My little sister got pregnant with her Muslim boyfriend is there any chance they will be together?

[Anonymous]

My sister is catholic and I love her so much she's only 17 an she got pregnant with her 20 year old Muslim boyfriend. All I'm worried is that the relationship gonna work out if they are not married. Is she gonna get married fast or they have to wait until the baby is born and if they do get married does she convert in Islam if she does get married?

[Meedo]

I am a Muslim myself so I am gonna try to help here...

She doesn't have to convert to Islam... Although he might want the baby to be Muslim.. so the baby will be the subject of '' what faith will it have ''

If you want her to preserve her faith.. she definitely can ... there is no obligation in Islam for a wife to convert ... if both his and her families make a big deal out of it .. it will be a big deal and will be pressure on the parents.. if both families give their support and keep cool.. they actually might end up having a great happy life..

all this stuff about enslavement is bullsh*t... unless he is a radical or uneducated guy...

my advice to you is not to let the families panic.. and treat them nicely and support them as a couple... the rest will work as a normal relationship really.

have any specific questions just ask

all the best to you and them

[SeniorSherlock]

I would like to second this, however if I married into a western family I would wish for my wife (and daughter if I have one) to dress in a traditional Muslim style and have our child be raised under the beliefs of Islam. I would try to let her experience my religion and if she wanted she could convert but I would never force the subject or action.

[ALegend]

That depends on what their true feelings are and their own beliefs, not anyone else's. Many times when a couple gets pregnant prematuely in a relationship, other people, beliefs and strong sentiments weigh in that have no business interferring, placing more pressure and a wedge between the couple--the opposite from what shoule be happening. The best way to deal with the situation is to address it as if there is no pregnancy and look within. That will guide you upon the right path and reveal the right decision. Alan

[ArabianPwincess197]

I'm a Muslim and for starters most Muslim families are actually very nice. My late grandma's friend her son got married to a white woman. They're married have two kids together they're still together. Her mother in law favours her more than her Muslim daughter in law. Point is not all Muslim are the same you can't stereotype all Muslims based on one.

Two it depends on his family if they'll accept they could be very conservative and dislike her because she had sex before marriage

There is a chance they might accept her

Three) important question for you should be will he accept my sister? If he can disobey his religionffor a few moments of pleasure how are you sure he'll keep her happy he wasn't responsible which made your 17 year old sister pregnant she was underage

Who's to say he might not get married again to a Muslim woman

[madhatters4]

is he very religious?

it seems to me that a problem with these relationships is just the sharp cultural differences. and if he is a practicer of the more conservative islamic rites and beliefs it takes a specific type of woman who will be OK in that relationship.

if he isn't all that conservative or ardent practicer of islamic beliefs it could be fine but it's hard to know without knowing more about the boyfriend ... although it seems like if he is sleeping with 17 year olds otside of marriage that he probably isn't all that conservative in his beliefs

[thomasmore]

did she ever think about an abortion?

let's face it, she is 17, does not seem to be very bright (teenage mom) both of them are probably not finished with their education and last but not least, there are huge cultural differences between them, even if she doesn't realize this now.

[SeniorSherlock]

I second, abortion +2 now.

[Deviouscourage]

Abortion is also a good choice.

[Tractorbeam]

In this country,Muslims will publicly call western women a "western slut",even if they never met that woman before and know nothing about her.It doesn't seem to matter if that woman is respectably dressed and 40 years old.

Your sister's chances of being accepted by his family aren't good.

I think she'd be better off to disappear and raise the child on her own.

[darkfoxjj]

There are no modest Muslims.

The word Muslim literally means "one who submits to God".

If she doesn't convert to Islam, he will leave her.

Do NOT let her move to an islamic country, she will be basically enslaved.

You can forget that guy converting to Catholic too. Because doing so would I think be viewed as treachery.

I don't know how far the baby is, but I would advise getting it aborted before the zygote gets too big and is classified as a real living thing.

[jacquesvol]

I've met all kinds of Muslims, broad minded and narrow minded and I've met all kinds of Christians, broad minded and narrow minded.

[darkfoxjj]

I am not saying all Muslims are narrow minded. I am saying all Muslims have very strong faith.

I am friends with a couple of Muslims and have been for years. My neighbours are a married couple (the woman has converted to islam).

So yea I have a number of downvotes, but that is probably because you think I am negative towards Muslims, this is not the case. I just would not advise anyone to marry one unless they are of the same faith ;)

[Dionysos]

You should hope not, because she won't have many rights at all under his religion. Ask him if he's going to convert to Catholicism, and mention how you can't wait for her child to be baptized and confirmed. Do it in front of her. If he goes all offended Jihadi at the idea, your sister is in for a huge power struggle she won't win if she stays with him.

If on the other hand, he stays laid back and doesn't freak, maybe there's a chance. Depends on the flavor of Muslim.

[Anonymous]

in Islam, men have authority over women. that baby will automatically be classified as a Muslim at birth. depending on where you live it could be a death sentence for the baby if it decides to leave the religion by either him or another Muslim or perhaps even get married of art a young age. I can't say he would marry her,in Europe Muslims do not view western women in a positive light, relating them more to sluts most to have sex with. sorry but she didn't make a good decision

[Opinion Owner]

whatever she does! if he does get with her, make sure she doesn't leave the country with him to a Muslim country, there are common stories of western women falling for Muslim men going the middle east and are unable to ever leave the country due to their status

[jacquesvol]

Read on a Christian site what the Bible (NT) says about women: link

[ArabianPwincess197]

You're wrong a baby is classified as a Muslim only when the father or Muslim male whispers the azaan in his ears 3 times.

[Opinion Owner]

wow, islam is dumber than I thought. they could have invented something more believable

[Deviouscourage]

Ignorance

[mattiee]

she is having a baby at 17 with a guy that she won't even remember(17 how long could they be dating for and relationships in high school are a joke) in a couple years and your worried about them staying together...you for real?

[science]

The main issue is whether your sister is emotionally ready for the baby. Also, is the boy capable of financial support if a marriage occurs. Converting to another faith (in either direction) is another complex issue. I think both families have to get involved and find a good solution with the help of counselors. Good luck.

[Deviouscourage]

I have plenty of Islamic family members who have married other religious views.

He may want the baby to be a born Islamic believer, but that's the most he should be asking for.

And quite honestly, there's nothing wrong with being a Muslim.

[kedslover]

probably never. religion is always an issue and his beliefs are quite different than hers. suggest putting the child up for adoption.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Unless his family is a very "liberal" Muslim family, your sister is in for a bad time.

[ArabianPwincess197]

Not all Muslims are like that have you met every single Muslim family then don't just claim things

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I didn't say they were. Work on your reading skills.

[sluggofacepoojohnson]

It all depends on how radical or liberal he is. Also it is not a necessity to get hitched.

[Anonymous]

how stupid can she be . Ugh! Just break up and just raise the child catholic

[jacquesvol]

She's too young to raise a child.

[Anonymous]

tractorbeam is so right unfortunately