If a shy guy knows I like him then why is he not doing anything?

[Anonymous]

I know he likes me. I even texted him to ask me out already. But he wouldn't read the text. I know cos the would be a seen timestamp on it if he read it. He normally read all the text I sent him. Last week at work, I put my hand on the side of his waist just to let him know he's blocking the shelves and he just let my hand rest on his waist. He's really shy and private about himself. he doesn't look at other women except me and doesn't social. I don't know why he's avoiding reading my text. If he likes me it would be an encourage for him to make a move when I said to ask me out already, isn't it? Only answer if you are a shy guy...

[steven31]

well like you said he is shy. For whatever reason he is uncomfortable in certain social situations. Like me it was just the way I was raised, my family. But who knows. What you'll have to do is make him feel comfortable, not jugged at all. Try and get some private time with him alone, one on one, and communicate your feelings to him. Understand he may be very nervous so you will for some time have to be the one in charge of the situations, making all of the moves. When he builds his confidence and feels comfortable he should come around. Be positive and honest about what you like about him, tell him again and again and be very receptive to his responses because they may be very subtle. If you really like him and are willing to spend the time getting him to see whatever beautiful thing you see in him I think things maybe wonderful. Find out what makes him uncomfortable and help him through by explaining that his feelings are normal and find how others like him dealt with whatever specific feelings or problems he has. Only don't call them problems. Acceptance is the key. I'll tell you what for me kissing I think was the best way sometimes that I could communicate to a girl that I really liked but I was always too shy to make the first move. If you can kiss him I think that might work a little bit, at least it may let you know he likes you. Slow at first. Very slow, be patient because he's probably new at it but don't stop if you think at all that he likes it. That is only the physical side, which is an important side though. any way I could go on and on, good luck.

[VoiceOfReason]

Did you ever stop to realize the one thing that may be holding him back is because he's , uhmmmm, I dunno... SHY?

There are different degrees of shyness. There are some guys who are just plain scared to talk to women as a whole. Others can carry conversations with women but are afraid to convey their feelings to a girl. Then there are some who can express their feelings, but indirectly.

It's clear that you have let him know that you have interest in him but either he fears that there is still a remote chance of rejection or perhaps he may not see you in the same way you see him. As long as you're sitting in one corner waiting and he's sitting in the other corner over analyzing and doubting himself NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN.

Being that you're clearly the more outspoken one, if you truly have interest in him and he's not making moves then ASK HIM OUT? I know it generally is the guy who asks out the girl, but traditional roles are fading. Women are becoming more assertive and taking control of their own happiness.

If he feels the same way, that might just be what was needed to break hi out his shell. For some people, just because the writing is on the wall doesn't always mean we can still interpret the message so instead of leaving signs and dropping hints, remove all doubt and take the direct approach. It may be the only thing standing in the way of getting a response from him.

[washize]

lol You just said he was shy. Why don't you make the first move?

Also he may not be into you and avoiding the situation.

You should just talk to him about it, in person or on the phone. The only way he could avoid the topic is if he ran away.

[titoloco]

Because you are hunting the Prey known as the Shy guy a.k.a "SHY GUY"; he is known to have little social skills, be very reserved, almost gay looking, but still deep down a man. The technique to capture such a prey is to trap it. Plain and simple. Cut down all his escape roots, corner him and get a firm grip on that phone and press as fast as you can on those digits in front of him. The panic attack he will get once his phone is the one ringing will definitively get you a date. If he doesn't fall dead on the ground from the fear.

-_- Hunger games girl...hunger games.

[Modernman2006]

Lol

[looneymalooney]

made me laugh so hard...

[why-makoto-kun]

Lmao xD

[drewpacman]

I am definitely a shy guy.. Probably the reason why he didn't ask you out or anything is because he has never experienced love and is just scared. From my view I think you have to ask him out to a bar (get him drinking make it livley and fun!) and keep being persistent so he becomes comfortable with you so he can open up... that's all. Maybe you have to talk about yourself first ask him questions that are friendly.. don't come off as your that interested in him and speed the process, it takes time with shy guys like me and him.

[foxsquirrel]

I certainly can answer this question. So, he is not making the move because he is very shy simple. For example if it was me and I had a similar experience recently I would think that you don't find me attractive enough or that I don't deserve being with you cause you are too beautiful and think that you are kind of abusing of my character as you feel that I am shy and weak in those matters of social interactions and I might even think that you are kind of bullying me! Kind of playing around with me :(

[AlexNAVY]

Doubt - the eternal enemy of mankind. As a shy guy myself (or rather used to be) there were dozens of occasions on which I liked a girl and I knew she liked me back but only because of my DOUBT in what others told me and my own distorted calculation I always decided to stay aside.

