Hello everyone, in this MyTake I’ll be sharing with you from my experience of going through of guys using and not fully interested in me. Just by how their body language and actions acted around/towards me.
Also, everything I’m about to say are RED FLAGS 🚩 that no person should have to go through when looking for a relationship.
So girls if anything from my experience sounds relatable to you or you are going through that now, I just want to say: you are worth more than this and I hope with what you are going through will make you stronger and you’ll be fully aware of how to avoid men such as these when perusing a relationship.
So here are the lists:
1) He dresses in disguised clothing when around you
By “disguised” I mean he wears anything dark and something that covers his face. Like:
- jackets that are able to cover his face
Now guys and dating coaches have claimed “when a guy is interested in a girl, he will be proud of himself. Cause he sees it as a accomplishment and will proudly show her off by his side to the world.”
Here are example pics by what I mean and see if you can differentiate by the level of affection.
It’s very sketchy and hurtful when a guy hides himself around a girl he claims “he’s interested in”. Especially even if he says “they’re just friends”. Also, friends proudly show off with each other.
2) He’s not amused or interested in the activities you want to do together
ALL MEN, ALL MEN/GUYS/TEENS/BOYS LOVE ACTIVITIES. Wether it’s indoor or outdoors.
Let’s see if this rings a bell
Guy: wanna hang out?
Girl: SURE 🤩. What do you want to do? Guy: I don’t care, whatever you want
Girls love making plans and sticking to that plan. We also make sooo many suggestions and ask others what type of activities their peers and family would like to do. From going out to the city, restaurants, shopping, events and parks. But, if the guy you like is not interested of allll the activities and the world you present to him….well, he’s just not interested in you 💔.
3) He doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family (while telling you are his girlfriend or even just a friend )
Sure you guys will be hanging out at the park (when it’s empty) or in a restaurant eating in a corner booth away from everyone else. But you’re too blind from all your surroundings and only focus on him and the “hidden” activities you guys are doing together. Thinking you guys are a couple and you bring up subjects of trying to get to know him. By asking him questions about his hobbies, family and friends. That his answers are short, mysterious and long pauses.
Girl: So, what are your hobbies
Guy: I don’t know, pretty much anything
Girl: What do you like to do?
Guy: Just anything really
Girl: do you have any friends?
Girl: Do you guys hang out and do anything fun?
Guy: Yeah we go fishing, camping, gym, events and play sports
Girl: wow sounds fun, I’d love to see it sometime
Guy: we’ll see, it’s not that interesting
Girl: Okay, so tell me about your family. What are they like?
Guy: what do you want to know?
Girl: Anything, do you have any siblings? Do you get along with your family?
Guy: not really. I’m hardly ever see them and I don’t associate myself with them.
Then as you bump in and introduce yourself to his friends and family. He ignores you like you don’t exist or he gives you mean glare to step away from him.
4) He uses breadcrumbing texts
(Breadcrumbing is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.)
There will be a pattern of how he texts and what he says to you, that makes you think he is interested in you. In the day, he says he’s busy. But in the nighttime he is fully available for you. That you overlook the time and only focus on the sweet words he says to you. Which makes you justify him ignoring you during the day, he will make it up to you at nighttime. When he’s “available”. 🙄
5) His short schedule all of sudden became a “busy” schedule for you
Now when you first asked him questions about his life and explained to you about his friends and hobbies. Along with very little working hours. Out of nowhere he became to busy for you, whenever you call him up to hang out. Or even just casually chat with him on the phone. He doesn’t have the time to do anything with you. Because he’s too “busy”. But he isn’t to busy to chat and hang out with his buddies from what you witnessed. His time with you is just too much for him.
There you have it, of what I went through and I’m pretty sure other girls as well of how guys showed they’re not interested in us.
Now I want to say, there’s no certain age groups of how guys behave like this. From my experience, this has happened to me in my teens, 20s, and sadly even in my 30s. I thought this was one time thing for me to get played like this. But I’m still learning the tactics guys use when they’re not interested in a girl.
Also when a guy is not interested in a girl, that doesn’t mean she’s ugly. Yes, I know we feel ugly when a guy we like is not interested in us. I have seen girls who look like models get used. And it is heartbreaking.
So I hope this MyTake helps other girls out there. When they become confused of why a guy is behaving from the lists I have posted.
(Also please excuse my editing skills. I kept trying to adjust the headings and the system would not let me. That this is what you see 😅)