Living as an Introvert

[Meditatingsquirrel79]

Part one - I am a good looking guy.

Really. But can't say a word to a woman. I've been out of a relationship for years. If only a woman my age now would speak to me, I'd talk. I find myself happy as I meditate. I have my real world in my mediation. No lie.

Part Two - I am a wacky and romantic guy.

On a date again, I would make a woman laugh and understand me. When she speaks about her sad times, I would listen and be a therapist to her. Get her unlocked from her fears and sadness. For real.

Part Three - I am scared to talk to women because they wouldn't like me.

I have Epilepsy. Wish people would accept other people. Not their other problems. If only there was a woman out there. But never be. I am just another person who wasn't to be alive.

Being an Introvert though. I think a lot. But not talk too much. Meditation keeps me focusing on what the hell I am supposed to do on this planet. I still don't know what for.

[Anonymous]

I am very much alike. I am very awkward when speaking to guys especially very attractive ones, I blush and start confusing my words which makes me look like an idiot.

You said you are able to make girls laugh and bring out your ‘wacky’ side which a girl
loves. If you listen to them, compliment and make sure they have a good time then you have won them over. Just keep being you!

I have epilepsy also and I find it very hard for people to understand what it is like from our point of view. It is very hard on a daily basis knowing the unexpected. I have found that if people have experienced what we go through then they can understand. However, I am very sure that you will find somebody who loves you for who you are!

[Meditatingsquirrel79]

Thank you, Anonymous. I am always myself but quiet. A wacky guy for a woman to make her laugh and love her. 5 stars for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you!

[dizmuhjam]

I saw a woman the other day who had an epileptic attack near a grocery store. Everyone just kept looking.. I didn't know if it was nessesary but I called the ambulance immediatly.. maybe she wouldve "cooled off" on her own, but I was just making sure..

[Spiritwander]

Feels, bro...
I've been the same way my whole life; but I was an empathic introvert, and felt other people's feelings like I felt my own. It made it harder to talk to others.
And by the time I was ready to open up & learn socializing, it was too late; I never built up those neurons devoted to social strategy, and had *just enough* native intellect to realize that and go, "Aw, fuck!"
(Because now I'm "all three rings" of introverted in perfect harmony, and I still can't shut my brain up long enough to meditate)😅

[Anonymous]

I am also introverted. I have aspergers syndrome and social anxiety disorder too. I talk very little but I think a lot. Guys find me attractive and it happens all the time that they want my attention but then they get annoyed when I need so much space and when I don't share my thoughts and feelings. They don't have patience with the fact that I need plenty of time to feel comfortable with someone and due to my social difficulties not being the slightest bit visible on the outside they don't take them seriously when I try to explain. I have met men who are understanding and patient however, but they're rare and they're usually introverts themselves. I've also been on the other side as i've dated introverted men who have been terrified of letting anyone in and ultimately rejected me out of fear of me rejecting them first. It's frustrating either way. Meditation is great. When I can actually gather enough focus for long enough to meditate I find that it helps me a lot. For the issue with talking to the opposite gender I suggest dating. I've dated a lot and it's helped me. Sign up for online dating if you cannot approach strangers in person, especially if you're good looking it shouldn't be too difficult.

[Rustro]

Online dating doesn't work for men but sure meditation does. Also if you like reading books try out "the shallows-nicholas carr" will help you clear out what you call disorder :)

[Opinion Owner]

@Rustro Thanks I will look it up :)

[streem26]

The Best part of being an introvert is the attention to detail your able to give and know about yourself that many never get to understand about them self no matter how old they are ! You also are sensitive and have insights of others. I’m both actually , I struggled with many things over this until I figured it out and learned to be comfortable. I still have moments that I can’t always explain. I’m the center of attention at work and am very likable, people are drawn to me , yet I need to be alone and feel more comfortable this way.

[Meditatingsquirrel79]

That's great, steem26. People here, find me as a friend too. Getting rid of problems, I meditate and think what to do. And yes, I need to be alone too. I am happy learning stuff on my own.

[foriWish]

I am a total introvert and I see exactly what you mean. I am always in my head and worrying about any and everything. Personally, I appear pretty heartless to my family and sort of friends but in reality, I'm a total softy. I just want someone to love me wholeheartedly. and accept me; flaws and all. I have so many passions and spontaneous crazy ideas but I probably would never do them. It's torturous to be torn between yourself and yourself.

