My guy friend has blocked me?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend has blocked me off the texting app for no fucking reason! He has no gf who might have forced him. I didn't do a shit to make him do so. I was amazed at how he could do it. I am really hurt. We used to be close friends. We are in two different colleges so we can't even bump in to each other or something. I really have no idea what I should do.

[Anonymous]

Honestly? Let it go.

This guy, reason or not, is not stupid enough to know that blocking someone is going to hurt them.

Or, it could be some misunderstanding, who knows?

If it really bothers you, confront him about it, but don't do it in an obsessive way, just a brief message saying you noticed, and you hope you didn't do something that offended him.

Something along those lines.

Otherwise, just let it go. Sometimes people do those things because they cannot give you a reason, and it's just easier for them to resort to that. Accept that, and you'll see what I mean

[Opinion Owner]

You have to understand when someone is blocked, it's usually kind of a way to just cut them out of your life, you know?

Take it as a message that this person has moved on. Maybe from the friendship, maybe from a potential crush from you.

If someone doesn't give you an explanation for the way they've chosen to behave, it means they're most likely not going to. You just have to accept that sometimes.

[Asker]

I understand that. And you are right. If he has chosen to not give me a reason earlier, then he won't give it later. He used to talk to me everyday for hours. It's hurtful that he suddenly decided to cut off all ties. Like, was I such a burden? :(

[Opinion Owner]

I can understand that would hurt, but maybe you're interpreting it differently than what the situation may be, whatever it truly is.

Maybe you weren't a burden, it was just him associating the friendship you shared with something else. Maybe it caused him to study less, or maybe he likes you and had feelings, or maybe he's just going through something and taking it out on his friends.

The reality is you'll never really know, unless he tells you. And right now he doesn't seem like he's telling :(.

Try to forget about it, and maybe in a month or two if you do cross paths, you can ask him yourself.

I recently deleted someone from social media, (Facebook), because I was thinking way too much about him, and I realized it wasn't healthy. So I just let it go, thinking that if we are meant to cross paths, maybe we will, otherwise that's it.

[Opinion Owner]

Someone told me his reaction will probably be, she doesn't like me as a friend, and then he'l get over it, probably never really knowing I liked him, and never needing to.

If and when I do see him in the future, I'd probably be nice, but it was a step I thought was necessary at that point.

[Asker]

But if you like someone, should not you tell them instead of letting go and hurting them? Do you think this step is justified? If you are a good friend, won't you give a single reason to them?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's justified if he holds some type of resentment towards you; perhaps you've hurt him in some way, even if it's in the past.

I know the guy that I cut off had hurt me, and I wasn't over it/didn't pay much heed to his trying to make nice, so I got tired and deleted him.

You have to realize that this guy is being selfish either way. Even if he has a good reason, he knows it will likely hurt you, but he did it anyways.

If it is really bothering you, then you can try to ask, but I wouldn't expect him to be very open. He's sending out a message that he wants to keep away.

[Asker]

And then he says that he does not want to hurt ME and that's why he's keeping the distance. Especially when he already knows how much I have been hurt.

I don't what's up with him. I was always good to him and his blocking is way off his character.

It IS bothering me, but not extremely or as such. But I just don't get him. And he has been living in my mind now.

[Opinion Owner]

I think part of your post didn't post, it began with, "And then he..." Did you recently talk to him about it?

[Asker]

Yeah, I tried to. :( And I got to know that I am not responsible for anything. It has to do something with him.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you like him?

If not, I think you should respect his space.

He's already told you why he behaved that way, and that it's got nothing to do with you. Maybe he's going through something, you know?

[Asker]

If he is going through something, should not he behave likr this with everybody else as well? He is basically ignoring me. And I am indirectly responsoble for the reason in some way. And no, I don't like him.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't like him, then this si the end of the chapter.

See, soemtimes there's an expiry date on every friendship, and he is telling you gently as he can, that this is it.

