Guys & Girls: What do You think Of Happy Go Lucky People....I mean are they really HGLucky...?

[TessAshwin]

I sometimes wonder GUYS especially ...if we hurt their feelings...they just say we don't remember it , we have forgotten about it...we don't take things seriously...

i mean are Happy go lucky GUYS really so insensitive

i feel in my opinion they are the people who actually suffer worse inside them BUT don't show it to other AND I don't know WHY ?

[bitesizedonut]

It can be painful to put a smile on your face when you are hurting inside, but it can also be very affirming as well - to realize that life goes on, and that just because you are having some hard times it doesn't mean you can't smile. There is always reason in life to be happy. Even as people are dying, their are babies being born. Even as I am arguing with my husband, even as we hurt one another, the love is always there. If you are able to remember that in the moment (or even after the moment) it makes it easier for forgiveness to become a possibility.

Sometimes in the middle of an argument I will throw my hands up, say this is just silly, admit my wrongs, and ask if we can just move on. If you hold on to all the offenses and hurt feelings it gets you nowhere - I think maybe "happy go lucky" men realize that a little better than women and so are able to implement it better. Feelings come and go, and they are not logical. Men are able to keep that fact in their awareness better than women - imo. It really isn't hard to be happy go lucky if you have the right mindset for it. It's not really that they are suffering in silence, but that they have forgiven and already moved on. I'm sure there are some people who are merely hiding their feelings behind a mask - but at least in the case of my husband and I, our happy go lucky attitudes are genuine (and will honestly get us through A LOT of hard times).

Hope this help - it will be interesting to see guys answers on this :D

[TessAshwin]

Actually the saddest part is he isnot giving me a chance ....i sometimees feel was I being played.

[bitesizedonut]

I'm not quite sure what you are referring to. It sounds like maybe you have your own personal experience - if that is the case, then maybe you should provide more details. Right now your question is rather general, so people are answering as such. If you need help on a particular situation you are going through - definitely talk about that particular situation. I think you will get more applicable responses that way :D good luck!

[Anonymous]

I think people like that are putting on a front sometimes if they just brush it off. They don't want people to know how much they're hurting.

[abzence]

Many guys hurt very much.

But in order to survive you have to get rid of your ego since this is what makes you get hurt. When you loose your ego you also realise that it's not you there's anything wrong with. Loosing your ego makes it easy to let other people and situations go.

Imagine the following situation:

# Shy guy have a super crush on this other girl for 6+ month.

# Finally at a club or wherever he build up his courage to be able to confront the girl and her 2 girlfriends by her side. (Girls are hard to catch alone since they use their friends as an emotional shield)

# Standing infront of the girl he's madly in love with he says something like: "eeh...hi there... I like yo...ehh..your shoes"

# The girl replies with something like: "Whatever" and give him the look like he's worthless all while her 2 girlfriend giggle.

Do you honestly think this situation wouldn't hurt a young guy with low confidence?

This situation happens everyday to thousand of guys.

Can you really blame them for being afraid to show their emotions, or develop a cold shield?

The best option is of course to realise that this girl is not worthy but it's hard to do when you are young with a low self esteem...

Just a few notes to think about...

[MrNameless]

Some people DO hurt inside, but they are determined to look happy on the outside, and think it will change the way they feel inside, or in most guy scenerios.. So they don't look weak.

Sometimes it works.. Sometimes it doesn't.

[Amrit]

Such people have fortitude & determination in them. They have tremendous of these two. Such people take things very lightly. Most boys are of such nature.

e.g. If a boy loses his job, and if he is of the said attitude, he may never cry. But if he is not "happy go lucky", he may cry or get depressed.

[TessAshwin]

Just keep this to ur self...do you know the meaning of it. being happy go lucky is comeletely foolish ...it shows urent determined...what are you saying..

[bitesizedonut]

I have to say I agree with you Amrit. I don't think being happy go lucky is foolish at all. It does take a lot of will power to be able to push through the bad and to see the good... to hope for something more and press on. +1

[Amrit]

@bitesizeddonut

Thank You.

[stevo]

Because it's easier to hide our feelings rather than reveal a truth of what we really feel if we've been hurt. I'm VERY good at that.

[TessAshwin]

So ur happy go lucky ....

[stevo]

I didn't say that I was. FAR removed from happy right now.