Is it bad that I want my girlfriend to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is 5'3 and 165 lbs. She works out and is in decen't shape, but she still has a chubby belly.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not really, but there's a right way to say and approach it without upsetting her.

Just tell her that you've noticed she has a little belly, and would like to help her lose weight. Offer to workout with her!

Also, belly weight is mostly diet (sodas, junk food, etc). So that will require her adjusting her diet as well. Eat right with her, or offer to cook occasionally. Belly weight/abs are the hardest thing for a female to lose... trust me, I know. I too work out religiously and I STILL have a freaking belly! : So that mostly comes down to diet -and- exercise. If you encourage and workout with her, that should help.

[2244001]

Yes. I'm 5'8 and 163 last I weighed and I still got a chubby belly too. If you really love her, you should accept her for who she is. If weight is an issue for you with her, discuss it and if she feels happy with the way she looks then let it be. If it's her goal as well to lose weight then motivate her.

[adidas0169]

You got so much to learn young pup! Yes and no. its not your position to say it unless she ask your opinion. its like saying I think your cute and all but your still a fat ass. how would you feel if she said hey babe can you lose some weight your gut isn't cutting it for me anymore. probably pissed off or hurt. if you told most girls or women hey you need to lose some weight your getting a gut is a sure fire way of not getting any for awhile and she will find someone else that doesn't mind the belly to give it to her.

[ohsheeT]

No it's not bad at all but what could be bad is how you're telling her are you telling her or are you taking her by the hand and walking around the block with her are you making her meals her dinners so it's the right foods are you not buying sugar water or candy or cookies or cake there's all different types of weight to help in a positive manner you can't just say lose weight if you are her partner be her partner and everything and lose weight with her or tone up with her

[Apple1996]

If she's goes to the gym then she's probably already working on herself. I don't get why you'd say something

[pervertedjester]

Seems to be a problem for you. Not the line of guys that''ll swoop in after you.

[BadApple69]

No it’s not bad. And although your girlfriend might not be happy with you saying it, if she lost the weight she would be more happy too.
Todays world has gone nuts… it’s not about fat shaming or any BS like that. It’s about being healthier. Being over weight is NOT healthy. Plus your girlfriend will feel better and look better.


It’s not bad but you need to approach it carefully. Good luck!

[Bricealan]

Not a bad thing at all. I bust my ass to stay 'trim' and I feel the same way about a partner I may have. That has always been the case for me, and only had one 'slightly' heavy girlfriend and she did lose 20Lbs without any encouragement or suggestion on my part.

[Anonymous]

You want what you want. I'm not sure it's best practice to focus on such things and it's quite superficial but at least it's something she can work on if she wants to.

Make sure you don't pass on that you are dissatisfied with her current shape though. It may adversely affect her overall efforts.

If you approach it at all, it needs to be from her perspective, her needs, and her efforts being encouraged.

[madhatters4]

i don't think it's bad but i also hope that you appreciate her regardless. suggesting steps towards being more healthy is fine. but at some point it's either appreciate the person or move on right?

[Kaamraj]

Not at all, I am speaking about traditional relationships which is an exchange between the woman's youth and beauty and the mans provisioning. If one party is not holding their end of the bargain, they should be reminded of the same.

[Anonymous]

No, but remember 2 things. Try to help her along with it... such as doing it with her (swimming, etc), so it doesn't come off holier than thou. And 2. By doing so... be the best version of you for HER that you can too, otherwise it's just coming off as hypocrisy.

[molonski2]

You are doing her a massive favor , she needs to loose weight alright no doubt about it , it needs to be lifestyle , you are enhancing her life , and longevity.

[petitedollbabee]

Are you yourself in really good shape with a flat stomach? 165lbs for her height is healthy. I don’t understand why you’d want her to lose weight, unless you yourself are extremely fit.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'8 187.5lbs used to be 185 but i keep the weight on so i can lift heavier and to keep bigger guys off me

if she's 5'3 165 then she should lose some but talk to her about it in a gentle manner because stuff like that can be upsetting to a person

[rachel776]

[sheikalana]

Is not necessarily bad especially if it is for health reasons. You just need to be very careful with how you say it to her since this is a very sensitive topic.

[Bairavaa01]

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[butterly248]

No please don't joke about that

[butterly248]

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[Bairavaa01]

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[butterly248]

I was saying about suicide

[Bairavaa01]

@butterly248 You know me too well. Indeed, I do listen to Andrew.

[Bairavaa01]

@butterly248 Suicide is good for the people who deserve it. Faggot especially, they should experience the worse of the punishments for their heinous immorality.

[DreamLife7]

🤣🤣

[butterly248]

I could tell by what you are writing @Bairavaa01

[DreamLife7]

Lmfaooooo

[slatyb]

Will you stay with her if she does not? Don't stay with her if you cannot love her as she is.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a bad thing to want, but would you be okay if she didn’t? Like if she continued being active but the weight or tummy, for some reason, doesn’t go away?

[DextroShade]

She is obese and definitely needs to lose weight not just for aesthetic reasons but for her own health.

[Asker]

According to BMI calculator she isn't obese but is overweight. And her health is good. She goes to the gym 3-4 times a week and is in decent physical shape. But she isn't losing any weight, probably because she eats a bit more than she should...

[DreamLife7]

Yeah she's definitely overweight. She should be at least 120lbs since her height is 5'3

[Sasha0426]

Dude, that’s not obese. Have you ever seen an actual obese person? They’re dangerously fat where they literally can’t move. Her girlfriend isn’t obese.

[DreamLife7]

@sasha0426 are you American? Americans tend to fat praise.

[Sasha0426]

@DreamLife7 I am, but I’m not fat praising. Hell, I’m trying to lose weight myself. But, I was simply saying there’s a difference between obese and fat.

[RavVid]

No. She doesn't have a right to be 165 lbs at 5' 3"

[Wonderingguyy]

I mean if she’s happy with herself and healthy it shouldn’t bother you

[Anonymous]

Nope very good! My girlfriend wants me to work out but I'm so busy and work just drains me!

So wanna be skinny for her!