Nothing if both people are on the same page in their wants and needs. If one is misleading and wants to use the other person, that's where it is wrong.
What I've noticed in some of the questions on GAG is the girls are asking if the guy wants them for more than sex when it's obvious he doesn't. For some reason a lot of girls are not ok with that.
I don't know, because it leaves a woman pregnant? With an std? You have not put in the effort to truly care for her, so when you leave her a single mom you will be saying what's wrong with it, while she struggles to raise the child alone. That's what's wrong with it. It's a waste. True love must be earned and it is difficult to do. Casual sex only ends up with broken people who are ruined inside.
Condoms break. Sex is a highly emotional and spiritual experience, or all men would just masturbate. Sex is not something to be done casually unless the couple is married, preferably having worked for months or years in celibate dating. You seek the reward without the work, life does not work that way. You cannot walk into an office and demand payment for work you did not do. Even if you got the money and did not do the work, the money would get you nowhere. I used to sell drugs, the money didn't buy me anything. I might as well have lit it on fire as soon as it was handed to me. It is the same with love and relationships. True love must be invested in. People who practice casual sex outside of marriage will never find true love.
@thetundrawolf I'm guessing you didn't read the whole take. Condoms are very effective with only a small chance of failure. As for waiting until marriage, that's just a ridiculous notion. You don't buy a car without a test drive. Your problem with casual sex is that you see sex as this emotional connection when it really isn't. If you break it down sex is a mix of biology and physics. Biology for erections, orgasms and ejaculation and physics for the kinetics (motion). Emotions are a social construct.
'Im sorry, but if you do not believe there is an emotional connection that results from sex, why not just masturbate? Sex is extremely emotional, physical and spiritual. There is nothing like it. To deny that makes you more like a sociopath.
WOMEN ARE NOT CARS. You invalidate your very argument. If sex is only biology, why are you being so choosey? You are just penetrating a warm hole, after all. No, you are striving for an emotional connection you yourself are denying exists.
@thetundrawolf Masturbation is not as good as the real thing. Sex is only emotional if you make it so, a lot of women are now seen the consequence of placing such high value on something so trivial. Biology determines attraction, since I still a virgin I am picky in order to get the best potential partner that will teach me how to have sex. With this some emotional connection is required since I don't want my first time to be a one night stand. Once I have found my bearings that won't matter and I can go solely of attraction.
It is great that you are a virgin. But you are heading for the destruction of your heart. Yes, women are seeing the devastating effects on their hearts when they align themselves with the wrong man. Do you think a woman regrets investing her emotional well being in a man who has dated her in celibacy, who has ridden out the temptations without masturbating, who knows, loves, and cherishes her beyond all else? When he treats her as his most valued possession, yes, ladies, his possession, does she regret surrendering to the waves of passion his body gives her by thrusting into it? No. She does not. But a woman who sleeps with a guy who does not love her, yes, she is foolish, and yes, her heart will pay a dear price.
Please do not be enticed by the thought of an "experienced" woman. She has wasted her innocence. Sex is a very basic physical activity, with so many emotional and spiritual ramifications. It has destroyed people.
And it will destroy you, too, if you fail to recognize the massive emotional attachment there is with it, with healthy human beings. Consider this: You are saying a woman who has been raped who is emotionally damaged (Hint, ALL women are emotionally damaged by rape, unless she is a sociopath without feelings) is only damaged because she has assigned too much emotional value on her body.
Does that make sense? Please... Do not destroy yourself. Do not waste your virginity on an experienced woman who only wants to take your innocence. Your bond to her will be forever- and she will not care. Not about you. She will use you, then refuse to return your calls when you realize you do care for her. You will wind up broken, dead inside, and alone. Please consider this. Only investing all of who you are into the heart of a woman in celibacy will bring you the future you want with a woman.
Losing my virginity is a step towards becoming a man so I obviously don't want it to be cheap. I will not wait until marriage since I want to live and experience what my body has to offer before settling down. An experienced woman that cares about me is the only woman I could lose my virginity to since one of us needs to know what to do. I am still searching for that woman, however once she has taught me what I need to know about sex and relationships I will want to explore other women either sexually, romantically or both.
I don't see why you bring rape into this. Rape is a violation of a human being. Casual sex is always consensual.
