I really like a girl, but I'm too shy to approach her...any ideas?

[Anonymous]

I like this girl, A LOT! but whenever I see her in the local bars and clubs, I just cannot summon the courage to approach her (yeah I know, pathetic right?). I'm 25 and she is 21, so we're not in school, and apart from one mutual friend, our social circles don't intersect what so ever. I'm all out of ideas. Should I tell the friend we both share that I like her, and hope the news reaches her through the grapevine? I'm clueless.

Any advice is much appreciated and many thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

I am terribly shy also and it is very problematic in these situations, I know.

You could try the grapevine approach. I've had luck with that. But then if she doesn't respond you won't know if she's just not interested or if she never got the right message. So leaving it in someone else's hands might be a wash. In which case you will be back to square one where the ball is in your court.

So then your only option is to approach her. At some point you will have to interact directly with her anyway. I think there's an element of truth to drinking a bit because it lowers inhibitions; it's much easier to approach people when you are not deadlocked in nervous dread. You could try sending her a drink or simply saying, "Hi, I'm so and so, I've seen you around," because that's not very forward, lets her know you're a nice guy, and is a good place to start a conversation from because it can easily progress in any number of ways from there.

This I know: the more comfortable you are, the more comfortable she will be. Don't stare at her too intensely or lustfully without smiling because it will make her uneasy. Also try practicing conversing with a friend doing role playing if possible.

I think that's your best bet. Good luck!

[babyygirl7]

i read the comments xD Okay , first off don't tell people their a d*ck like wtf you just said your shy . Ha , don't seem like you shy too me ! Shoot , stop being a p*ssy and walk up too her since you claim that you love her A LOT ! K , bye ( :

[Asker]

I asked for advice, but instead got someone telling me to get my penis out and take her to the bathroom. I think he deserved being called a Dick personally. I also didn't claim to love anybody. I live in the real world, I don't love people I barely know. You clearly have no life, as you commented on here just to vent some anger, so I'm happy you released some pent up frustration, but next time at least put some sort of advice in as well. Thanks anyway retard.

[babyygirl7]

I have a lot of anger ? Please . That was my advice and okay since you don't love her then get too know her and stop trying to get on people's head . And I never said too have sex with her ? Um , wtf . Alright , whatever . You want advice here's my advice: Stop being shy , grow some balls , and get too know her ! That's it 3 simple steps , but don't take the second one so literally .

[Asker]

No anger? I think we can all see that's not true.

And also, what the hell does; "...stop trying to get on peoples head" mean? That sentence makes no sense. whatever, thanks for your, ahem...advise...if I can call it that, I really appreciate it, I think?

[babyygirl7]

Its a quote us 'young people' use dumbass

[Asker]

You young people? I'm 25, not 40.

[babyygirl7]

Okay and ?

[Anonymous]

Just smile to her and start a conversation, maybe say you have a mutual friend So you can start from somewhere...Dont waste the chance to talk to her So you can know her better, just say to yourself I am a great guy and I can have her

[Asker]

Okay...did you read the question? The whole point of it was that I'm too shy to talk to her.

[Opinion Owner]

You need to get over it, If you really want her...yes I read the question, there is no reason to be So shy...a girl will appreciate that you step out of your comfort zone...

[Asker]

Okay, I apologize for being blunt, but I always get the same response when I ask this question; "just talk to her". But thanks for your time, and you're probably right, I should just talk to her.

[Opinion Owner]

There isn't any other way than talk to her I mean you could ask the guy to introduce her to you but it would be braver and Seems better If you have the guts to talk to her

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Just talk to her, since you are too shy to talk to her, make sure to drink a six pack of beer before. When you feel like you are Mr. Casanova go straight up to her. Tell her how gorgeous you think she is, then pull out your willy. The very fact that you have the balls to do that will have her so wet she will inevitably take you to the bath room and ride you like an African antelope.

No need to thank me bro.

[Asker]

You are a d***. Thanks for wasting my time.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

I think you should really consider it. Point being, trying and missing is better than not trying at all. It is not like you will die or something!

[Asker]

Apologies for calling you a d***, but that was some stupid advice. However, from your second comment, I realize that yes, I should just do it, otherwise I'll never know.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Dick is not really an insult.