Most girls like to go on dates or just overall go out and have a good time, something that often requires money. It's annoying to hang out with let alone date someone who is broke. I've had friends who are broke and they can NEVER afford anything so we can't go horse back riding, shopping, to the movies, to an amusement park or do anything that's really fun. It's the same principle for dating except you may be expected to pay for him because he has no money and that's stressful! I know a girl who has a gorgeous guy into her, he played football in college and all; but as soon as she found out he's unemployed, she got turned off. We're in our 20's and at this phase of life, guys need to take it to the next level ( steady income).
There's gotta be a job you could even just get working at a gym or at a restaurant to even just pick up a bit of cash. I don't mean to make you feel bad or anything, but it's irriatting when you're dating someone who has no money. If I was a guy, I'd feel the same because I'd always be expected to pick up her slack.
For me, it's not a matter of income or even of being employed. It's more about responsibility and potential. If you left your job to go to college and are having trouble finding a new one, I would totally respect that. It's hard to get a job right now no matter how qualified you are, and as long as you are doing something for the purpose of your future (going to school or actively looking for a job) I will not hold unemployment against you. You might not be single because of your unemployment but because of something else- indeed, your depression in itself could be a hindering factor in your love life.
Right now your main priority should be a job. I know it sucks being single all of the time. But that's a major part of your life that needs to be taken care of right now. I am sort of in the same boat. My ex broke up with me during one of the toughest times in my life. But instead of chasing him down begging and pleading for him to take me back I am focusing on taking care of what really matters right now...My financial status, which right now is broke and semi unemployed.
It's all about financial stability. If you don't have a job, it shows to a girl that you can't really support her, let alone yourself. If you aren't willing to at least find a job, then I wouldn't recommend asking women out.. As they put a damper in your wallet anyway..
If your'e both in college(in a university living in a university town), then it's not that a big of a deal though.
Just know that most girls want a guy who isn't lazy and has some kind of direction in his life. If you at least have an internship or trying to find a job, that's better than nothing--and I'm sure most girls (depending on how old both of you are) will be willing to give you a chance!
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I don't like to date guys with no potential. One reason I broke up with my ex is because he decided to take a year off before university that is turning into two or more and was in a dead-end job. I'm at university and work a part-time job. I'm driven and if I want something I'm gonna go for it. I don't care if a guy is employed or not as long as he is in school or trying to be employed and better himself.
I dated my boyfriend and at that time (Jan 2010) that we started dating, I had a job and he didn't. Then in May of 2010, I was unemployed and he had a job. Then Feb 2011, he was unemployed and I was unemployed. Now he has a job and I'm still unemployed.
So yeah, I guess not all girls are like me.
as long as he was looking really hard and doing all the things you are doing.. I'd date him.. but if he had no interest and goals in life then no I wouldn't.
I was with a guy that was unemployed. Always got laid off. But now he finally found a job. I'm still looking for work though. It's very hard to find something these days.
i have a job, I have a good job. I can afford to pay my mortgage and to buy myself things. I'm not going to support you
Aren't guys supposed to care about a girl's personality and not her looks? Double standards hello.
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