This is inspired by the questions I have seen and asked on girlsaskguys and answers to questions that I have asked.
Before you read please note that there are always some exceptions depending on the situation and some may seem like generalizations but I do realize that every woman has different experiences.
Also, this is to help mainly the females but is open to opinions from males too and it can help some men too who may have felt used.
1. He only texts you at night
The only time you hear from the guy is at night and it may be because he is horny. He most likely is dating women during the day and contacts you to come over because he doesn't want to be bothered with you during the day because you are not important to him
2. He pressures you for sex
Any man who respects you will not pressure you or make you feel like sex is the only way to prove you love him. If he talks about sexual things all the time whenever you talk or he only responds when you bring up anything he thinks is sexual that's really all he may want from you
3. He never asked you to be his girl and he never introduced you to his friends or parents after long months of talking or dating.
I can understand if a guy wants to things slow but if you've been talking to this guy for 7-12 months and no one knows about you two then he might be ashamed of you
This one is pretty simple. If you have a gut feeling that he is ashamed of you then he most likely is. If he gives you a bad feeling then get out as soon as you can. A guy who cares and wants a relationship with you is not going to give you a bad gut feeling all the time
5. He goes for weeks without contacting you and then pops up out of the blue to contact you
He does not give you his time. Often actions speak louder than words. If he acts like you are in the way when he is the one who contacted you then he doesn't care about you
Feel free to write any other signs or red flags you think a man shows that is using you...