[Spiritwander]

😓😔😑 Tell me about it... 😑😔😓

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander It's ok. You still have time. You can do it!❤👍

[Spiritwander]

😅 ... if you only knew how sweet that sounds because I wish it were true. But considering no one's lifespans around here would survive the listing of all the reasons why that isn't likely, you'll forgive an old guy for not burdening others with them, as I find simply communicating difficult enough without them. 😅

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander I feel like a burden to others. It is not a good feeling. I would love to change that but it's hard so I understand. I'm sure the right woman will accept you no matter what

[Spiritwander]

😅 I already lost my heart for good, my dear. It makes no difference if someone were to accept me now, I'm afraid.😕

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Awww so am I honestly. Most of the people who were once my friends have left me and I pushed away the guy i was falling for and he blocked me. I want him back but it's over. I'm sure he found another woman who understands him better than I. I'm definitely scared to put myself out there again but we owe it to ourselves. Honestly as pathetic as it sounds, I'm waiting for him to realize I'm sorry and to give me another chance. Of course I know most likely it's too late but I won't give up just yet because he was everything i want in a guy. Don't give up. Maybe it's over for one person but maybe it isn't for another?

[Spiritwander]

Well, yeah, that was kind of my thinking when I did it, so that the rest of you could, yanno, whatever. Lol

As far as being blocked goes; that doesn't mean anything. A person can get hacked (*especially if she's dated programmers in the past, or has a technically proficient typically overprotective father*😔), or maybe they're shutting off all contact from others - you never know.

As far as that "we owe it to ourselves" thing, tbh, I just don't think that way. If I can't protect the ones I love from the weight in my heart I carry around, it's best if I wander off by myself and not drag everyone down with me. 👍

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander No. He actually blocked me, twice that I know of. I reached out to apologize recently (on here because this where we met) and he ignored me. It's over between us. I see it clearly. He probably had a new girl that he tells sweet things to and make feel good about herself

I understand what you mean. You kind of sound like him a bit; not wanting to drag others down

[Spiritwander]

@foriWish Well, lucky for you there's a whole planet out there full of guys who are all too happy to swipe you from the tail end of a bad relationship! 😅
Again [REPEAT WITH ME]; "What happens on social media *IS NOT REAL LIFE*!"

Do you know just how many kids these days work out fake Facebook accounts just to use as an overlay for their phones when their parents remote them?

I'm just saying, it's probably not the most healthy biological attitude to let the tech being the determining factor and tell you what to do about how you feel... Jus sayin'.

(F--k! You make a guy wonder why he throws himself down the stairs as a "Don't Do This At Home, Kids!" stunt when you say stuff like that! D--n!)🤣

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Well as an introvert, I find it hard connecting with people irl. Sadly, all the friends i ever had (irl) approached me first. That's crazy. I don't know how to make friends and I surely don't know how to keep them. But once I get friends, I'm fun and I'm loyal and always there for them but they're still gone in the end so i must be the problem, I don't know. Some come back but it won't be the same. That's how my life is regarding people. The only person that never once left me was my ex boyfriend who i broke up with...

I get what you're saying though about social media and connecting online.

[Spiritwander]

Well, I could tell by how you were phrasing things that you were cyber-biased... (You're not the only introvert on here) 😉

And you're lucky that you've found any that stick around you at all. If you're a guy introvert, you can f--k off and die in a ditch.
(I only discovered this, of course, by following the trail of insults aimed in my direction like directions, and voila! HERE I AM, dying in *another* ditch from the original one...)😅

But I'm right there with you on the being clueless about how to make friends; I'm basically about to start bumbling around Seattle blindily and see if that's how it's done... (sad, but true)

Anyways, you can count me as a friend, I suppose. (Now would be an ideal time, since I'm in the process of redefining how the brain interprets the word "friend"), so I've got a little wiggle room to smush the definition into the cracks...😅

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Yes lol I'll admit. I am cyber bias but only because here I can be myself. I'm too shy in real life to be open about things I've said and asked on this site

That's very messed up. Whoever said that should take their own advice smh

At least you're trying. I'm mostly in my room reading or on here and it's freaking summer break. I should be having crazy fun but here I am doing this instead lol.

Absolutely. I'll be friends with any nice person to be honest

[Spiritwander]

@foriWish Ummm... I'm doing this from mobile; I live outdoors. Like, all the time. Totally "just being myself". It ain't fun listening to the crackheads and crazies running around out here @ 3am...
(I'm much more comfortable holding my tanto under my tablet than I should be.)😅

And about being open... uh. Outside seems kinda open. (It can do that part for ya!👍😉😅)

[Spiritwander]

What I'm saying is; out here? PLENTY O' CRAY-CRAY goin on... ... not a lot of it what I would call "safe fun" tho...😕 But I am in the city. 😏
I was thinking of hiking into the Olympics & doing a winter ice block castle (somewhere w/ more than 4' snowpack average) for cold air hydration conditioning... (or making a video of making an ice castle in the wilderness) or finding a mountain lake to go drinking saki at (I do not drink), but these days I'm gettin' kinda 'Whhaaddeva', and just want to try to go have fun.

