Because men are sexual and women are emotional. They are visual too, so if they see anything in pornos or adult movies, they want to try it. It's all a matter of taste. We can't blame them for wanting to try those things anymore than they can blame us for not wanting to. Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with - but in their defense - us girls can be such prudes! And it can be boring. Talk to your man about sex. If he wants to try something you aren't 100% sure about, don't just say no! Tell him you need to give it some thought and then do some research about it online. You can find other women's experiences doing the same act, if it's safe, if it's uncomfortable, etc. If by the end of it, your answer is still no, then do not be swayed into doing it anyhow! Set yourself some boundaries. But even the word "boundaries" implies some leverage. Who knows? - You might surprise yourself by having some fun with it.
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You have to be your own gate-keeper. If you don't want to do something, it is not enough to just say it. You have to "do" it.
Many guys want what they want and even if you say you don't want to have sex, or don't want to participate in a certain type of sexual activity, well either they don't quite believe you or they just cannot help but hope you will change your mind, because after all, girls do appear to change their mind when they do things they say they don't want to.
Do not put a guy in the position of taking care of you or being the one to protect you from himself, :) If he pressures you, tell him no. If he keeps it up, stop hanging out with him.
You've got to not want it more than he wants it, and you've got to make that VERY clear. Say no, and mean it, because wood-poisoning isn't lethal. If he persists, walk out. If no one tells them no and they keep getting what they want, what incentive do they have to stop?
Not all guys are, it's just that guys are much more open spoken about sex (in general) than girls are. If you feel pushed and don't want to try things, tell it to him. And if there's something that you want him to do, tell him how and show him what.
Because one thing that I know is very usual is that girls Always think that guys should take the first step and knowing how to please the girl, though they maybe don't have a clue what they want.
That's why you ladies should talk a lot more with the guys, how you want it during sex, or else it is the guy who are in command.
I know, I've experienced this many times.
Or maybe it's because you're a bit prude talking about sex, and you think that those guys are dirty when talking like that. :D
//Christopher
please don't do what you don't want to do: it's supposed to be fun, right?
it's probably safe to say they'll be less than keen about your going to work on them with a strap-on :P so why should you give in?
why do you submit? dunno; people do that for lots of reasons - fear is probably the most common (fear of loss of the relationship, being left alone, etc)
why do guys want it? porn maybe, but also the sense of power, or some particular hang-up of their own. some (many) people *do* enjoy these things, so it's not like it should be taboo to even ask.
i think most guys will want you to have a Good Time too - so don't be afraid to say "i don't like that"; and maybe try "do this instead".
good luck
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If you say no and no means no and you don't give in then he won't, if he does then some may call that rape dear.
If you say no then do it anyway then he thinks your just teasing him, if you don't like something and make that clear then he has to obey that and don't you go falling for any of that "oh but its ok for me to go down on you but you won't let me take you up the bum" because that's a pitiful way to get what he wants.
Make it clear that he is not forced to do anything he doesn't like and you won't partake in acts you don't like.
He needs to respect that otherwise its bordering on dangerous ground as I said earlier.
If he doesn't like it then maybe he isn't worth saving over some sex act and he obviously doesn't appreciate what he has got with you.
NEVER do anything you don't want to under any circumstances, a firm NO will remind any excitable guy that you aren't just being a cheeky tease.
If you give in you are going to be left feeling abused or dirty, put your foot down.because they're needy
but it's not their fault
don't do it if you don't want to
and stop blaming them for thatYeah I understand, it seems guy want anything and everything done, I don't know why they do though. But don't let him persuade you or manipulate you into doing it just stand your ground. If he doesn't accept it you shouldn't be with him.
Guys will only go as far as you let them. Its all about respect. If you respect yourself too much to be pressured into doing something you don't want to do you wont. But if you let him pressure you he'll do it time and time again.
Because they are needier than you.
A desperate man does desperate things. Question is, why do you put up with it?Pornos are why. Boys are growing up watching pornos and becoming more freaky to want to do what they see in the films. they want to copy.
I would not have sex while I'm on my peroid I think its kinda gross plus I think he could wait 3 days because that's how long mine lasts!
bc they have very sick minds and only care about sex!
Because they're boys. And boys are stupid. They are not doing it in a manipulative way or anything, it's like when they want something, they have to have it. Some guys have better control though.
its a power thing, without a doubt
if they can get you to do something that is taboo it turns them on even moreThey don't shower enough.
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