So if a girl says.. I need to ask you something and I need you to be honest? Will you?

[Anonymous]

I need to know what we are. I know he's a little shy and all but I just can't tell if he's into me or just being polite so for my peace of mind and to get off this emotional roller coaster of maybe, maybe not. I need to ask him what the deal is. It's been going on for far to long... Months... So he knows how I feel about lying and its one of my biggest pet peeves... And all... So if I say.. I need to ask you something and I need a honest answer no matter what it is... do you think he will be honest? He's older... About 30 so not a kid. Guys? Thoughts?

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+1 y

Gonna start by asking if he even sees us as friends... If he says no, after all these months then he won't see us as anything else right?

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+1 y

Thanks! It's good to know soo many of you guys would be honest.

[britwood879]

From my experience, guys can lie through their teeth just to keep the woman around. If you think he is mature and has been honest with you about everything else, you can be assured that he will be straightforward with you. God forbid he hasn't, then you can't take his word. Please don't settle for wishy washy men! Especially one who's in his 30s. You can do so much better girl!

[Asker]

I don't think he would lie... But he seems to be the type to not want to hurt someone's feelings... Very nice and polite... which is why I can't tell if he has any feelings for me or not. Plus he's shy.

[britwood879]

He might be polite but he won't keep you around if he doesn't want you either. Regardless of if it hurts your feelings or not. Just be casual and ask him if he's interested in pursuing something more monogamous. No pressure, no rush, just slow and organically. See what he says!

[Asker]

He doesn't keep me around. I don't have his number (hadn't asked for it though) and I don't see him unless I am visiting his town and all.. which is not too far away but.. like I said. I initiate the convos we have. He does acknowledge me and smile. So... Really hard to tell...

[ThisIsMyUsernam]

She would have my undivided attention. If someone says that and means it, they have something worth asking. If someone asked me what we were, I would tell them, be it a friendship, relationship, or if I hate their guts. Judging from the description you gave, don't worry about the third :).

[Asker]

Yeah I think I can rule out him hating me. He may make me initiate and seem nervous sometimes and sometimes look like he's avoiding me but I know by his attitude when we talk, its not hate. I just can't tell if there's really any attraction or feelings on his side and its killing me. I got to know if I'm gonna get hurt by continuing to pursue this. I was gonna start with are we friends.. cuz if he doesn't see us that way.. he won't see us any further and I don't wanna freak him out too bad.

[ThisIsMyUsernam]

Then by all means, ask him what you two are! Good luck! :)

[Maxemeister]

Well, it depends on the question. What is the question?

[Asker]

I was gonna start with do you even see us as friends... And judge by that if asking if he sees us as more needs to be asked. After all.. if he doesn't see us as friends.. After all these months... the other is pointless.

[Maxemeister]

I would answer honestly on that one, yes.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[1ian20]

Yup, I would!

[Anonymous]

Yeah i would be honest. You should do that