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander You're very active lol. Are you naturally that way?

[foriWish]

Yeah I see what you mean. I honestly just need a push

[Spiritwander]

Active? 😅 Only in my imagination!
(Like when a girl asks if I'm naturally active when I'm planning a nature hike, and I have to censor my knee-jerk reaction to ask, "I don't know - maybe you could tag along and tell me... ... if you can keep up, that is...")
😁

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Lol I definitely can't keep up. I'm not as active as I use to be. My legs are short and slow.

[Spiritwander]

Well, I'm big but slow when I'm carrying a load... (like when camping), and despite my athletic background & lifestyle, I'm only fast when unencumbered...

Besides; I'd wait for ya... 😏

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Omg I love camping! I use to go all the time when i was younger but since becoming an adult, I haven't been since. I really miss it but I'm sure I'll be able to do it in the near future.

Well thank you. You sound like such the gentleman. I don't want to bring you down though lol. I will try to walk fast and normal but I'll be out of breath. I may look healthy being 5'1 119lb but I am not. Freaking running for 3 minutes; maybe even less will tire me out. I'm so unhealthy. I want to become healthy again though, just don't know where to start

[Spiritwander]

@foriWish Lol. I'm a heavy smoker of 40+ years; I'd probably be just as out of breath and sweating bullets as you! (I just don't let the hardship stop me)

(It does help to take walks in parks and such before taking on the wilderness though; nature does not joke around)

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander You're totally right about that. Weird enough though, I'm not a sweater. The only time I sweat is when its hot and I'm working out. Other than that, I never sweat

[Spiritwander]

@foriWish Man, its summertime and I lug around about 300+ lbs in bags (for some insane reason) daily; I sweat plenty. 😅
Luckily, decades of living outdoors have taught my phermones not to even bother trying to "stink up the place".
That's a phermone reaction of a Male who lives in a den or cell.
Mine just talks to flowers I pass by.😅

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander lol ok well at least you're most likely healthy or somewhat with the way you carry on around

[Spiritwander]

Actually, you don't want to see my damage list; there's a reason all the bad boys hate me... 🤣

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander Oh yeah. Do tell

[Spiritwander]

Not here! 😅

[foriWish]

@Spiritwander pm away. I'm curious

[KaitieJ]

I am also an introvert, and know EXACTLY how you feel. I think that the more unique you are, the more unique your match has to be. Which is great (in my perspective anyway), so it might be a bit harder to find them. I guess, if they don’t like you, than that’s their loss, but you won’t know until you try to figure it out. (By talking to them). And, I think introverts make better partners with extroverts. They kinda even each other out 😜. So, maybe one day, you’ll find your somebody because they start by talking to you.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Sorry man, but being an introvert doesn't equate to being afraid to talk to women. There are plenty of introverts who aren't.

[lcafer]

Women wait for men to talk to then almost all the time until they are heat. Sorry pal, wake up to reality and put yourself out there without making yourself too stiff/odd approaching. Women dont hunt that much, they wait for tributes and turn their nose up if no likey

[LIM1T]

I'm an introvert as well and I can relate because I've isolated myself from people so it's hard for me to confront people because usually I don't know what to say

[Quidthonian]

I am a fellow introvert. It is often less hassle not to be in a relationship. I would love to have an honest online friendship with an introverted woman. Applications are open.

[Rustro]

Wait

[Spiritwander]

🤣 I actually got that reference!!!🤣

[GD360]

Just got to put yourself out there no matter how afraid you are. Im an introvert as well. Don't think to much just go

[CoffeeWC]

I can relate to you so much. I also have epilepsy while also being an introvert. Also pretty handsome if I do say so myself. I guess the age is the only difference.

[Clarke498]

Same here. I'm a bit more open to groups though, but i'm no fan. My favorite things is to just chill with a few friends. Hate the whole party in a bar scene...

[UchihasLove]

A king who says that he is a king is not truly a king.

[nerms123]

I keep hitting on you but I figured you’re not interested 🤷‍♀️

[valentine74]

Ok your 38 nerms123 and I can't stop my brain from trying your comments to my real life experience and for Christ's sake bj wh won't you take my love as a truth

[ranch]

All got to do is come in my room and close door behind you

[valentine74]

Oh I'm interested for sure

[ranch]

When do you plan to show up?

[nnazme]

Nothing really wrong with it. A lot of people are like that.

I think it'd be nice to be a monk somewhere. Away from the problems of the world.

[Spiritwander]

Did that. Going back now. Thanks for reminding me.

[AmyBankRobber]

Serenity and peace.

[Emmalouise03]

i like

[ranch]

Ok great