Male coworker, that I like, ignores me?

[ElenaGiorgia]

Hi everyone, So there's this guy that I work with that I really really like. I am 28 yo and he is 29. I have been working this job for 6 months and in those 6 months this guy never made any effort to talk to me and has never reached out to me on social media and so on. There is barely any interaction between us at work. However I noticed that he changes his behaviour in group settings, when drinking or having dinner with all the other colleagues I catch him staring at me and he even laughs at my jokes or says something after my jokes to make them more funny and keep the conversation going. I have no idea what to think about this behavior and don't know if he is just openly showing he is not interested or if he is just shy.

[_Maya_]

Honestly it sounds like pretty normal behavior and nothing to overthink like this. He laughs at jokes. I bet you do too. If he is staring at you how do you know that unless you are also staring at him? See how that works? I would not for a second think that anything you wrote means that he is into you. It also doesn't mean he isn't. Anything is possible. I am just saying from the signs you point to that is pretty normal behavior. Also remember that dating coworkers is never a great idea. What happens if there is a big blowup and you have a terrible fight? That makes things awkward af and potentially effects how you work at a job you are being paid to do.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Better to assume he’s not interested and move on. If he wants you, then he needs to make it known. If you want him then stop beating around the bush and ask him out. He says no, take the rejection on the chin. He says yes, great you get to plan the date. Have fun

[Billlewis]

I recommend that you start wearing skimpy, more revealing outfits to work, and if it isn't feasible to do that, then wear sexy open toed high heels, instead.

[spartan55]

You've been there six months. Is there something stopping you from talking to him? Get to it, and stop sitting around watching him like a hawk.

[ElenaGiorgia]

Forgot to mention I did try to talk to him sometimes... I just feel like he treats me like his neighbor and not even remotely as a potential partner or a friend. Which I think it's weird one does not even want to know you on a friendly level (?). Other people in the office say he is really closed off.

[spartan55]

Okay, so why are you trying to force a round peg into a square hole?

[slatyb]

Invite him to lunch or something. He may be thinking you are out of his league or maybe he's afraid to make advances at work.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t worry about it sounds complicated if he doesn’t make a move on you he’s just a shy guy these things never work out anyway nobody ever does anything

[Anonymous]

If u are interested u must chase them lol. The phone works both ways