Why would a guy deliberately interrupt you ?

[Anonymous]

This guy I know would deliberately interrupt me when I'm speaking, even when I am speaking to him he will start talking when I'm already talking or if I'm talking to someone else he will ask me something when I'm already talking and I would have to stop what I am saying to answer him then return to the other person and then he would do it again. witch I really don't understand because usually he shows signs that he like me constantly smiling and staring etc but this to me seems to show me that he doesn't seem to care really for what I have to say.

If there are any guy's here that has done this could you explain why because it's confusing the hell out of me.

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Ok thanks for your answers.

It is much appreciated and seams to make seance.

[mrsvincenoir]

When a person interrupts you when you are speaking (on a regular or constant basis) Its because subconsciously they believe they are more important then you,it really is that simple-what they have to say is more important then what you have to say,their views are more relevent then yours and they don't respect you.

Its litterally saying "What you have to say doesn't matter,my opinion is more important therefore I will talk over you".

(I have done studying which covers subjects like this in communication).

If this happens again,simpley stop speaking,wait for him to shut up,then repeat what you said again before he interrupted you,and finish it off-even if he has changed the subject,you hadnt finished,so repeat the whole lot,and eventually he will get the hint.

OR do what I would do and say "Dont try and have a conversation with me if you want it to be one sided-shut up when I'm speaking" lol.

Seriously people who do this tend to have amazeingly high opinions of themselves and not a lot of respect for other people.

[Asker]

Ok if you have studied this behavior then may be you can help a little more, sorry in advance when I am talking to some one else and he asks me some random question I answer him but he just sort leans forward a little and stares at me in till I turn back to the other person was he waiting for me to say something else. He even phoned me up once to ask for my opinion for something and didn't really let me speak just kept repeating his question now what is the point of ringing me for a opinion.

[mrsvincenoir]

Well what I wrote the first time still applys to this.

Me personally if he's acting like that I would see it as a huge redflag of someone who is controling-interrupting your convos with others and stareing like that "i demand your attention NOW" Its control, and the phone thing is again just showing he doesn't have the respect to listen to you.

Sounds like bad news to me.

[palek]

Mrsvincnoir! You are perceptive far beyond the call of duty. The bartender in The Shining was precisely what went though my head! You just have it all going, it seems. lol

[rebecca_d]

he definitely likes you as more than a friend. guys tend to turn into jerks sometimes when they like a girl, because they don't know how to show it and he is trying to get noticed by you. he may seem like a jerk now, but give him a chance. hope that helps :)

[palek]

Some people are only "jerks" when they open their mouths. He definitely needs to be corrected.

[rebecca_d]

He just doesn't know how to show he likes her. she should ask him out :)

[palek]

Yes, but it would be much better for everyone if she first "corrects" him.

[rebecca_d]

'correcting' him sounds illegal, so she probably shouldn't do that. who died and made you hitler palek.

[palek]

That's Mister Hitler Palek to you. And, in fact, Hitler himself died, but, of course, one of him was way more than enough. Anyhoo, "correcting" needn't take on the form of any illegal activity. My recommendation as to how he can be effectively "corrected" is perfectly reasonable. I've used it myself, and gave out far more cookies, than strikes with the ball peen hammer. Speaking of cookies, I'm hungry. Oh, and you mustn't be angry with me as I'm obviously unstable.

[Asker]

He he palek you are a very funny guy, I just have to say that :)

[palek]

; - )

[Brine]

It could be something that he does without meaning to, I have a friend who acts the same on a regular basis - it's just a bad habit.

[Asker]

He doesn't do it to others, he is well educated with good manners other wise I would of just put it down to that lol

[Brine]

Well then he could be trying to get your attention - steering you away from others by intterupting you. Talk to him about it if it really bothers you.

[palek]

No, no, no. I'm certain he needs to be corrected.

[mrsvincenoir]

Palek you sound like the barman in the shineing lol

[palek]

He's an impetuous boor, who feels a need to validify his own existence by monopolizing every conversation, and thus probably never has an unspoken thought. As with all social dullards, he continues on in his unsociable behavior, only as a result of not being suitably corrected by those he comes in regular contact with. If I were you, I'd find out what kind of cookies he likes to eat, and keep a bag of them handy. The next time you attempt a discussion with him, and he begins his tiresome interruptions, berate him mercilessly, and inform him that from this point forward, each time he should endeavor to interrupt you, you will strike him soundly on the top of his ridiculous head with a ball peen hammer. Then make it know that, alternately, should he manage to last five minutes without opening his unenlightened gob, you will reward him with a cookie. This will improve your life immeasurably.

[Anonymous]

maybe you talk too much and are not giving him a chance to speak...

[Asker]

Ooofff Thanks ha ha, no we hardly ever talk but when I do talk with him or in a group with him that's what I get, usually he would just look at me and give me a smile.

[palek]

I have to side with the queston-asker on this one. The man is surely in need of "correction".