Girl sitting next to me in library, interest or random choice?

[randonetguy]

I study in the same library Mon-Fri. A girl started consistently sitting one seat away from me, even when the room was empty.

We had frequent eye contact before even sitting 1 seat away.

Eventually, I suggested she sit next to me for better access to the charger plug, but again, everyday there where plenty seats available with same plugs/chairs/view BUT distanced from me.

She agreed, and for 3 weeks we sat side-by-side.

We had very little verbal interaction (she politely declined gum in 2 different days), but I was curious about her, we never talked outside, I always felt shy, I don't know about her, despite crossing paths multiple times.

To test if she was actually interested or just using the seat, I asked her on a Friday if she wanted to join me at my library on Saturday, more specifically "Should I keep the seat for you at ""library name"" tomorrow?" (requiring her to change her routine, because we went to different libraries on weekends since the other 1 was closed).

I expected a rejection so I could move on, literally anything, like ""no thanks"" // "No I'll go to another library" // ""No I can't""... again, anything, I was ready for such replies.

To my shock, she said to keep her the place, so I said "okay!".

The Turning Point:

Right after agreeing, I went to the bathroom. When I returned, she had spoken to her best friend and changed her mind, stating she would go to her usual library instead. I asked her for details about her library (location/time) and she replied precisely, but then I just said "have a nice evening" and left without confirming if I would join her.

The Aftermath:

On Monday, she didn't return to our usual spot. She moved seats completely and distanced herself from me. Now, there is awkward tension when we cross paths.

Does she think I got offended by her changing her mind?
Was she expecting me to follow her to her library as a test?
Was she never interested, despite sitting with me for weeks?

Girls... what do you think?

[SueShe]

I believe that you are overthinking the entire issue.

It could be that she sat close to you by simple convenience because some people don't like to sit all by themselves, mainly younger women that are possibly afraid to get bothered by other males.

Also, I see that her friend probably told her to be cautious and that her and you sitting close together could be misinterpreted and seen as if there is something going on between you.

You don't know if she has a boyfriend, whether she is married or in a relationship and that friend may have reminded her to be cautious about gossip.

[randonetguy]

Hey, we're similar age if not same age.
Definetely not married.

I would say not with a boyfriend cause honestly that would be crazy to sit next to a random guy just for a plug when, again, you would've had a lot of other seats.

The other detailed I didn't give out (cause of character limit) was that she has a lot of friends in her group, but she never sat with them, usually she only sat with her best friend but a lot of times she sat next to me and her friend sat in a whole different place anyways...

You see how hard it is to just think "oh she sat there cause of convenience" (with a lot of other seats and plugs available)

[randonetguy]

and thanks for taking time into replying, really preciated!

[Nikki1989]

You are totally overthinking this. People can sit wherever they like.

[randonetguy]

Hey Nikki, first of all thanks for sharing your take on this.
YES, absolutely, she can.

The issue? Would you ever sit next to a random guy in an empty room?
(we usually both got there in the morning but the room would've got crowded everyday after 1-2 hours so it's not like we where studying in an abandoned place).

Another info I didn't give, she has a best friend, she always goes around with her in any place outside library, but inside library, the always picked the seat next to me and then her best friend sat in another place usually in same room but neither with her and or in the same table.

I would never sit in an empty room, next to a girl I don't know nothing about, UNLESS I know she already said I can sit next to her (like me with her) AND I have a simpathy/interest for her. That's just me, but realistically I'd say most of us.

[Angelbabylips]

Ah. I can see why you are hopeful. I think you are overthinking this though.

[randonetguy]

Hey! Thanks for giving your opinion.
Yes, sometimes I think "I don't even care no more", but other times, I be like..."damn, why she sat there, she accepted my proposal, why all this, things that I would never do with a girl I don't know, I must know what happened"

I forgot to tell that, the Monday after that Friday question, she sat I don't know where, but the next day after Monday, she sat right behind me, either cause she really liked that room OR to see how I was moving (I was serious and indifferent cause really I didn't know whether to approach her or nah

[Anonymous]

She sees u as a friend

[randonetguy]

Yeah, that might be.
Remember, I only proposed to come to my library (by keeping her a seat).
Never proposed a coffee or even to hang out, never.

So honestly everything was on a "studying" basis... not a relationship or trying with her... so yeah, she might've seen that basically as a "hang out" proposal, but realistically it was just to change library and study like we always did... this might give more points to the fact that she thinks that I got offended instead of "she was never interested"

[Opinion Owner]

She’s busy dude. How old are u both

[randonetguy]

nah we both bachelor students, youngins

[Opinion Owner]

She sees u as a brother

[WoundedCatalyst]

Ask her for coffee. Have some confidence

[In_Trance]

Troll

[randonetguy]

who, me? I'm not kidding

Why would it look like a troll? Seems too much of a crazy story?