My co-worker ignores me after HE rejected ME?

[Anonymous]

Why would a guy ignore a girl he rejected? He's acting like an a***ole

[Applefan1]

You need to try and tell him that I know it maybe awkward but we need to keep this professional, we are at work and in order to do our job affectively we need to communicate. What you feel for each other personally is a different matter. I am not saying it is not important but both of you need to try and not let it affect your work. He maybe doing this for many reasons maybe it is his way of dealing with it or like I said before he feels awkward but both you need to try and keep that separate from your work.

[Asker]

I dont want to run after him. If I'll talk to him about it, it will get more akward.
read mine and iron_mans' conversation down below.

[Applefan1]

Well i would not say that is exactly running after him, all I was meaning is that it becomes a problem if it was to affect you're working abilities or his in some way. Only you can judge if you think it will make it more awkward and if you do think that maybe it is best left alone. I actually had a problem with a girl I asked out to lunch and she refused, I was not quite sure if I could believe her excuse or not so I know how it feels. Like iron_man said he could be playing hard to get.

[Iron_Man]

Not sure what did you say to him? your the one that really knows the deal here

[Asker]

I was 100% sure he liked me. He kept on staring a lot. His friend used to tease me about him. I can tell he told his other friend about me, from the way his friend looked at me. His friend told me a few months ago "he really likes you".
When I asked him for coffee he said, "maybe another time" (which i took as a clear NO)

[Iron_Man]

This is a tough one from what your telling me, yes he does but when it comes down to it he sounds like he does not. The only thing I can think of is he's playing hard to get. Maybe there is something else you left out that he's upset about.

[Asker]

What i can think of, is that.: At work, we're not best friends, we donthang out after work, no text or phone calls. We dont have long conversations, and talk alot. Its mainly "hi good mornig whats up" and a bit chit chat. (we're working together for a year already).
So maybe he's thinking like "if we're not such good friends, why would I wanna date you?"
What do you say?

[Iron_Man]

From what your telling me here sounds to me like he sees you as just a reg co worker and he does not see you like you think he might think of you

[Asker]

then why would he stare and send his friends over?

[Iron_Man]

Do you understand where I am coming from here going by what your telling me? I have no idea who he is or how he thinks. I can only guess at it for I dont walk in his shoes or know him. he's playing hard to get or he's not.

[Iron_Man]

Thank you so much for the MH

[Asker]

No problem
thanks for helping out ;)

[thegreennss]

He wants nothing to do with you. He might be just a very professional type of guy who doesn't want to date coworkers and risk his job or he might just be not interested in you at all lmao.

[Blueeyes81]

Girls do it all the time. Ask yourself why you would ignore someone you rejected. It' can be uncomfortable.

[Asker]

I actually dont ignore the guy i rejected.

[evenlift]

Maybe he just doesn't want to lead you on. Or maybe he feels embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Because it's awkward being around someone that has stronger feelings for you than you do for them.

[vivek07]

I think it irritates him seeing your face after whatever happened between you and him. my opinion not take it personally