The term nice guy has become quite used in many different meanings. Those include a regular nice guy by it's root definition: A dude, that is just a nice person; a fake nice guy, who will be nice only to a few people but turns out to be a rude dick to the others, who didn't hurt him in the past; the frustrated and fake nice guy, who will be nice to the women, that he likes and then feels entitled to have sex with them and if they reject him, then he also turns out to be a rude dick and calls women bad names; a low self esteem nice guy, who is being considered as inferior and gets called a beta wimp by self proclaimed alpha blokes and unfriendly/entitled females or he places women on a pedestal; a try-hard nice guy, whose kindness is over the norm and the top, so that it's obvious, that he is not actually being nice but invasive (maybe he just rushes into her pants?). And there are some more.
The nice guy became quite a broad stereotype and it's kind of 50-50 positive-negative however anyone perceives it.
I don't think much if anyone calls himself a (genuine) nice guy because of the sub-categories listed above. Actions speak louder than words and hopefully nobody thinks it's about spending money and buying gifts.
Disturbingly enough there are many (ridiculous) memes about the nice guy and often those are either jokes or portray them in a negative light but it seems to be more often than not to be the latter. 😐
Elliot Rodger (pictured above), who called himself a 'nice gentleman' was found to be a racist and generally a rude dick. From Wikipedia it says quite some things about him: "In July 2011, Rodger followed a couple he was jealous of out of a Starbucks in Goleta and threw coffee on them. In a later incident, he splashed his latte on two girls sitting at a bus stop in Isla Vista for not smiling back at him." - who in her right mind would want to date someone with this kind of behavior? "He explained that he wanted to punish women for rejecting him and that he envied sexually active men so he wanted to punish them for their sexual activity." Was his killing motive.
Here is what he publicly said in one of his videos or blog entries:
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I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl. I've been through college for two and a half years, more than that actually, and I'm still a virgin. It has been very torturous. College is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex and fun and pleasure. Within those years, I've had to rot in loneliness. It's not fair. You girls have never been attracted to me. I don't know why you girls aren't attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it. It's an injustice, a crime, because... I don't know what you don't see in me. I'm the perfect guy and yet you throw yourselves at these obnoxious men instead of me, the supreme gentleman.
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I am a 22 years old virgin too, I never had a girlfriend in my life before and wasn't kissed. I have finished college and still nothing. In comparison to him I don't replicate him as a result despite how frustrating it might get. I don't blame anyone about it. It just is what it is. Just like how we don't know how the earth and the sun came to existence for sure. 😶
I once had a female here (whose identity I will not disclose), who considered me to be a genuine nice guy and was happy, that guys like me exist and that it relieved her to know about it until the moment came where I asked a question here on girlsaskguys "why don't (some) women understand, that we men need sex?" To get answers. That same female showed up and left a response filled with her disappointment in me ("I thought you were a genuine nice guy") and called me a fake nice guy. So in her particular opinion nice guys do not ask sex questions … on a site, that is meant for questions and answers for and from the opposite sex about love, sex, relationships and more 😒 🙄
With that being said, men are not the only ones, who are at fault.
Mind you I never called myself a nice guy because, like I said before, of these broad stereotypes.
So I just say "Screw that! All of that! Either accept me or leave me be. Your call."
I will always try to help if I can and I will always have manners to the others provided I wasn't hurt by them. And I will always be friendly when I meet anyone new or see them again. But if something comes to me across like biased, rude, fanatical, respectless or unfriendly then don't expect to get the opposite of it in return if anything from me at all. Karma is a thing for a reason and you may not need to understand it but that doesn't mean you have to be irresponsible or a rude prick because one way or another you may want just something from me.
What comes around goes around.
Savage but that's just me. I will leave calling me either nice or a rude dick to the others. This will only provide me with a feedback of the person I either care about or not (and dependent if that person respects me or not or is trying to help me overall in some way) and dependent on it if I do anything right or wrong as it indicates my progress. I will just follow my course and provide help if someone along my journey needs it.
I am just going to be my own self. Not a nice guy, not an asshole, maybe not even a "real" man but that's a different but similar story. In the end of the day I do believe, that I am friendly.