I'm very worried because my girlfriend keeps losing weight?

[Anonymous]

Last year my girlfriend decided to lose some weight. I liked her the way she was but I thought if she felt uncomfortable she should lose some.

She went from 140 to 110 lbs during the last year and she's perfect now. Maybe even a bit too skinny. She definitely shouldn't lose more weight, not only that it wouldn't be attractive but I'm afraid it might actually very unhealthy as she said she wants to lose at least another 20 lbs.

I told her how I feel about this and she suddenly started to get really mad and yelling at me that she knows what she's doing.

I don't want to tell her what to do, but I'm really getting worried. Any advice?

I thought about talking to her parents maybe, but I'm not sure if that's a good idea

[rachiee]

It sounds like she does have an obsession with losing weight. This is common for a lot of girls who see their weight dropping and liking the results. When you talked to her, were you calm? I've battled with the same thing she has and its not something you are accepting of talking about to other people. When my parents got involved I hated it, and honestly it didn't help me much at all other than made me think that they were talking about me behind my back. My suggestion to you is that you show her that you care and that she's beautiful. Make her feel beautiful, go out of your way to pamper her. Cook her dinner, take her for a picnic if it's not too cold where you are, take her to new restaurants, etc. Get her to eat without her knowing. But your best bet is to make her feel cared for and beautiful. Usually weight problems like these stem from low self esteem and a lot of times them not being happy.

[Twilixt]

Talk to her parents! She probably is showing the signs of anorexia, or at least an unhealthy body image. She might need to see someone to help straighten her body image issues out.

The ONLY PEOPLE who should be under 100lbs should be under 5 feet tall.

[jacquesvol]

in many countries in Europe doctors consider that , no matter the heigth, under 40 kg or 100lbs is a tell tale sign of anorexia and justifies hospitalization.

[Twilixt]

I would typically agree with that description, but I know some very short girls who are healthy at just under 100 lbs. Although, they are quite literally 4'8'' and 4'9''. They are sisters. Poor things have to shop in the children's department.

[Anonymous]

i think you should talk to her parents and maybe they can bring her to the doctors. if she going down this path, she's going to wind up anorexic and that's not good

[WoIIie]

She believes she's right, so nothing short of letting her spiral out of control will change that. She will never listen to reason unless she accepts the reality that what she is doing is very unhealthy. Of course, if you've got lots of money you can seek a therapist's help.

It could be all talk at first. See if she follows through with this. A lot of times these outrageous goals are blurted out for shock effect and attention. She may need emotional reinforcement.

[martyfellow]

The clearest sign it's becoming a mental disorder is when they can't discuss it rationially or take any criticism.

Ever tried to reason with a Marcy Bachmann supporter? Or an Obama fiend? Then you know what I mean.

She's headed for anorexia if she's not already there. Get her help if you can, talk to her family and friends. You can help her, you can't help the political addicts such as the ones I jut mentioned.

[Anonymous]

Show her Karen Carpenter videos - the early days and then what she looked like when she got anorexia.

[WoIIie]

Good plan.

[jacquesvol]

Here's a set of photographs of Isabelle Caro, French model who died from anorexia in Nov 2009: link

[jacquesvol]

Here's bit of background on Isabelle Car from Wikipedia: link Here's a bit more: link

[jacquesvol]

A bit more here: link

[Opinion Owner]

Karen Carpenter interview link