How to get a girl out of a funk?

[boi818]

My girlfriend has been going through a lot of stress and drama lately, at times not feeling so good. I've been trying to cheer her up but I'm feeling like I can't come up with any good ideas on how to do so.

plz help..what can I do?

[thatssotera]

I am a girl who has been through some stuff lately, and in a funk would probably be a good descriptor. I know you want to make your girlfriend happy, but sometimes you can't fix everything.

What you can do is spend time with her, give her a back rub, and take her out. It's really all you can do, but the more you are there for her, probably the better. Some great sex doesn't hurt either,hahaha. But you can't control whether or not she chooses to enjoy something anyway.

I think this is a really common problem, and it is really hard, because it can be a drag on you too, and I'm sure she doesn't want to put you through that.

Last weekend, I went out with my boyfriend to a place we had never been before, a hookah bar, to do something we had never done before smoke a hookah lol, and it was fun. It really made all the difference to me over the easter holiday, because I could look back and remember the fun we had. Smoking is probably not your thing, but I think the point is it was a relaxing activity, and we got to connect with each other.

You can try to make her laugh, too, Laughing is really good for people.

Tonight, I was supposed to go to the birthday party of one of his friends, but I didn't go because I felt sick. I'm really glad that this time around, I didn't HAVE to go, I mean I haven't been feeling well lately, and it's a Tuesday night.

I am always happy to see my boyfriend, and tell the truth kind of stressed when I can't find him. I like hanging out with him, and I always look forward to it, that is when I'm not having a cry fest.

If you take her out, you might want to go for something that doesn't take a lot of energy, like eating dinner and/or cuddling.

You can't give her everything she needs, so don't beat yourself up for that. Sooner or later though, she is going to bounce back. If she's in a rut, there's really no telling how long it's going to be. It's also a good time to focus on your friendships, because often other people have ideas to offer, and support. I hope everything works out for you and her! :)

[fendt936]

Well if she's the romantic type you need to capture her with the element f surprise, for example (i'd really cherish this if a guy did it to me...)

the 10 Reasons Why I Love You Game:

you will need:

-permanent marker

- rose petals

- a few packets of preferably red balloons ( you know..romantic colour)

- 11 sheets of paper, pen and envelope

- a needle and some sticky tape

Chose a day were you know she'l be away for a while and you have easy access to her room (or your room if your sharing). If she's a home kinda gal then book her a day away, maybe at a spa, thatl be a bonus to relieve some stress. But ya need to be prepared ta spend the money

Write on 10 sheets of paper (which would need to be relatively sall pieces of paper) 10 reasons why you love her, one reason for each sheet, when your done fold these 10 reasons up and put them inside 10 different balloons.

Blow up all the ballons you have, this could mean enough to fill the room. then on a balloon with nothing inside it write "START" on it in huge bold writing, write her a little love note explaining the aim of the game telling her amongst the many balloons she has to find the ones containing the 10 reasons, AND DONT FORGET TO TELL HER YOU LOVE HER. stick the needle to the bottom of the note then put this note into an envelope then stick it to the front of that balloon that says "START"

lastly for the added effect sprinkle rose petals everywhere and don't forget to take pictures of the whole event, it will be a reaallyy different totally unexpected idea :D

[Anonymous]

First, don't take responsibility for cheering her up. That's her job! If you begin feeling responsible for her behavior then she could blame you for how she feels.

What you can do is change the subject to something light and fun if she begins acting stressed. Do something nice like write her a cute note and leave it in her purse for her to find during the day when she is at work. Cook her dinner one night, her favorite foods, not yours.

If she want's to cheer up, she will. If not, there really isn't anything you can do about it.

[loddo]

make a real effort to listen to her and acknowledge/validate how she feels about things without offering any suggestions or resolutions, just listen with empathy. it works for me/mine.

[Blindness]

It's not your job to cheer her up.

But if you make it your job, it'll be your job for as long as you date her.

[jdrake4360]

Get her out of the area you live in for a day and plan something fun and pampering for her with you by her side. I hear a spa treatment is a wonderful thing even for a couple to do together. Pick out some other activities to do that you know she would love.

[4u2nv]

Date...

take her out on a picnic

take her to a movie she wants to see

go on a romantic walk & watch the stars

take her out to eat at her favorite restaurant.

play laser tag

or just do something fun you'd know she'd like

You should just take her mind off things and go have some fun!

She needs to go out the house and have some fun =]

[Christyd87]

Honestly I just like to take 15 or 20 minutes out of the day and lie down in bed with my guy and talk. I don't want answers or help, I just want him to listen and hold me, and tell me it will all be okay.

[Caramelbabe]

make her feel like a princess, we love that! Take her to disneyland that's one of the places that you guys will forget about everything and will be all about you guys. Go to a romantic dinner with candle lights. Let her know that you are here for her and everything it's gonna be ok.

[pinklady84]

Be normal. Any kind of forced fun activity reminds her of her sadness. Make her laugh when the opportunity arrives but don't plan it.

[Anonymous]

im in a funk right now. the thing that makes me truly happy in the inside? my dad, loving me and supporting me no.matter.what.

[yummulexi91]

Fuck her(:

And eat her out too!

hahaha just being honest here