How to make him regret rejecting me?

[Falling4UTC]

Okay so I told this guy who I have had a crush on for a while now that I liked him and he said sorry I never think about girls now because I want a lacrosse scholarship and only have tine for it and practice I never even talk to girls outside of school. I feel he is lying because he talks about how hot some people are with his friends. I just want him to regret rejcting me and realise what hemissed out on? by the way I dont like him anymore, I just want to see him regret it.

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I dont mean it as harsh as it sounds. I just want him to think "Dang it, I shoukd have said yes." I want him to realise who I am as a human.

[Ferruccio77]

Hi Falling4UTC, I apologize for my late replies.

My advice is this. Take it easy and beautify yourself. Let him notice that this did not effect you badly. Don't dress super nice but get yourself very cleaned up. Don't look sad or depressed either. You may feel sad but let it all at home, once you are cleared, show yourself a happy, bright person.

Usually, once he notice, how calm, relaxed you are, and that you look very good too. He may have second thoughts about you. Or else, even if he don't, it has taken you off nicely and nothing embarrassing happened.
Yes, I know you want to show revenge in some way, in that you cared a lot about him, liked him very much but he does not seem to show any in return. About your questions along the way, I think he already noticed u liked him before u told him.
the way to make him regret is that you become a happy person. don't fake anything, guys can notice very well too. in order to be happy, get your emotions right, get your studies well, get your looks fresh and clean. cuz when you are down, it makes u down. get yourself freshen up. just act as if nothing happened, move on.
i'm sure he will think about you again. even if not, you have saved yourself the embarrassment.
anything else please ask.

[Falling4UTC]

Its alright, you have helped me so much already! :) I love how deeply you write your advice. It feels like someone actually cares, you know? I just feel like singing all day every day until I can get back up on my feet. I noticed today when I had my exam with him, he kept looking behind to me and same when he was walking. I just looked forward and pretended I didn't notice. I just want him to wonder if he made a mistake really. Thank you for your uplifting words! :)

[Ferruccio77]

oh im glad you are feeling alright. yeah, he must have thoughts about you. he might regret some day too, especially if you know you are a good person with a clear conscience, just take it lightly.
anything at all just let me know. glad i helped in some way

[Falling4UTC]

Thank you :) I am happy that you are giving me reassurance, because my life is as confussing as it gets (you dont want to know the full story.) I am told I am one of the nicest kids in school, which I really try to, and I am a songwriter and have high grades in academic level. I am told I am really pretty too but sometimes I am like "hmm... I don't know lol." I am just wondering, what could he not like really? Is it because I am really short, I have a bit crooked teeth, or because I am really shy around him? Like I dont know.
You did help, in every way :)

[mirii]

Hi, I am in the simialr situation... First I didn't understand his beahavior and argument after he was trying to get me for 2 months...
And want him to regret it. Can you please check my question too? and tell your oppinion.
Thanks so much
girlsaskguys. com/dating/q2036448-he-liked-me-wascalling-out-for-2-month-than-rejected-me-i-dont

[JoeEDangerously]

Don't do that. It's selfish, petty, and childish. Everyone gets rejected. Everyone. George Clooney had someone break up with him last year, I think. That's George freaking Clooney!

Get over it. This is a bad idea. How would you feel if someone did this to you. Let this go and act like an adult. He did not owe you a date or anything else. Move on and don't be so selfish and immature.

Think about someone doing this to you. If you wouldn't want that then don't do it.

By the way, what he'll think of you "as a human" will be that you're a petty childish vindictive little bitch. Guaranteed. No good can come of this. Get over it and let it go.

[Falling4UTC]

You know people dont have to go twisting words. I can not describe what I mean so I just vent it all out until I can make some sense of it. I just want him to think back and actually think "I should have given her a chance" or something. I really do not want revenge at all and I dont want him hurt especially because I know how it feels to be hurt. literally. Skipping my life story, I don't want him in pain. I just wrote this all in the heat of the moment and I was meaning to get answers such as "get cleaned up and show him how happy you are" and everything. I wasn't expecting a plan to harm anyone sorry.

[JoeEDangerously]

No word twisting here. I went by what you said and it was very childish and immature. The problem is on your end, not mine. Now grow up.

[Falling4UTC]

Okay, I would like to apologise for my innaccurate word choice. I was in the wrong and I hope that we can be okay with eachother?

[Elizabeth08]

I can understand you how does it feel but I am controlling the situation in a very calm way and I think it will work with you too. First thing is just try to ignore him as much as you can, spend your times with your friends I know it's hard but just spend your time with your friends, visit beautiful places, take pictures and upload beautiful and hot but gentle pictures, catch another more handsome looking guy than him take pictures and upload but also mention you're just friends or brothers something like that somehow he will realize you don't live only for that guy but there are also more better looking guys who could be yours, balancing between being busy with your own life but also showing somehow you still care for him at the same time but not in clingy way is also a very important thing. Text him hi how you doing but also disappear immediately, post funniest updates, your creativities and don't contact him he will sure realize what he has lost! 😊

[lordAlex818]

He's not gonna regret it. Before we turn down a girl, we weigh in everything. And I mean everything. So he would have already considered you looking better and/or trying to get back at him in the future.

