Are there women that prefer dominant but quiet men?

[Anonymous]

I mean guys without many friends that still confidently pursue their interests and have a successful life and good attitude? I'm.trying to convince my friend he needs to open up, start drinking, smile more and hit on women in clubs.

[Anonymous]

I think so. I'm not sure what you mean by dominant but I would describe my boyfriend that way.

hes not shy, but he's quiet. if anything, I'm the loud one, the one who can't ever shut up. and I think on the surface people sometimes think that I'm calling the shots just because I am very opinionated and vocal about things, but he really does wear the pants in relationship. he generally makes the more important decisions we have, and we don't have too many as a couple because we don't have children and we aren't married (yet!) but if we were in that situation, I trust him enough as a man and a leader to have the final say on important issues. he's the type that will ask me what I think, discuss it with me first, before making any rash decisions, so I trust him to take the lead and it feels good to let down my guard when I'm with him. I'm so used to being the independent woman, but he just wants to take care of me, so I let him. I also take care of him to, just in different ways.

so yes, I'm not submissive in terms of personality, but definitely in terms of my role in the relationship. Its not extreme though, like I voice my opinion all the time. he's not abusive or oppressive so I don't want to hear any of that sh*t, he's a good man who likes to be in control and I find that sexy and attractive, which is why I'm dating him, not you (to those who don't approve). :)

In bed, he's definitely dominant. and because he's not the loud, aggressive type in public, you don't really see that coming. I know I didn't lol we have a great sex life, and part of that is due to the fact that we both love to please, but he's always in the masculine role, I'm always the very feminine. and when I say dominant in bed, I mean he's a little aggressive and rough at times, he LOVES to spank me/whip my ass, dirty talking, he's strong and things like that. even when he's gentle he's still in control. even when I'm riding him on top, he still has a way of touching me and talking to me that makes him seem very dominant. plus he tends to order me around and pull my hair. lol I'm very active, so I'm not one of those girls who says she's sexually submissive and means she doesn't do sh*t lol I do a lot, I love being on top, I love strip teasing for him in sexy lingerie, I definitely tell him when I want sex, etc.

I wouldn't call him shy, he's just quiet. even so, as an extrovert, I couldn't tell if he was dominant or not. the guys I always thought would be dominant were the ones who I ended up walking all over in the end. I'm like that usually, but with him I'm different and I don't know why. I guess its the difference between trusting and loving someone, and admiring silent strength, and just liking someone and seeing through the noise they make to see weakness.

[Anonymous]

to me, these type of guys are the ultimate turn on. thyey're not show off, they don't rely on people's attention and the fact that they are dominant makes them not afraid to pursue women they're interested in.

Is your friend like this and are you trying to change him because he doesn't approach women and has a hard time keeping a conversation with someone?

[Asker]

He doesn't say more than 5 words at a time to most people and it creeps most people out. He's had girlfriends but they don't last long.

[Anonymous]

I"m sure there are some women out there that prefer men who are quiet, dont' drink, and don't hit on women in clubs or go to clubs at all. I'm with a man that is quiet, doesn't drink and doesn't go clubbing at all (he can't dance) and I'm happy with that.

[Anonymous]

How are women supposed to be able to tell a shy guy apart from a friendless quiet guy who is somehow "dominant" ?

If the quiet guy in every way resembles a typically shy guy, that should give you the answer.

[Asker]

Well to be fair its pretty easy to see fear or nervousness in someone if you know them. Shy guys are usually jittery. Quiet guys I've known have always had very calm and slow moves.

[Opinion Owner]

That's if you know them.

For girls who don't, there's no difference.

That's why dominant men don't emulate shy guys.

[Cantremember]

There are. And I feel like that's really who I am too.

Wouldn't suggest on the drinking though.

[elements]

Personally, excessive drinking and going to clubs = not for me. So I wouldn't mesh well with someone who was into that kind of thing.

Someone who is quiet, but still confident and works to achieve goals he's set out is incredibly attractive.

[Anonymous]

sure why not. if we ad that connection

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a good catch for sure :)