My guy friend called me ugly playfully?

[Anonymous]

we are both good friends, and he just called me ugly though it was playfully but it still stung. I am not ugly. In fact, many guys call me beautiful/sexy/cute and I am definitely better looking than him. So why did he do that?

[Corsair777]

Good God, all is well and good until a FRIEND takes a playful jab at you? He is not your boyfriend, he doesn't owe you anything. Men take jabs at our fellow guy friends all the time, every five minutes probably. But once a guy does it to a girl it's something to get upset about? Get over yourself, if you are truly as beautiful as you seem to think you are, then tell me: WHY DO YOU CARE ABOUT HIS OPINION OF YOU? Especially since it was said jokingly.

[AleDeEurope]

Because he knows you're beautiful. If you were ugly he wouldn't have said that because he knows that would've hurt you, but since you're beautiful, he thought you'll just take it as a joke.

[Asker]

I am not butthurt but he is my crush so I was wondering if he actually never found me attractive :|

[AleDeEurope]

He does find you attractive, that's why he called you ugly. And he said it in a playful way, so that's how you should take that, as a simple joke.

[1LoveTwoHearts]

I'd politely tell this guy that even though he teased you and called you "ugly," his words still hurt your feelings. For example, you could say: "Hey, I know you were joking around, but when you called me 'ugly' it made me feel self-conscious." Don't get too worked up over his comment, though. I wouldn't stop hanging out with him just because of something he said.

[Asker]

he is my crush so I overlooked it but I don't think he likes me if he could say something like that to me.

[BlueGoldie]

If it was playfully it may eb a way of calling you beautiful. I dont think its a big deal. Its the same when we, girls, call a guy ugly and we just say it cause we think he is cute.

[Asker]

Oh. I have done it once.

[BlueGoldie]

Yeah, I think its pretty normal calling people ugly playfully.

[QueenJ]

it's for fun. don't be easily butthurt because that's what close friends normally do and don't usually mean it.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know but he is my crush as well so..
. :(

[QueenJ]

just learn to ride along. call him ugly too. lol just tease each other, guys like girls who can go with the flow but be a bit flirty so to avoid being friendzoned.

[Asker]

I would never call him ugly. He is cute :/ But I didn't pretend to be all hurt and crushed by it. Though it sucks to be called that by your crush.

[harakiri]

because it was a joke? jesus.. one haphazardly thrown insult and you're questioning your place on this horrendous planet. lol@ you being so certain that you're better looking than him. pop a xanax and calm the f down.

[Hephaestus]

O_o grow up?
the world is full of people who have this crazy thing called "a sense of humor"

[Asker]

Calling someone ugly is a part of humor? Weird.

[Hephaestus]

yeah, it's called being playful
did he grab you by the arm, spit on you then call you ugly?
no?

did he playfully call you ugly and you have blown it way out of proportion?
yes?

crazy ain't it ^_^

[Asker]

He teases me a lot. It's not the first time he is being mean. earlier, he was not like that.

[Hephaestus]

if it bothers you so much, why is he your friend then?

[Asker]

Because if we put the teasing part aside, he is a great friend.

[Hephaestus]

but you are getting so bent out of shape over it

[Asker]

Yes. Because if just a 'friend' would say something like that, I will give him a good comeback but when you heard something like that from your crush, it hurts you a little. I am assuming that he said it playfully, but even I don't know how much truth was there in it.

[bama_girl89]

No respect. My ex would call me a slut, even though I'm not and never cheated on him. He thought it was funny. I didn't. Idc how joking a guy can get, words hurt. He has not been brought up to respect women.

[bama_girl89]

"Hey baby, your dick is too small, I can't feel it riding you! Hahaha just kidding babe" same thing. He would be pissed and his ego would drop.

[Part6fam]

Erm I am quite sensitive about stiff like that so if a guy said that to me it would be a straight pop to the eye tbh

[Asker]

Yeah right especially if the guy is your crush :|

[Part6fam]

How was hi expression? Did he have a smirk on his face when he said it? Did he seem like he was teasing?

