I'm not writing this Take to bash my fellow men. But rather try to encourage and defines what a real man suppose to be like.
I grow up without my parents and never had a father in my life to show me how to be a man. As a result, growing up I made some really dumb decisions; that if I would've had a real man to show and teach me the ropes on how to be a man, I most likely would not have made those mistakes and suffered greatly for it.
Get To Work!
Listen, you need to get off your mommy's breast! Once you turn 18 years of age and graduated High School, you have to go get a job. Whether a full time or part time if you're in college. You can't depend on your mom to pay your phone bill, buy you clothes, buy food to feed you or ask her to buy you video games like you're 10 years old again. I'm not saying you can't ask your parents for help if you need it, but depending on them like you're still a child and asking for help are two different things. Play Time Is Over. You're An Adult now! Act Like One.
Aren't You A Sissy Boy Huh?
Understand that courage isn't how many physical fights you have gotten into or are willing to get into. Any idiot can start a fight at a bar or night club etc. But that doesn't make them men of courage, but rather just violent, wicked devils. I'm not saying to let anyone treat you like a pushover or punk or disrespect you. You should be willing to stand up for yourself.
The courage I'm focusing on is when life gets rough. Life blows really hit hard and hurts; and sometimes without warning. You have to find the inner courage to keep getting up to fight one more day. Only sissy and weak men quit and turn to alcohol and drug addiction to cope when life lands a haymaker upside their head. Be Strong Brother. You Have What It Takes!
Grow A Spine!
You have to stick by your convictions even when at risk of being ridiculed or outcast by others. Don't waiver because of popular trends and cultural beliefs. Most people will not like you because you stand out from the rest of the followers, but I can guarantee you, they inwardly will respect your courage to stick by your convictions when challenged or suffer for it. I Dare You To Be Different!
Be A Helping Hand.
Don't be a self absorbed jerk that thinks the world should cater to you, because of your education, economic, or social status that you think is beneath you to be kind and generous to the poor or less fortunate. I'm not saying you have to give everything that is in your pocket, but leaving a nice tip for a waiter, waitress, valet or any jobs you know those low wage earners depend on customer generosity is really a nice way to show kindness and love to your fellow man. A Giving Heart Makes A Difference.
Providing Leadership
You as a man that has a family in terms of wife and children. You have to provide. Food on the table and shelter are a given. Every man knows he has to provide that for his household. But you as a man have more to provide than just the obvious. You have to provide sound wisdom and instruction to your children. Guide your children in the proper way they should go in life. Provide security and love in the household. Too many children are growing up in broken homes. I was one of them. Probably many people reading this were too and you know the negative effects it has. Be The Leader Of Your Domain.
Very good. I find it deplorable that the FI thinks dads are unnecessary for children growing up. They are raising a whole generation of little boys taught to be just like little girls. A complete sham.
Please continue to be a defender for the importance of fathers!
Yes, I didn't come to know the importance of fathers til later on in My life. I subconsciously always looked for a father figure in a coach, teacher, or friend father to show me how to be a man. And thanks for the support.
Nice! These are all values everyone is supposed to know but too many don't get for some reason nowadays. My son is one of these men who are a role model, being a real man. We need more of this! Thank you☆♡☆
That may be your ideal ''man'' but everyone has their own path and that doesn't make them any less of a man so stop forcing your views by telling us what we think we are and what we aren't. Everybody doesn't just get up and start working at 18. some people who are out of highschool aren't mentally ready, some people didn't graduate and cannot find a good job, some people need time to think about things. does that make them any less of a man? no. Who are you to tell us who is a man? I can tell you what it means to be a decent human being, and takes like this and the previous ones you wrote are setting you up for some broad thinking which will effect your future sons if you have any. I will send my condolences for them in advance
No such thing as a real man haha. Doing one thing and not Bother isn't going to make you a real man or show that you are still a boy. The 'real man's concept is one of those dumb things you hear in society, and if you agree with it, you are a follower
For me, being a man is simple. You have a family. You put food on the table. You put a roof on their heads. You give them space to grow. If you can do that, then you can call yourself a man.
Sure you might not be the greatest man or confident man or Superman. You are just a man. Nothing special. You do what's needed to be done for your family. Everything else are icing on the cake.
If you don't have a family then you are just a guy. You are merely responsible for yourself.
I don't think that's what a man need. Sure it's nice to have those but you only need the core thing. You're man, not a perfect man or even a good man. Just a man.
You could fail at all of those wisdom and love thing and still call yourself a man. You aren't smart. You weren't blessed with intelligence. But you work hard for your family, that's fine with me. Maybe you are not wise and you are somewhat sanguine about communities and social life. I get it. You are like the introvert loners who silently work. You were never really good at expressing yourself. That's fine too.
However, the moment you fail to support your family, the moment your family loses their home, the moment you try to dictate their lives using violence. Those moments are when you realize how much of a failure you are.
1. Men aren't actually getting lazier. Overall men are literally working more like women--meaning more part time, low wage jobs, instead of trying to slave away to be breadwinners.
5. The problem is, men can only be the "leader" of their domain as much as the wife allows, if they are married. You can be calm and cool all you want, but if you are legally married you are a president who can be booted out for any reason at any time and has no real authority.
My parents still pay for my uni fees, lol. But i dont have enough time to have a part time job as well. Altough i do agree that a job will make you feel a lot more independent. But i dont think there's an age cutoff for adulthood. In some places its 18, others 21. Id say people mature at fifferent rates
I am a man, I do not act like a woman. I am a non-drama person. I do not use others for self-gain or self-seeking. I do not use others for self benefit.
So, by definition you say that a Man is supposed to work hard and provide for the family because of his Gender. Am sorry, but that's a sexist statement. It's as offensive as saying that women belong in the kitchen. I believe that a Husband and a Wife have equal responsibility in being the bread winners of the family.
I always live this type of sexism. Assuming traits like working hard, being honest, having integrity are synonymous with being a man. As if women are synonymous with being lazy and deceitful. And the best part is that women actually support this sexist view against themselves.
Women are just as capable of working hard, having integrity and being leaders. It's about being a decent caring human being, and treating others the same. Not this machismo, gorilla chest thumping.
Why do you assume that if men are described as having one set of virtues and behaviours, the the writer must attribute the opposite behaviours to women. That view is irrational the point of insanity. What it shows is a mind that has been so conditioned by leftist Group Think that rational cognitive process has been suspended.
This is just a superficial one-size-fits-all philosophy. Doesn't really stand up to real life.
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I mean... I really like the message you're pushing here, the stuff you're saying is great, but even if it's a joke the terminology kinda makes me want to do that stuff less... XP
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