case for something that happened a quarter of a century ago. Right?

First, how would the mom of that ex friend know? Does this ex friend live with her mother or does she involve her mother in her aged stories?

I am a little confused here about the entire issue and why it is suddenly so important to you after such a long time. You would have had plenty of years to get over this event.

[Asker]

Don't pay attention to the age it's just a random number and it happened when we were teens and we were turning into adults. She probably told her mom her pov. And her mom got involved because she wanted to protect her daughter even though the daughter was the one who caused the problem and acted like the victim to avoid accountability and getting everyone involved into her messy drama.

[Abbycado]

So you had a crush on someone for years and did nothing, then got mad that someone else did. Right...

[Asker]

First of all I couldn't date at the time and she knew it. Second of all she crossed my boundaries and then blamed me for my reaction if she liked him that much why she didn't told me from the start? Why she went behind my back in the first place? I have met a lot of people with the same issue but they respected each other and they talked about it they didn't make it a secret competition.

[Asker]

Also if I was such a problem to her why she even hang around with me for this long?

[Anonymous]

Damn how do u look? I bet way better than her

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is just an egotist...

[Asker]

She is not only egoistic she was a delusional narcissistic person. She was comparing her life her dating life her job everything into my life when I wasn't even aware or didn't even want to be involved in her competition in the first place and she got involved with him cause she wanted him as a trophy of her superiority I don't know. I believe she still stalks me to see if I am doing good if I am doing something better than her etc

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed, you're right, that's really sick.

[In_Trance]

Move on

[Asker]

Bro, why are on this site if you aren't even trying to be at the very least helpful?

[In_Trance]

Solutions are simple. Don't make things more complicated than they need to be.
People come in and out of your life for a reason.
Move on