I had every chance to lose my virginity like others I know to some random girl but that is not what I want since I will learn nothing from it. The attachment to my first will not be permanent since I will be able to find another woman easily. I am not one to place all my eggs in one basket, that is foolish.
It's amazing to me how anti-men society has become. You never see articles like " Men, don't let women use you". That would be sexist right? But this article is completely fine.
I actually have a take titled: "The Girl Who Cried Rape" www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11510-the-girl-who-cried-rape , which features me outing women who put false accusations on men. There is nothing sexist about ME or this take. I just think you are a part of the stereotypical GAG member who levels every thing sexist. What's wrong with me writing a take to my own gender? People have done it for hundreds of years. There are books written by men... TO men. Lyrics written by women... TO women. The list goes on. I guess in that case, this entire world should be labeled sexist. Matter a fact, this site should be as well. It is https://www.girlsaskguys.com instead of https://www.guysaskguys.com Acknowledging a gender is completely WRONG! You even completely flew by the part, where I mentioned men in this article. "Some" men are the problem in our society. Those are the people I am speaking about. I do not understand why you are drawing offense... when there doesn't need to be that. You are completely missing the point and intent of this article.
So everyone in this world is self centered since famous authors and singers dedicate books and songs to their gender all of the time. There's nothing wrong with that you're just ignorant
I've helped a lot of people from what I see. Even if i were to help as little as one person , then my mission would be accomplished. My intent is to help and reach out.
Judging by your very limited brain capacity this mytake was probably way to overwhelming to read. You also probably seen a reflection of yourself as I describe men like you, who do vile and disgusting things.
@Ozanne You are correct. Allowing anonymous comments , opens the doors for trolls. Most of the people exhibiting these trollish types of behavior tend to be male and anonymous in this "take".
Yes, I wrote my first batch of myTakes not checking it off, and people like this came out to stir trouble, but mainly spout off comments that are meant to be discourteous -- all to protect their GaG identities because they know what they say will be grossly unpopular. After a while, I chose to simply ignore all anonymous posts and just respond to people who left their GaG identities open. Then I thought, 'Why am I even allowing it?' then started to check off that Anonymous comments aren't allowed. It really let me see who was who in Whoville around here. If someone had a differing opinion, at least they were courteous enough to save from looking like a troll, and those people I didn't mind responding to at all. :) I just notice a lot of users [guys, mainly] when people write Takes like this will duck in to Anonymous-mode to try to make the Take Owner feel bad, and other women in the process. It's one of those features on this site that needs some tweaking. :/
Amazes me you are able to influence so many others with your bigotry. A couple of bad experiences with a few males influences you into sharing a post available on the web as your "Mytake".
I would gladly accept the title of a "TROLL" for myself, But there is something better for you.
This entire take is about someone preventing themselves from being used. I was in those situations but I prevented it from going further. Should I make a man use me in all different ways... and write a book about me? Why would I let someone disrespecting me get that far? You are an idiot. And issue little boy who will never get a woman of quality in his entire pathetic life. Too bad the only pussy you will ever see is yourself, you can't even show yourself you pathetic childish loser.
Thank you for your compliments. I have nothing against you as a person but lets bare a few facts on what you have mentioned in your latest post. Firstly, Lets agree i am an idiot since you say so. Secondly as a typical child hating woman which your comments prove (most women love children) you accuse me of not finding a woman of quality, while judging by your rants i am sure you are not one of them. Lastly, you accuse me of being a pussy etc, Are you ashamed and insecure of having the female reproductive system (i shall desist from calling it a pussy) that you have to compare it with some "IDIOT"-which is me.
If you did indeed have problems with some men abusing or manipulating you in your past, you should have ranted it on their face by mentioning it to them or giving it back to the said individuals instead of stereotyping the whole "MALE" community. Anyways i give you the benefit of doubt considering the mytake was over a week old and hope you have got your senses back. All the best
As stated before, reading is not for idiots. There was no generalization in this article. I clearly stated "some" men. I find the men taking offense are those who are in which I described. There are a few decent men here who admit to being that way and are sympathetic. There others who see the message instead of creating a war battle. I find only those of limited intelligence tend to twist my words, and make statements which I have never said myself. I <3 children. So I don't know where you go that from. One thing I dislike is someone who is grown that operates like a child, which is you. We've all been through things in life. That's a part of it , isn't it? This isn't even a rant... this is a article filled with tips. It differentiates against what a man that loves you will do vs a man that doesn't. This has nothing to do with ME , i didn't even include myself in the article. You're just an arrogant little child who wants to get joy off of disrespecting others behind an anonymous name
Are you my high school prom date for me to let you know who i am Or do you want to me add on facebook or instagram? The sooner you spit the venom out the better it is for your mental health, which surely is not going to happen.#happyending spinster.
