Is it bad that I want my girlfriend to lose weight?

Question

My girlfriend is 5'3 and 165 lbs. She works out and is in decen't shape, but she still has a chubby belly.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Not really, but there's a right way to say and approach it without upsetting her.

Just tell her that you've noticed she has a little belly, and would like to help her lose weight. Offer to workout with her!

Also, belly weight is mostly diet (sodas, junk food, etc). So that will require her adjusting her diet as well. Eat right with her, or offer to cook occasionally. Belly weight/abs are the hardest thing for a female to lose... trust me, I know. I too work out religiously and I STILL have a freaking belly! : So that mostly comes down to diet -and- exercise. If you encourage and workout with her, that should help.

2244001 · Accepted Answer

Yes. I'm 5'8 and 163 last I weighed and I still got a chubby belly too. If you really love her, you should accept her for who she is. If weight is an issue for you with her, discuss it and if she feels happy with the way she looks then let it be. If it's her goal as well to lose weight then motivate her.

adidas0169 · Accepted Answer

You got so much to learn young pup! Yes and no. its not your position to say it unless she ask your opinion. its like saying I think your cute and all but your still a fat ass. how would you feel if she said hey babe can you lose some weight your gut isn't cutting it for me anymore. probably pissed off or hurt. if you told most girls or women hey you need to lose some weight your getting a gut is a sure fire way of not getting any for awhile and she will find someone else that doesn't mind the belly to give it to her.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No it's not bad at all but what could be bad is how you're telling her are you telling her or are you taking her by the hand and walking around the block with her are you making her meals her dinners so it's the right foods are you not buying sugar water or candy or cookies or cake there's all different types of weight to help in a positive manner you can't just say lose weight if you are her partner be her partner and everything and lose weight with her or tone up with her

Apple1996 · Answer

If she's goes to the gym then she's probably already working on herself. I don't get why you'd say something

pervertedjester · Answer

Seems to be a problem for you. Not the line of guys that''ll swoop in after you.

BadApple69 · Answer

No it’s not bad. And although your girlfriend might not be happy with you saying it, if she lost the weight she would be more happy too.
Todays world has gone nuts… it’s not about fat shaming or any BS like that. It’s about being healthier. Being over weight is NOT healthy. Plus your girlfriend will feel better and look better.

It’s not bad but you need to approach it carefully. Good luck!

Bricealan · Answer

Not a bad thing at all. I bust my ass to stay 'trim' and I feel the same way about a partner I may have. That has always been the case for me, and only had one 'slightly' heavy girlfriend and she did lose 20Lbs without any encouragement or suggestion on my part.

Anonymous · Answer

You want what you want. I'm not sure it's best practice to focus on such things and it's quite superficial but at least it's something she can work on if she wants to.

Make sure you don't pass on that you are dissatisfied with her current shape though. It may adversely affect her overall efforts.

If you approach it at all, it needs to be from her perspective, her needs, and her efforts being encouraged.

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't think it's bad but i also hope that you appreciate her regardless. suggesting steps towards being more healthy is fine. but at some point it's either appreciate the person or move on right?

Kaamraj · Answer

Not at all, I am speaking about traditional relationships which is an exchange between the woman's youth and beauty and the mans provisioning. If one party is not holding their end of the bargain, they should be reminded of the same.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but remember 2 things. Try to help her along with it... such as doing it with her (swimming, etc), so it doesn't come off holier than thou. And 2. By doing so... be the best version of you for HER that you can too, otherwise it's just coming off as hypocrisy.

molonski2 · Answer

You are doing her a massive favor , she needs to loose weight alright no doubt about it , it needs to be lifestyle , you are enhancing her life , and longevity.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Are you yourself in really good shape with a flat stomach? 165lbs for her height is healthy. I don’t understand why you’d want her to lose weight, unless you yourself are extremely fit.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 5'8 187.5lbs used to be 185 but i keep the weight on so i can lift heavier and to keep bigger guys off me

if she's 5'3 165 then she should lose some but talk to her about it in a gentle manner because stuff like that can be upsetting to a person

sheikalana · Answer

Is not necessarily bad especially if it is for health reasons. You just need to be very careful with how you say it to her since this is a very sensitive topic.

Bairavaa01 · Answer

You stupid faggot, kill yourself. The corruptors are the worse of the creatures.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not bad per se, it is all how you approach the subject.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not a bad thing to want, but would you be okay if she didn’t? Like if she continued being active but the weight or tummy, for some reason, doesn’t go away?

DextroShade · Answer

She is obese and definitely needs to lose weight not just for aesthetic reasons but for her own health.

RavVid · Answer

No. She doesn't have a right to be 165 lbs at 5' 3"

slatyb · Answer

Will you stay with her if she does not? Don't stay with her if you cannot love her as she is.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I mean if she’s happy with herself and healthy it shouldn’t bother you

Anonymous · Answer

Nope very good! My girlfriend wants me to work out but I'm so busy and work just drains me! So wanna be skinny for her!

DiegoO · Answer

If you ask her if she wants to go to the gym with you, or workout with you, you shouldn't question whathever yes/no she gives you.

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell her she needs to lose weight if you’re gonna keep dating her. If she starts crying just tell her you just want her to be healthy or just make something up like how you just care too much about her wellness.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Ok, if she works out, what’s the problem? She’s trying.

Grovermint · Answer

She might decide to drop you and lose weight like that.

hardboiledink · Answer

No but she will be resistant. You gotta be kind to her and support what she wants

DreamLife7 · Answer

No offense but 165 lbs with her height being 5'3 is overweight. I'm surprise she's not experiencing any issues.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No  I started bringing mine to the gym with me I’m teaching her to kick box

scooogy · Answer

It's your preferences, but in my opinion a belly should not hang over.

OddBeMe · Answer

No but come at it like you’re gonna lose weight. Will you do it with me?

REX_JSWL · Answer

No it's nothing wrong with it Loosing weight means you want her to fit and what's wrong with that

Anonymous · Answer

Do her a solid and dump her. Tell her that you’re shallow and a loser and remind her that she can do better

Anonymous · Answer

No, not as long as you don't nag her about it constantly. Consider asking her to join a gym together.

Drewtate · Answer

No it's reasonable. She can only get fatter

butterly248 · Answer

You gotta speak to her

jahaims · Answer

As long as you have the same standards sure

riverrat3 · Answer

Exercise and diet with her

In_Trance · Answer

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