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In this world of stereotypes and prejudice I see boys and girls. But when I look between the lines of immaturity and arrogance, I see seeds of men and women. I see ideas that mark adulthood, overshadowed by "does he like me?" and "should we do it?". I have never hated this community because it intrigues me. All of my MyTakes have been of advice or ideas, but never have I posted my true thoughts on the place as a whole.
I have compiled some ideas I must express here and now:
1. It takes a man/woman to voice an opinion, but a REAL man/woman knows when NOT to. I feel that in the midst of discussion we tend to forget that sometimes we must walk away. Sometimes maturity is not winning the argument, it is avoiding the argument. Not always, but sometimes.
2. Things always change. As a wise man once said, "...but watch. Even the stars above, things that seem still, are still changing." The community of guys@girls is very open and used to change, but certain people tend to forget this: as you change, so do your opinions. It's okay to change. This is not really an issue as more advice.
3. Maturity will admit it's mistake and attempt to amend it. People can (and will) be wrong. Maybe we must admit this more. A dissenting opinion is not wrong, but if one attacks another, even over text, I feel we have traversed from "discussion" to "fight". Is this not a site for adults? Please remember that what you call sharing an opinion is what others would call bullying.
4. Finally: remember that life is hard. If it were easy, it wouldn't be so amazing. There will be times where even this site will not herald answers. In those times, pray to your deity and hold your head up high. I do not love all of you, but I want you all to love yourselves. I have lived by the idea that I want no one else to be proud of me until I am. Please: be proud of yourselves. Life is a mountain, and the climb is rough. Keep pushing, and have a Merry Christmas.
-Toby R.
What Girls & Guys Said
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We need more MyTakes that point out obvious signs that show that a guy likes a girl, because maybe then it'll spread among girls and then every girl will know that most of their guy friends like them!
I agree. Men tend to forget that we are also kind of hard to "read". Maybe o will draft one in the future.
Well, girls make us hard to read because they like to over think things.
But still.
This is a beautiful post. It brought tears to my eyes. Especially, now, when the guy who I'm supposed to be seeing has been avoiding contact, at the moment. I just need answers from him, but he won't give them. Sometimes, there are no answers, even when we need them most, I am beginning to realize. I just didn't want to give up on him... :,(
Thanks for the compliment. I am very sorry to hear about your companion's disrespect. I urge you to keep pushing and hope you can get the answers you need.
Thank you. I did. And, I think that I was better off not knowing that he lied and cheated...
I'm a very sorry for you. That is one of the worst things that can happen. I can't give you any advice other than take time to be sad and recollect yourself. It will be hard to get over this, and I pray (whether you're religious or not) that you can work through it. Best wishes and remember to not give up.
-Toby
Honestly, I am sad, but in realizing how hard he fought for me to remain available, he will come around again. And, I won't be his pin cushion, anymore. I am religious to a certain point. I believe that there is a better plan for me than to be with someone like him. The girl whom he chose
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will hurt him and, as a friend, I will be there to listen and be supportive, but... I have lost most respect for him. Even the worst people need to know that there is hope if they can ever find a way to better themselves... :(
I agree. Your attitude towards the break up is a step in the right direction.
Thank you. I try to stay positive and be hopeful for others. Naive as it may be. :)
Great insight. I completely agree!
Thanks! Good to hear. Have a lovely day!