Personally, i am done with your childish antics. I'm ready to move on. You can continue this discussion alone and go bother someone else with your anonymous identity.
Normally i don't comment on issues surrounding male or female bashing. But this post is full of bullshit which "YOU" have experienced in your life by your respected other half thereby you end up slandering every one who ridicules your bigotry. Why does it even have to be "some men" and according to you few men in here who are sympathetic to your bs story have turned out to be decent. Have you ever seen a male writing a bullshit story slandering women in any form whatsoever? Your comments on children are not only sexist but also lack maturity well beyond your understanding. You repeatedly mention "child" to refer to someone who is an adversary to your thoughts and actions. And with that logic its been proven on your distaste for children and men who do not agree with your bigotry.
No interest in arguing with you forever, Meanwhile, You can continue to swim in your own shit till things settle down in your life. Regards and Goodbye.
I'm not reading the entire flame war but once she called you a, and I quote, "little boy" I deduced she had nothing on you since her comebacks were weak.
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Great Take. Love this
What's wrong with casual sex?
Nothing if both people are on the same page in their wants and needs.
If one is misleading and wants to use the other person, that's where it is wrong.
What I've noticed in some of the questions on GAG is the girls are asking if the guy wants them for more than sex when it's obvious he doesn't. For some reason a lot of girls are not ok with that.
I don't know, because it leaves a woman pregnant? With an std? You have not put in the effort to truly care for her, so when you leave her a single mom you will be saying what's wrong with it, while she struggles to raise the child alone. That's what's wrong with it. It's a waste. True love must be earned and it is difficult to do. Casual sex only ends up with broken people who are ruined inside.
@thetundrawolf That's what condoms are for.
My take goes over it in detail, it even has all the statistics for STIs/STDs and pregnancy
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11552-a-sociosexually-unrestricted-view-of-sex-relationships
It's the first thing under Common responses from the previous myTake
Condoms break. Sex is a highly emotional and spiritual experience, or all men would just masturbate. Sex is not something to be done casually unless the couple is married, preferably having worked for months or years in celibate dating. You seek the reward without the work, life does not work that way. You cannot walk into an office and demand payment for work you did not do. Even if you got the money and did not do the work, the money would get you nowhere. I used to sell drugs, the money didn't buy me anything. I might as well have lit it on fire as soon as it was handed to me. It is the same with love and relationships. True love must be invested in. People who practice casual sex outside of marriage will never find true love.
@thetundrawolf I'm guessing you didn't read the whole take. Condoms are very effective with only a small chance of failure. As for waiting until marriage, that's just a ridiculous notion. You don't buy a car without a test drive.
Your problem with casual sex is that you see sex as this emotional connection when it really isn't.
If you break it down sex is a mix of biology and physics. Biology for erections, orgasms and ejaculation and physics for the kinetics (motion). Emotions are a social construct.
'Im sorry, but if you do not believe there is an emotional connection that results from sex, why not just masturbate? Sex is extremely emotional, physical and spiritual. There is nothing like it. To deny that makes you more like a sociopath.
WOMEN ARE NOT CARS. You invalidate your very argument. If sex is only biology, why are you being so choosey? You are just penetrating a warm hole, after all. No, you are striving for an emotional connection you yourself are denying exists.
@thetundrawolf Masturbation is not as good as the real thing. Sex is only emotional if you make it so, a lot of women are now seen the consequence of placing such high value on something so trivial.
Biology determines attraction, since I still a virgin I am picky in order to get the best potential partner that will teach me how to have sex. With this some emotional connection is required since I don't want my first time to be a one night stand. Once I have found my bearings that won't matter and I can go solely of attraction.
