Why is my girlfriend so stupid!?

[Anonymous]

So its my birthday (yippee!) and I'm finally 21. Now my girlfriend got me a present for the weekend which is a hotel room where we can do whatever we want. Now that's all fine and dandy except for the fact that this is the same present she gave her ex boyfriend a month before they broke up. One of her coworkers told me about it this morning in class and I was just like wtf?! I'm so pissed at her! I confronted her earlier about it and she fuking denied it until I told her that kim had told me about already. Then she came clean and said we could still have fun but I told her to go fuk herself and go to the room by herself. Why the hell would I want the same thing as her ex!? Seriously I can't be the only person who sees this is wrong can i? So should I spend my birthday with my buddies or with her? I'm so offended that she would treat me the same way as her ex!

[Anonymous]

wow that sucks, I understand your frustration. why would she recycle a gift of sex that she gave to an ex which obviously is bad because they aren't together anymore, so why would you do something that didn't work in the first place. Plus to treat a completely different man, a different lover the same as the last one implies that she does not care and it's impersonal and ingenuous. I don't think she is thinking it in the realm of a previous failure. Because in the big picture it is a great gift but I think she is thinking of the fact that she is giving you free range for a night and that is a good gift BUT again she probably was not thinking of the fact that the gift has already been given AND she lied about it! that sucks sorry

[Asker]

Thanks, a lot of the girls here think its okay, I would NEVER give the same exact gift to her that I gave to one of my exes.

[Opinion Owner]

I get it, try taking it easy on this girl though, I don't think she was intentionally trying to hurt you or be sketchy in anyway, try to keep it in perspective too, I mean do you really love this girl? Is it so offensive and hurtful if it's just for fun besides it's not the same thing as say killing your dog in anger or sleeping with another guy. There are worse things she could have done. Nevertheless, HAPPY 21st BIRTHDAY! Congratulations, have a great time!

[Opinion Owner]

hey thanks for the BA, best of luck with everything

[DrunkLove]

I don't see anything wrong with this at all. It's not like it's a big unquie thing that was special to her relationship with him, something that only they did together. All couples get hotel rooms, do you really think she can never ever get a hotel room ever again cause she did it with her ex? I think you should talk to her about it and go away with her. She was nice enough to book and pay for this for you, it's not like she's took you to a special place only her and her ex did together, like I said, everyone has hotel rooms. I used to go to the beach with my ex, does that mean I can't go to the beach ever again with my current boyfriend? Its silly.

[Asker]

Its the exact same present she gave her ex, why wouldn't it bother me?

[DrunkLove]

Because your saying she can't ever go to a hotel room with you because she did it with someone else? Does that mean she can never get you a birthday card because she also gave her ex one? Or can't go out to eat with you because she did that with her ex too? Think about it.

[Asker]

I didn't say we couldn't go to a hotel room. I said I didt watthe sane damn gift she gave her ex. It only reminds me she banged him in a room similar to the one she got. Why would I want to think about that on my birthday?

[DrunkLove]

I really don't see your problem but clearly you have a big issue with it. I'd try and talk to her about it, tell her thanks for the offer but you'd rather do something else on your birthday. She might understand, but I think most girls will think it's silly and that your overeacting. Good luck anyway.

[Lett0385]

Spend Time with your friends, she's obviously dumb, why would a girl want to repeat with you what she did with her EX on their Bday night. that's sick!

plus she wasn't honest with you and that's another problem she has!

[Asker]

Exactly! All I can think about now is how her ex boyfriend banged her in a hotel room. My brother and I rent an apartment so we can do it in my room.

[bonebux]

Well, if you were the girlfriend would you want to ruin your bf's birthday surprise by saying, "yeah I did this with my ex before we broke up!"? Personally I wouldn't lie about it either but I could see why she might have lied on the spot

[Theguyoverthere]

I don't see a problem with it personally. If it was a ring or something she wanted to give you, I wouldn't want it. But this is an event. She may not have been able to cancel the reservation too for all you know. So it woulda possibly been wasting money away for nothing. If it was something that was gonna be sentimental and held onto I would be offended but not this.

[cvxbx25]

wow. that's f***ed up I'm pissed just by reading what your sayin. if she gonna treat you like she did her ex she's not the one for you.

[3336PS]

I agree with you. Move on. She seem to have something hung up.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't know she'd recycle the same stupid idea, especially one that reminds her of her ex.

[Angel2393]

Uhm. your over thinking it. Sometimes I think my ideas I had with my exes are still good ones so I would love to do them with my current boyfriend who I love 689568954 times more. you never know her reasoning

[Asker]

I don't know but I just took it really personaly, I'm not her ex, I sure as hell don't want to be treated like him.

[Anonymous]

So she got a hotel room for her ex, and now it is wrong to get a hotel room for you? Lots of couples get hotel rooms...so what? Dude, she did something thoughtful for you and you're being a total a-hole. Get over it, and go have fun, and stop worrying about the past. It's over.

[Asker]

It pisses me off regardless, especially because she lied to my face about it.

[Dhoover82]

Dude, you are acting like a little bitch. You need to be dumped..

[Alanaaa]

What is wrong with you ..

[CatholicVirginia]

Dump her!

You don't deserve her anyway.

[Anonymous]

dono't be a big baby. get over it

[Asker]

No haha