I blue-balled him by accident and now he's ignoring me?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing the same guy on and off for a few months. He knows that I dont want to have sex with him unless I'm in a committed relationship with him. I've been very up front about it. He said he was okay with it and wasn't going to try anything when we hung out. I went to his house and we cuddled and started making out in his bed. I blue-balled him and I felt really awful but im waiting for him to make things official with me, and he made it seem like he was going to do it soon, so I didn't want to give it up until he officially made the commitment. He told me all night how much he likes and respects me and said that me holding off on sex didn't bother him, but the next morning he acted super bitter and cold towards me and hasn't talked to me since. What do I do? I've been wanting him for months but he's so on and off, im scared that if I hook up with him he will ignore me the next day, he can be genuine but he also plays games. Im head over heels for this guy to the point where I can't even sleep at night. I just want to know whats going on in his head.

[Anonymous]

You can't blue ball a guy. We still have hands.

Anyway, you already laid out your requirements, and he knows what they are. If he's upset, it's because he's not getting his way.

Which apparently it'd be really easy for him to get. I don't know why he's holding out on you.

Anyway, he can say all the pretty words he wants, but he's acting like a bratty fucking kid who didn't get some toy he wanted. You sure you want to be with a guy who acts like a bitch when he doesn't get his way?

[Asker]

Thank you for that! I dont think I want to deal with it anymore, I like him a lot but its not worth it.

[NZDSTR]

I agree with this guys comment

[OldDinosaur]

Blue balls happens after a few hours not the next day. I'm sure he took care of himself after you left. He's on and off because... he really is on and off and probably not sure he wants to be your one. Ditch him, he who acts last, loses most fast... on to the next one. Your are warned though... If you give it up he will play with you even more.

[Asker]

Thank you! I appreciate the feedback!

[CommieDearest]

You're "head over heels" for a total asswipe. You were up front with him, and he still acted like an entitled douche.

[Asker]

He is an as swipe, its just been going on for months and im having the hardest time getting over him, whenever I forget about him for a while he hits me up and its the same shit all over again.

[Athleticbroo]

dafuq you blue balled him for if you won't have sex with him? His reactions are reasonable and you probably should do something about it if you like him or shit lol

[Asker]

I dont just wanna fuck some guy ill never hear from the next day.

[Athleticbroo]

Thats less likely to happen in this situation unless you are worst than katy perrie in bed

[NovemberJoseph]

Katy perry is fucking hot, what makes you say she's bad in bed? Lol

[Athleticbroo]

Russel said it in a show, She used to ask him about "things" dude..

[Anonymous]

Even if you weren't going to have sex, you could have done something so he wasn't sent home with blue balls.

[Anonymous]

"make it official" means, I forbid you to have girl "friends"

[Asker]

Well yeah it would imply that we are in a monogamous relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

But I thought girls liked to be able to be "just friends" with guys, lol... notice the sarcasm

[Asker]

whats your point?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you think?

[ViciousVic22]

Uh ditch his ass, and move on :p