It is great that you are a virgin. But you are heading for the destruction of your heart. Yes, women are seeing the devastating effects on their hearts when they align themselves with the wrong man. Do you think a woman regrets investing her emotional well being in a man who has dated her in celibacy, who has ridden out the temptations without masturbating, who knows, loves, and cherishes her beyond all else? When he treats her as his most valued possession, yes, ladies, his possession, does she regret surrendering to the waves of passion his body gives her by thrusting into it? No. She does not. But a woman who sleeps with a guy who does not love her, yes, she is foolish, and yes, her heart will pay a dear price.
Please do not be enticed by the thought of an "experienced" woman. She has wasted her innocence. Sex is a very basic physical activity, with so many emotional and spiritual ramifications. It has destroyed people.
And it will destroy you, too, if you fail to recognize the massive emotional attachment there is with it, with healthy human beings. Consider this: You are saying a woman who has been raped who is emotionally damaged (Hint, ALL women are emotionally damaged by rape, unless she is a sociopath without feelings) is only damaged because she has assigned too much emotional value on her body.
Does that make sense? Please... Do not destroy yourself. Do not waste your virginity on an experienced woman who only wants to take your innocence. Your bond to her will be forever- and she will not care. Not about you. She will use you, then refuse to return your calls when you realize you do care for her. You will wind up broken, dead inside, and alone. Please consider this. Only investing all of who you are into the heart of a woman in celibacy will bring you the future you want with a woman.
Losing my virginity is a step towards becoming a man so I obviously don't want it to be cheap. I will not wait until marriage since I want to live and experience what my body has to offer before settling down. An experienced woman that cares about me is the only woman I could lose my virginity to since one of us needs to know what to do. I am still searching for that woman, however once she has taught me what I need to know about sex and relationships I will want to explore other women either sexually, romantically or both.
I don't see why you bring rape into this. Rape is a violation of a human being. Casual sex is always consensual.
I had every chance to lose my virginity like others I know to some random girl but that is not what I want since I will learn nothing from it. The attachment to my first will not be permanent since I will be able to find another woman easily. I am not one to place all my eggs in one basket, that is foolish.
I agree we shouldn't let men control us
It's amazing to me how anti-men society has become. You never see articles like " Men, don't let women use you". That would be sexist right? But this article is completely fine.
I actually have a take titled: "The Girl Who Cried Rape" www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11510-the-girl-who-cried-rape , which features me outing women who put false accusations on men.
There is nothing sexist about ME or this take.
I just think you are a part of the stereotypical GAG member who levels every thing sexist.
What's wrong with me writing a take to my own gender?
People have done it for hundreds of years.
There are books written by men... TO men.
Lyrics written by women... TO women.
The list goes on.
I guess in that case, this entire world should be labeled sexist.
Matter a fact, this site should be as well.
It is https://www.girlsaskguys.com instead of https://www.guysaskguys.com
Acknowledging a gender is completely WRONG!
You even completely flew by the part, where I mentioned men in this article.
"Some" men are the problem in our society. Those are the people I am speaking about.
I do not understand why you are drawing offense... when there doesn't need to be that.
You are completely missing the point and intent of this article.
And might I say, "Acknowledging a gender is completely WRONG!" ((--sarcasm--)) indeeded in that line.
And correction error, you are the stereotypical gag member who labels everything sexist ---(not levels)
You do realize both genders do all most of these things, so to address it only to your own gender comes off as self-centered.
So everyone in this world is self centered since famous authors and singers dedicate books and songs to their gender all of the time.
There's nothing wrong with that you're just ignorant
You don't understand what I'm trying to say and I'm ignorant... Why do I even waste my time...
agreed on all accounts.
Taken the purity pledge so no prob.
Great take! 😋
great take
like the picture in the beginning it's hot
yes yes and YES
good one there
Stupid my take, sorry it's really useless
I've helped a lot of people from what I see.
Even if i were to help as little as one person , then my mission would be accomplished.
My intent is to help and reach out.
Judging by your very limited brain capacity this mytake was probably way to overwhelming to read. You also probably seen a reflection of yourself as I describe men like you, who do vile and disgusting things.
This is why you need to remember to check off the "don't allow Anonymous comments" box before submitting, Stacyzee. :) Less of this nonsense.
@Ozanne You are correct. Allowing anonymous comments , opens the doors for trolls.
Most of the people exhibiting these trollish types of behavior tend to be male and anonymous in this "take".