He's just not into you... trying to get back at him because he doesn't like you is childish at best.

[Anonymous]

One day he probably will regret it. But why hand around and waste your energy and time thinking about him when that time could be better spent thinking about somebody else you like?

[Falling4UTC]

That is so accurate. I am going to see him one more time and that is tomorrow for my last exam. Then I won't see him all summer unless I bump into him. I just need to pay attention to my music career first (I am a singer songwriter and performing at bigger and bigger places now! :) )

[Opinion Owner]

That sounds like a very interesting career choice. Have you anything on line you've done? I'd love to hear what you do :)

[Falling4UTC]

Well if you have ever heard of Lennon and Maisy, I am sort of in that genre they sing. I was inspired by them so I sang with my sister and we do harmonies. If you want to listen to some of our older material you can just search "2 Cute 4 Country" on YouTube and click on some songs like Better than you expect or Head up. Now
remember this is older material, so I look very
young in the pictures aha >. < I have written over 30 songs so far, so more recordings will soon be on the way :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for sharing you are both amazing. I think you'll both going to be famous!

[Falling4UTC]

Aww thank you so much! :) Hard work is paying off slowly, and life is great with music so far. Thank you for your reassurance :) :)

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome and thanks again for sharing and I an't wait to hear you on the radio one day! :)

[Falling4UTC]

No problem at all and thank you for your support! ! :)

[Metal189]

by living your life to the fullest. never try to get back at a guy. word will get around, and you'll become the bitch

[genericname85]

that´s really selfish. he will be even more sure about his decision if you try to make him regret.

[Falling4UTC]

I said I was not looking for revenge. I just want him to think "dang, I messed up"

[genericname85]

that´s still selfish and stubborn. he just doesn´t like you, so what? don´t make such a big deal out of it. if he lied to you because he hopes, to get a better one then why should you even care about that douche?

[Falling4UTC]

I am not trying to be selfish. Its just that I feel he and other people underestimate me and I want them to know me as a human being and realise that he maybe should have accepted. I am trying to find the words to put it in a nicer way but I can't describe it sorry :(

[Falling4UTC]

I just really really deeply liked this guy so it offended me a bit when he said sorry I dont like even talk to girls even though he does. I know he was trying to spare my feelings but I can handle the truth.

[genericname85]

i know how you feel. maybe it´s part of moving on. don´t bother thinking about him any longer cause there won´t be any benefits from it. try to find another guy, who is worth your time.

[Falling4UTC]

True, hopefully that can work. I can just go all taylor swift on it too. I won't write a song about him, just about my feelings aha. hopefully I can just take my music career somewhere in life so I won't need love.

[icantwait]

Hook him up with a hot slut that has herpes. Perfect revenge

[Falling4UTC]

First of all I am 15 I can't really do that aha secondly I dont want revenge, I just want him to think "dang, I messed up." sorry if the question sounded like I wanted to hurt him I dont at all trust me.

[icantwait]

Oh okay that's much different.

May I ask why exactly you want him to feel like he messed up?
Did he hurt you in some way?

[Falling4UTC]

Yea, he sort of lead me on to believe he liked me and he also told a bunch of his friends he thought I liked him so they sort of joke about it at times and it is embaressing. I really actually had deep feelings for him and it sort of offended me including when he lied to me. I have more respect and dignity than that, you know? I just dont want to actually hurt him. Just show him what he missed out on and give him some regret to it. Does any of that make sense at all? :$

[icantwait]

Yes it does definitely. I think just being who you are would speak louder then anything else you could do honestly. Be genuine and true. If you're an amazing person he will definitely realise what he missed out on.
You may not see the satisfaction of it but it will happen down the road

[Falling4UTC]

Thank you so much, I really am happy you could understand. Sorry if I sounded obnoxious and rude at all, I was just writing it in the heat of the moment.

[icantwait]

Most definitely, I didn't think you were being rude or anything. Or at least if you were I didn't care/mind.

Any progress?

[Falling4UTC]

I hope I wasn't, I really try to be as nice as possible and I feel very guilty now especially from some comments. I noticed before pur exam started he kept looking back at me like noticeably in the halls and before we started to take the test. I didn't talk to him though because I felt shy and everything, so my friend told me to move and near her (and closer to him.) I found it funny because she gave me some of her ice cap and I thanked her and she said "No problem! And just letting you know, if I let you drink out of my ice cap, you are loved aha :)" and he just looked over his shoulder and then back down so I hesitated and said "aha... yea. Thanks so much I try to be loved aha." I think he almost felt guilty when she said that I am loved by her but I don't know at all to be completely honest. I could just be overthinking again aha.

[Editor]

Just quit thinking about him. The two of you aren't together. Move on.