I'm sorry to tell you this but either you step out first for him and do the dirty job you women usually leave up to the man to do or you wait for him to go through some dramatic transformation as I did not very long ago.

[DanAG]

You answered your own question, he's shy. That's what shy means. You can try asking him out yourself. But if he's shy enough even that might not work.

You are expecting him to make a move and it will probably never happen. You'll have to do it yourself. Stop hinting around and ask him out already.

[Tigurinn2]

^ the best answer to the question

[Anonymous]

shy guy here. got all kinds of signs from this girl over time. finally decided to just ask her as she was shy around me eventhough she is very social. She said no ! climbing walls is not enough to express how I feel in terms of frustration and disbelief in myself and my ability to receive signs. really shook me up. going to ask her again as the signs were there and want to see what was that all about

so previous experience might make him doubt your intentions... tell him you like him, say you feel something from him, this vibe. don't rush him and don't expect an answer right there on the spot, just tell him to think about it; tell him that he should call later or invite you out for bowling or to the movies if he feels the same... also try and let him know that if there's something holding him back you are willing to discuss it.

good luck

[Anonymous]

I am a very out going person but very shy and don't feel at ease round girls ,I can be the best fun guy at a party make lots of jokes but, I am sensitive and hate to look people in the eye until I really know them , so if I think back to before I started dating it was hard for me to talk to girls that I knew liked me as I taught that I was not good enough for them and that if I was to ask them out it would not work out as they ware better than me I would not keep up and then get hurt when they would dump me for being boring so I would not put myself in that place, some guys have low self esteem but it is hiding behind a false outward image that we put out , there is lots of presser put on guys to make the first move ,make the first move to kiss the girl , when you are on the date you don't know if you should do this that or the other , I hope this helps you to understand what can be going on in a shy guys mind .

[justanotherguy15]

What other signs are there that tells you that he really likes you? Saying that he doesn't look at other women except you is a bold statement. Also, how did you tell him to ask you out? Was it just that one line or was it during a long conversation or between jokes or something similar?

He could be avoiding reading your text because he doesn't know how serious you are with it. If a girl I like would text me something like that I would definitely take that opportunity.

[tjisnumbaone]

Shy guy right here. I agree with others that it could be doubt, he actually doesn't like you, or that he could just be scared.

I'm in a situation where I like this girl. I think she might be interested in me, but I don't really know for sure. I am worried that she may not actually be interested in me, or me striking up a conversation with her would creep her out or something.

So, I would suggest being direct with him to figure out whether he truly likes you or not.

[luluniceone]

Yes he' so shy, and maybe feeling uncomfortable around with you for now. But, it takes time and efforts. Make him comfortable with you, initiate conversations with him, talk with him about things that'll put him at ease, you know, conversation creates connection and that is important. Go for it. (I am exactly like him:)

[1stPlace]

Some people moderately shy, but you say he is really shy, so that is a problem. Has he given you any indicators that he likes you, aside from the one you mentioned? Is he more shy around you than others?

[Anonymous]

He is having a hard time accepting it. He can not believe it is true. Probably because he thinks you are Very pretty and out of his league. My first reaction to that was he thinks you are going out with him beacuse you fell sorry for him does not want to put you through that.

[sexyasianboi26]

Theres a reason why he is not advancing at you.

My speculation is that,

1. He does not find you worthy

2. He could probably be gay

[doctorwhofan23]

We are shy,even if we know we are liked we are till shy.

[iknowmystuff]

Some shy guys still have doubt in their mind, even though the signs are there.

When you told him to ask you out, did you say that in a joking tone?

[Anonymous]

Could be any number of reasons but I know for me it would be because right now, I just simply wouldn't be able to hold a relationship. Girls don't know that about me, which is why I don't approach them

[Opalivian]

A shy guy is shy. He needs initiative from you. Why? He's shy.

[Anonymous]

You answered your own question. He must be REALLY shy.

[Anonymous]

Then he doesn't like you or he is more shy than you

[Anonymous]

How do you know he likes you. None of the things you said "makes" I'm like you...

[Anonymous]

because he's shy.

[Anonymous]

ask him out