Yes, I wrote my first batch of myTakes not checking it off, and people like this came out to stir trouble, but mainly spout off comments that are meant to be discourteous -- all to protect their GaG identities because they know what they say will be grossly unpopular. After a while, I chose to simply ignore all anonymous posts and just respond to people who left their GaG identities open. Then I thought, 'Why am I even allowing it?' then started to check off that Anonymous comments aren't allowed. It really let me see who was who in Whoville around here. If someone had a differing opinion, at least they were courteous enough to save from looking like a troll, and those people I didn't mind responding to at all. :) I just notice a lot of users [guys, mainly] when people write Takes like this will duck in to Anonymous-mode to try to make the Take Owner feel bad, and other women in the process. It's one of those features on this site that needs some tweaking. :/
Hello :) How are you nony?
You will die a virgin.
What a surprise! Another male troll!
Amazes me you are able to influence so many others with your bigotry. A couple of bad experiences with a few males influences you into sharing a post available on the web as your "Mytake".
I would gladly accept the title of a "TROLL" for myself, But there is something better for you.
"BIG MOUTH BIGOT "
This entire take is about someone preventing themselves from being used. I was in those situations but I prevented it from going further. Should I make a man use me in all different ways... and write a book about me? Why would I let someone disrespecting me get that far?
You are an idiot.
And issue little boy who will never get a woman of quality in his entire pathetic life.
Too bad the only pussy you will ever see is yourself, you can't even show yourself you pathetic
childish loser.
*An insecure little boy
And if I were a virgin, I'd proudly die so than a die a pathetic excuse for a man who can't even show who he is.
Thank you for your compliments. I have nothing against you as a person but lets bare a few facts on what you have mentioned in your latest post.
Firstly, Lets agree i am an idiot since you say so. Secondly as a typical child hating woman which your comments prove (most women love children) you accuse me of not finding a woman of quality, while judging by your rants i am sure you are not one of them. Lastly, you accuse me of being a pussy etc, Are you ashamed and insecure of having the female reproductive system (i shall desist from calling it a pussy) that you have to compare it with some "IDIOT"-which is me.
If you did indeed have problems with some men abusing or manipulating you in your past, you should have ranted it on their face by mentioning it to them or giving it back to the said individuals instead of stereotyping the whole "MALE" community. Anyways i give you the benefit of doubt considering the mytake was over a week old and hope you have got your senses back. All the best
As stated before, reading is not for idiots.
There was no generalization in this article. I clearly stated "some" men. I find the men taking offense are those who are in which I described. There are a few decent men here who admit to being that way and are sympathetic. There others who see the message instead of creating a war battle. I find only those of limited intelligence tend to twist my words, and make statements which I have never said myself.
I <3 children. So I don't know where you go that from.
One thing I dislike is someone who is grown that operates like a child, which is you.
We've all been through things in life.
That's a part of it , isn't it?
This isn't even a rant... this is a article filled with tips.
It differentiates against what a man that loves you will do vs a man that doesn't.
This has nothing to do with ME , i didn't even include myself in the article.
You're just an arrogant little child who wants to get joy off of disrespecting others behind an anonymous name
Are you my high school prom date for me to let you know who i am Or do you want to me add on facebook or instagram? The sooner you spit the venom out the better it is for your mental health, which surely is not going to happen.#happyending spinster.
If that is what allows you to get your "kicks" for the day. Then hoooray for you!!
Personally, i am done with your childish antics. I'm ready to move on. You can continue this discussion alone and go bother someone else with your anonymous identity.
Normally i don't comment on issues surrounding male or female bashing. But this post is full of bullshit which "YOU" have experienced in your life by your respected other half thereby you end up slandering every one who ridicules your bigotry. Why does it even have to be "some men" and according to you few men in here who are sympathetic to your bs story have turned out to be decent. Have you ever seen a male writing a bullshit story slandering women in any form whatsoever?
Your comments on children are not only sexist but also lack maturity well beyond your understanding. You repeatedly mention "child" to refer to someone who is an adversary to your thoughts and actions. And with that logic its been proven on your distaste for children and men who do not agree with your bigotry.
No interest in arguing with you forever, Meanwhile, You can continue to swim in your own shit till things settle down in your life.
Regards and Goodbye.
I'm not reading the entire flame war but once she called you a, and I quote, "little boy" I deduced she had nothing on you since her comebacks were weak.
I support this Anonymous user.
Hello :) How are you nony?