[CourtJester]

Becoming a playboy model sounds good to mo ha.

[Anonymous]

Be pretty and be happy.

[Anonymous]

How did he lead you on?

[Falling4UTC]

He would always stare at me a lot in class and looked away really fast and shyly when I saw him. Then he also called me over to joke with me a couple of times for no actual reason and it was like innapropriate topics so I just said "I am goingto go and pretend this never happened aha" and walked away. He also is very nice to me when he does talk to me which is weird because we aaren't close. He just gave all these signs plus he told a load of his friends before I told him that he thought I liked him. He just made me fall for him and it is sad...

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he does like you and is Afriad to admit it? I would text him about it.

[Opinion Owner]

is he a player because he sounds like one. They flirt with EVERY GIRL. Beware!

[Falling4UTC]

Well he is desired secretly by many of the girls at our school. He doesn't flaunt his looks though or try to flirt really tbj. The most he does is just insult them with his dry humor and joke around. I actually told him I like him though, that is the thing. I just felt so sad because I had dreams about him like every night and I really thought we could start a relationship. I guess it just wasn't meant to be, I just wish he would question his decision to regect me at least once in his life really.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure he wasn't just looking to hook up with you? High school guys do that...

[Falling4UTC]

Trust me, he wasn't that friendly. Everyone in school can tell I have more dignity and respect than that so they are innapropriate to everyone but me. I have an innocent vibe going on and they can sort of feel it I guess aha. Like popular guys and everything ask me out, but they are sometimes innapropriate or I am not feeling the same with them. This one guy was just driving me crazy though. So its not like I am uptight and nobody likes me, it is just that everybody respects me enough to not be that way with me.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not saying you're uptight but a lot of guys in high school are trying to hook up. If he wasn't that friendly I don't know why you would think that he liked you? But I'm sure he does find you attractive if he keeps looking at you.

[Falling4UTC]

When I was explaining I am not uptight, I meant it as in people respect me enough to not hook up. I didn't mean for you to think I thought you said I was uptight sorry :( I meant friendly as in like sexual and innapropriate, he was a friendly guy but not THAT sort of friendly I mentioned above. And thank you:) I sort of on one hand want him to, then again I dont because I dont want to fall back into that pit again, you know?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok. Maybe he really isn't into dating at the moment. Have you thought of that? Maybe his reason for rejecting you was legit.

[Falling4UTC]

Well I think he is into dating at least a bit. I heard his friend talking to him in class and his friend said "is she hot?" and I didn't hear the rest but I think he said yessss. Also, he said he never talks to girls outside of school, but he always tweets happy birthday to all these really pretty girls I have never met before who look like models. He also favourited a picture on Twitter a girl posted that said "you and me" on it and had a girl (showing just her lower body) sitting in between a
guys legs. I just think he lied and it is horrible because I have more dignity and respect than to be lied to. I have gone through worse things than a "sorry but I dont like you that way" and its sad how he thinks I would break over the truth.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you so into this guy! He is just one guy. Don't obsess over him. From what you wrote it doesn't sound like you and him were that close so why would you expect him to like you if he hardly even knew you

[Falling4UTC]

I really dont know to be honest. I think personally I fell for his looks and turned him into some idol so he could distract me from life. We werent too close to be honest because I was so shy so I just said a few things casually and moved on. I guess I just sort of hoped he would like me because a lot of his friends whi are also popular asked me out when they barely knew me and I said no because they are not the most appropriate guys. Like they were kind to me and not using me, they were actually genuine and even after I said we had to just be friends one of them even started telling his friends in school how much he liked ne and everything. I guess I just hoped that he would be the same, but the thing is is that I like him because he is a bit different.

[Opinion Owner]

How old are you?

[Falling4UTC]

15 why aha?

[CaliforniaMe]

It seems to me like he knows he led you on and he's sorry, he knew at that moment he really wanted to focus, guys can't think up excuses to quickly, he was probably being real honest with you, he seems like a nice guy, don't read to much into it. Take this lesson, I just had to get over a guy who led me on and wouldn't stop staring at me and I just turned 19, he's still young and immature and is definitely never going to settle down right now, never read too much into a guys signals unless he is actually communicating with telling you he wants to date ok?

[Soloist01]

Cut off his dick and kill his pet

[Falling4UTC]

I first would never do that and I am disgusted by the answer. Secondly, I am not looking for revenge. I just wanted him to even wonder if he messed up for a second. Thirdly, I dont want him hurt in any way.

[Soloist01]

Take it easy it was a joke. Please do not tell me you thought I was serious

[Falling4UTC]

I didn't think you were serious, I just gave a legitimate answer to your joke. Jokes dont help tbh.

[Soloist01]

We'll let me tell you something. every minute you spend thinking of ways to make him regret he's not thinking about you for a minute. So don't waste your time on inane plots against a guy. Get out there and stop feeling sorry for yourself

[Falling4UTC]

I have been over it for a while now tbh, so thanks for the advice but no thanks aha ★☆★