Why does coworker ignore me after he rejected me?

[Anonymous]

Like why does he do this? One minute he’s friendly and the next he completely ignores me.

I don’t even feel I like him that much anymore, yet I feel like he thinks I do. It’s hard seeing him like this every day, when I wish he’d just get over it.

[_Maya_]

He is over it if he is ignoring you. That's a good thing to be honest. You shouldn't date or have any romantic relationship with a coworker. It is a recipe for disaster. The first blowup or bad fight you have you can't simply get away from him because you have to face him at work and likely collaborate to some degree. How's that going to go when you two are pissed at each other? So take this as a good thing that you potentially avoided all that and focus on what you are supposed to at work which is your job. It isn't a social club. You are there being paid to do a job not socialize or flirt. Sounds like he is over it and you aren't considering you are the one posting online about it.

[Asker]

Thanks for this, yes I know what you mean, I’m done with it to be honest, just trying to be civil and professional. It’s a bit irritating when you see someone blatantly ignore you though, I mean there’s ignoring and then there’s let’s be civil and carry on.

[spartan55]

You are talking about HIM getting over it, yet here you are? Oookay.
This may shock you but he may have other things on his mind aside from you. How did he reject you?

[Asker]

Yeah well the reason I say it is because I see him daily and it feels a bit crap to see him purposely walk the other direction because he’s seen you, I mean I get it might be awkward but really.. he rejected me not the other way round. He said had just come out of a divorce and wasn’t ready.

[Shiprex]

I think he is over it but you aren't otherwise why ask why he ignores you: No one has a right to another's attention

[Asker]

I know what you’re saying, I’m trying to get over it, but I think for me it’s more the fact that I have to see him daily and having someone you know ignore you feels a bit crap. He doesn’t have to be nice or anything or even talk, but I guess common courtesy in terms of acknowledgement doesn’t seem too extreme to me. It just feels all the more awkward because he doesn’t I guess and it’s not like he’s a stranger. I get he’s over it though, as I feel the same.

[Shiprex]

It's true and must he tough on you right now because you are stinging from rejection and his avoidance (i doubt It's ignorance as that would mean intentional avoidance which makes him. a bit of a douche) as he's maybe embarrassed about the rejection. No one likes being around those they've hurt unintentionally.

[Asker]

Yeah ok thanks for this,

[Shiprex]

You're welcome

[Shiprex]

Ty for mho

[Aldan1609]

Just ignore him

[Asker]

Thanks yeah I think I will from now on.