Do you want to be happy, or do you want to be right? If down the road he gets over whatever he's going through, maybe you two can be friends again. That'll make you happy.

But if you keep insisting, he might get very closed up, and even though you may think you're right, you're going to lose him in the long run.

[armleg]

Has he ever kissed a girl? If he hasn't it might mean he saw you as a potential partner and knew asking you out now wouldn't work, so he's distancing himself in an attempt to get you to feel the same way for him or just to remove you from his life as you might be causing him great suffering. It might've worked too, if I didn't reveal his plan and ruin everything AHAHAHAHA

[Asker]

That evil laugh. Lol.
He has been in various relationships in past (when we were not friends) but now he was single.

[armleg]

Hmm well yeah I did the same thing to a friend of mine (later ended up regretting it, naturally) but I did it out of desperation. If he has any self respect at all ignore my post its probably wrong.

[Asker]

Why did you do it?

[Mesonfielde]

I guess he wasn't interested in maintaining a phantom relation, aka be invested in someone they barely ever see.

[Asker]

No he has maintained many such friendships..

[Mesonfielde]

Then you probably don't know about the exact reason, but people usually have a reason for their actions.

[Asker]

I know there's a reason. I am not aware of it.

[Urbantarzan]

Think if you said anything about him which might have reached him. If not, you could ask a close friend of his.

Maybe he is trying to provoke you for fun?

[Asker]

No. It's not for fun. He has seriously done it. I have tried to reach out through friends, but it went in vain.

[Urbantarzan]

Don't appear too desperate, I hope he is not a mean guy. Does he have a gf? If he does, he may not want to get close to you or is keeping himself from.

At one point in my life I also learned that at times we can consider people close to us, but they don't feel the same way. In hindsight, do you feel you used to initiate calling him to hang out, text him? If its not this, it could be the gf.

Does he come from a different culture than you?

[Asker]

We are from same culture. He does not have a gf. He was the one who said that we are close friends. I am nit being desperate, just hurt.

[Urbantarzan]

Okay. How did you reach out to his friends? Have you tried calling? I guess you must have. That's really strange then.

[Asker]

We have mutual friends so I reached through them. He does not even talk about the topic that includes me.

[Urbantarzan]

Tell those friends to be direct on it. "Hey is everything cool? XYZ said you were blocked on her text app?", see what he says. If he doesn't answer that it means he did it intentionally and you might never know the reason for his caprice. Do you recall pulling a slightly mean joke on him, he might have taken seriously?

Think of all the events that happened before this.

[Thats_me]

I couldnt get it either... If you used to be close, why would he do a thing like that? He seems a different person that i can't understand.

[Asker]

He himself admitted that we were close friends. We used to talk everyday, every hour. In fact, he was the one who texted first every day.

[Thats_me]

Yeah, i see what you mean but i still couldn't understand why he did something like that. I mean how he blocked you all of a sudden :/

[Asker]

I don't get him as well. :(

[Thats_me]

Well i hope everything will go well for you, wish you good luck. :)

[Ihav2fart]

You move on. Ain't nobody got tie for that kind of shit.

[Asker]

Ikr! It's just that l can't get over instantly jnowing how good friends we were.

[Cowboy6666]

Leave him n make me your buddy.. There problem solved... Because this world waits for none...

[Asker]

I already have many frernds, but we were almost best friends.

[Cowboy6666]

Ok make some your best buddy...

[cheonsongyi]

Could it be an accident? :(

[Asker]

Nope. We used to talk everyday.

[cheonsongyi]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moSFlvxnbgk

Maybe he needs some space. (points to the anon below) Like she said.

[Asker]

Space for so long? :O He is talking to everyone else just perfectly fine. In fact, he was the one who texted me first so I never annoyed him to talk with me

[cheonsongyi]

How do you feel about him? Have you been sending wrong signals?

[Asker]

We were friends so I sent no signals. I mean that's how it's supposed to be.

[cheonsongyi]

But how do You feel about him? Now, I mean.