I've heard the gripe as much as men have told it: "all" women want a man for his money, and "all" women want a man who is tall and strong to protect them, and "all women" need a man to fix things, and kill bugs, and be in power and control over them, but what of that so called strong woman, that independent woman, that woman who for all the reasons listed, doesn't need a man the way these all or nothing purists imply or doesn't rely on a man the way he expects that "all women" should?
For all the griping and complaining, most of these types of men simply couldn't handle it. They don't want a woman who makes twice their salary, and bought the house all by herself, can change her own tire, kill the bugs, can afford the nicer things in life better than they can, or god forbid, proposes to them. That for them, takes away their ascribed power by society. They find it practically offensive that a woman, any woman, doesn't need a man in the way they think she should. They literally think that she has to be a bitch or a lesbian to not need them because in their minds, a man is "supposed to" be able to do this, that, and the other, but when there is a woman perfectly capable of doing and does those things, they find themselves struggling to try to figure out what their role is or should be in that relationship.
Think of it as an Oprah and Stedman situation or a J Lo and whatever background dancer she was dating years ago. When the woman in the relationship clearly has the power and the money, even society treats the men in those relationships like the same jokes it treats the younger woman dating the obviously wealthy older man---like useless gold digging ambition less whores, even if they have their own professions and lives going on and aren't dependent on their partner.
The next generation of women are more ambitious, more educated, less inclined to have children at a young age, or at all, and less inclined to get married at a young age or at all, and the next generation of men are beginning to struggle by it. Although they find themselves in the same boat of not wanting marriage or children at all, or at a young age, they are also slightly less educated and some say, the wage gap at some point will tilt in women's favor. So where does that leave the next generation of men as the world begins just a slight tilt and their strict roles as fathers, and providers, and the most powerful shifts?
There is a huge vacuum being created by the destruction of the traditional family. If a woman no longer has to be tied down to a husband and a set of kids, she's going to fill her time doing what men for centuries have done, and that's become more educated, work, and obtain personal wealth, and if marriage is less and less of an option, she's going to seek out alternative short term relationships or ones in which power is not so traditionally assigned. And what is there to complain about? Some men say they are sick of having to be the bread winners, and deal with kids, and marriage is a sham, so they are in essence helping to shape the newer generations of women who are in some ways being forced to become more like traditional men, and in many ways, making those choices for themselves.
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