Dear Mr. Nice Guy (Corrected)

[pavlove]

It's lies again telling you about

Getting out

But somehow forgetting about

All the pain, and fear, and doubt

That got you into this mess

Mailing you to a new address

That will land you to a old door of lonliness

Keeping you running in time

You're too old now to stand in that line

Arguing is just a waste of breath

But your love life won't be a waste of death

And the truth is something you will confess

And for it her heart she will undress

And this isn't you and me

But me and you

I know we've got something left

1) Realizing that being nice to get affection won't work and being filled with anger by it is part of Waking Up. The next step is realizing that all those girls were right to reject you because you weren't being your true authentic self...you were just being whoever you thought she wanted you to be. Not all men have to go through this process of discovery, but many do.

2) Lowering your standards, self respect, and respect for others makes you WEAK. True. And if you say well I can't have casual sex with a woman that I respect, well I'd say that you need to work on your ideas about sex because it's not something done to hurt someone it's something done to make someone else feel good so the idea that you can't have it casually with someone you respect actually doesn't make logical sense.

3) Life is more than women. Even women are telling you that themselves. (But then when you put other things before them they get mad...I know. We're all well aware women make no sense.)

4) Enduring to guy you really want to be in this messed up world takes PATIENCE and DISCIPLINE

5) Nice guys finish last is a not a MYTH. Anyone who acts more like a stereotype of a certain person than an actual person will finish last.

#stayreal

Thanks for reading =]

[Anonymous]

There may be more to life than women, but it feels like SHIT to think you are being muscled out of female companionship and affection. It feels like SHIT to look at who is actually getting the girls you wanted, these cocky assholes who aren't even anyone famous or successful themselves. It feels like SHIT to get shown up by these fucking piece of shit tough guy cliche douchebags that get by on image and dumb luck, guys that you could have and should have been able to beat. It feels like SHIT to think the problem is that you are just fundamentally not good enough, fundamentally average, and that you can never break your old story of being mediocre, you can never be free of it. To feel like you will never know what victory feels like, never get to stand in the sun. Never get to experience being with someone you actually want, who makes you feel alive.

[Opinion Owner]

And when all the best girls, the ones that would have made you happiest, the ones who would have fascinated and inspired you are taken, there's nowhere left to go. You've been relegated to settling for someone "just okay", or lifelong singledom. Misery, either way. It burns to think you can never rise above that and get what you really wanted.

[Anonymous]

I agree with this and many of these could be tweaked to apply to "nice girls" (passive aggressive) too.

Well done.

[pavlove]

thanks!

[KaidenKass00]

You know, it is possible to be respectful without being weak. And there are reasons to be nice to someone beyond wanting to get something for yourself.

[pavlove]

i wouldn't call someone who is nice to a girl for absolutely no reason a typical "nice guy" usually refers to guys who use niceness because the girl is pretty to them etc.

[justbanANNAz]

... i would never do that to you.

[pavlove]

lol I'm just being playful !

[justbanANNAz]

Nah, im playful myself, but that's low. I respected you and your opinions. Attempting to validate your view by putting down others isn't a considerate move.

[pavlove]

I think playful competition brings out the best in each other and your take inspirired mine that I couldn't have written without your inspiration. I didn't know you saw me as such an enemy

[justbanANNAz]

Lol inspired u huh? And im meant to believe that?
Whered u get enemy from?

[pavlove]

your accusations that i would mean to diss you instead of compete with you !!

[justbanANNAz]

that doesn't make anyone an enemy. I've just commented on this to give u the attention you required, and to let u know i disliked what u did.

[Phoenix98]

*shakes head* kind of a low blow this was.

[pavlove]

lol I invented the comeback take... I'm a visionary

[Phoenix98]

Regardless it was rude and unnecessary and visionaries do not take someone's good work and create a negative version of it.

[pavlove]

negative version? This was meant to inspire guys not to take the lie of the nice guy or the bad boy and instead of create something new and be authentic.

I think if you were caught up in defending some girl you'd see that.

[Phoenix98]

It's not the core message it's how you went about doing it, the way you do things affects how people will percieve it, doesn't matter what the message itself is.