Does anyone live with an elderly person? My grandma annoys me..

[Anonymous]

My grandma is 83 and is loosing her mind, she leaves the water running, she is always burning things in the kitchen... she takes forever to shop for groceries... and she is always in the way... she will just stand in the bathroom... in front of the fridge , In front of the washing machine... then when I try to walk around her she screams like she just saw a ghost. I love my grandma but if my dog were acting this way way I'd put him down... just to end his suffering... I feel like humans just cling on to life... My grandma is on dozens of pills... and is always having surgeries to fix her deteriorating body... I really hope I die when I am in my 40's or 50's. There is nothing wrong with death, why do we cling on for so long? Why can't we accept our fate?

I think if people had to live with someone like my grandma they would understand how I feel...

[vivianrule]

Hey girl! From the sound of it you're a woman cause let's face it men don't care about things like this.. well I'm 23 I'm young so I get it first and foremost but I'm also a caregiver for seniors.. and from my experience and her strange behavior she has some problem with memory weather it be dimentia, alshimers or sun downers.. (not the correct spelling) and seniors with conditions like this are literally loosing their mind and have no thought processing.. she's in a really tough place you couldn't even imagine... try redirecting her if you see her doing something weird talk to her ask her why she's doing that.. chances are she will say she "doesn't know" or she might talk about something that makes no sense depending on how extreme her case is.. also make sure she is taking her medication if you are living with her? Unproper (too much) dosage or NO dosage leads to severe side effects.. like standing in the dark.. running water.. spending 30 minutes looking at one thing, the funniest weirdest annoyingest things you can think of they do it.. but work with her she's your grandmother and you love her right? Just because someone annoys you or displeases you don't stop loving them or supporting them and if you've had it up to the sky with her being "annoying" then leave if you have no way to leave financially or due to a young age then you have no buisness making this post boo.. you cannot control people and their actions but u can control yours.. you're going to feel horrible when she's dead that you couldn't love her right while she's still here, and by the way she's not clinging to life at all she's obviously still here for a reason maybe to teach you an important life lesson.. infact most people over the age of 70 wish they were dead beacuse they feel so hopeless worthless and a burden.. be nice enjoy all the funny things she does lighten up!

[justme20]

my grandparents did so much stuff to annoy me. Try watching them die and them suffer and you will see how horrible it can be and you will eat your words and miss her dearly. Maybe you should stop being so selfish because one day you will do the same and your grand kids will feel the same about you

[JohnScofield]

I have seen deaths many times. I think it is a very personal thing. For many people death is something they are afraid of... and that is why they cling to life. For others they have no fear. And for some, I think they just don't think about it and then suddenly it is upon them.

In the case of your grandmother, perhaps her mind started to go before she could think about it... but here is the deal... or the question. What would you have her do? Had she been capable of knowing how things were going to go with her body, what would you have had her do? A hypothetical question that I am not asking an answer for. It is not an easy question.

Finally I would like to commend you for what you are doing... it is not easy and it is very noble. It sounds like you are frustrated and tired and I am sorry for that. Take it a day at a time and know that if she could, your grandmother would be thankful that it is family taking care of her and not some stranger.

Hang in there...

[Asker]

I'm doing fine, in my mind she died a long time ago now she is just a zombie. On the phone to her sister, she always talks about how she wants to die... I wish suicide were legal in this country. But drug companies have to make their money somehow right?

[sfauo]

You are definitely in an incredibly difficult situation. It's never easy living with someone who requires so much attention.

But honestly, your attitude should be more understanding towards her. Do you want your grandkids to feel the same way about you, regardless of whether you decide to live with them or not?

As someone who dearly loves his own grandmother, you're being pretty messed up about it.