[findingdreamland]

He knows you are beautiful and he knows you like him. He just plays with you. Just keep it cool. Act like you do not mind him saying.

[Asker]

I acted cool, but I don't know if guys generally call a girl ugly :|

[findingdreamland]

They do not do. But some do as you see. He knows it, he enjoys making you upset. (not really upset you know )

[Anonymous]

lol its just playfullly... its like yhu used to be called pretty things that when yhu heard somthin the opposite it stung is normal dnt take it too serious...

[Asker]

I understand that. But I thought that guys won't say something like that to their girl friends.

[Opinion Owner]

lol they doo but dnt take it to serious nd dnt wrry

[Klaatu51]

if it was playfully, then there's no need to worry :-)

[Anonymous]

K, trolling much?

Umm, he probably is just teasing you. I wouldn't look much in to it, y'all are friends right? Friends should be able to tease each other without having it be so harsh.

[Asker]

That's not trolling. What made you thought so? Lol

Yes, they can but I won't ever call a friend ugly. Why should I? They are all amazing to me.

[Opinion Owner]

You just did

[Opinion Owner]

And yes, you're trolling

[Asker]

I didn't. I said girls can generally look better than boys because they can do many things to stylize themselves when boys have less options. Moreover, he is my crush and I find him cute.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually girls are probably uglier than men, hence why they add all of their makeup and stuff. Men are naturally better looking. And if you like him, then it was never really a friendship at all

[Opinion Owner]

Which might bum him out because if he doesn't like you back, he may lose you as a friend

[Opinion Owner]

Besides, if you liked him, you wouldn't have said "I'm better looking than him".

[Asker]

I don't do make up. Lol. But anyway, thanks for response.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's being truthful
I doubt you're beautiful

[Asker]

Why do you doubt that?

[Opinion Owner]

Because girls who think they're beautiful usually are not
You're cocky. Every cocky girl I know is butt ugly
Plus you're anonymous, that's another reason
I don't know I just have a feeling you're not as good looking as you think you're

[Asker]

I am not cocky. Acknowledging yourself as beautiful is not being cocky. I am anonymous because I don't like showinv my identity here on GAG. And talk about irony here. You are anonymous as well.

[QueenJ]

people are crazy. why do you do this? when a person feels good about herself you drag her down. while when a person have low esteem, you say all the good things like you don't look bad, you look cute blaah. why do you have to disagree on the good stuff? why don't you just focus on what's being asked?

[Asker]

It's a shame to know that people like this exist. I have spent my whole life thinking I was ugly, and now that I have accepted myself and actually accepts compliments happily, I will be labelled as cocky.

[Anonymous]

Haha, awesome how mad you get because you were playfully called ugly, even telling us you look better than him. I guess you got really low self-esteem, well, bad luck, girl.

[Asker]

Of course. Girls generally looks better than guys because we can change our hairstyle, wear different clothes, try lipstick etc. He is my crush that's why I am kinda sad.

[Opinion Owner]

Grow up, dear.

[Asker]

I have already. Guys think that you call in fact call a girl slut or ugly playfully and we should not feel a thing but that's not how it goes. Guys definitely need to grow up.

[Opinion Owner]

Uh, you are such a disgrace.

[Asker]

spare my question if you don't have anything logical to say.

[Opinion Owner]

just shut up already you retarded whore

[Asker]

Dafuq? I have really started hating GAG due to psychos like you who troll every damn question.

[Opinion Owner]

don't worry, GAG hates you as well.

[Asker]

okay. Thanks

[sienna0021]

you have no right to call her a retarded whore you don't know her you don't know her life or what she even could have been through, and it telling her to "grow up dear" is so wrong because as i said I don't know her or how old she is so ima tell u this straight stfu you little irrelevant piece of bitches shit

[Izzex3]

Because he was just playing with you.

[SnowHearth]

Nothing bad