So my guy and I are both 24. Been together for a year and a half. In our first months if dating he told me about his exes and old crushes even dating back to middle school; including the one right before he met me. He showed me pics etc, and I did the same.
I somehow got super insecure about the one tjay came right before me because he met her the summer before he met me.. They both have a military background and from same country of origin. He said it was just a crush and nothing happened.. Half a year later she commented on something on his Facebook and I made a snarky comment, he told me "I actually messaged her today" which made me more paranoid but I tried to be calm since he was open about it and even showed me the few messages they sent saying thays all that he was gonna reply to her.. Just "wanted to catch up" or soemrhing..
But the green monster kept coming and as I asked more later on I came to find out he acrually met her about a month before he met me and didn't come back from his training where he met her till a week before which means he must've still liked her a little when hevmet me and asked me out etc... Although he says by the time we went on an actual date he was over her, and tjay if he liked her at all when he met me; it was already fading for him...
I also found out that he didn't actually add her on Facebook till December, and we met in August... He said he didn't add her in July (when he added most of his training mates) because he didn't wanna seem creepy... And that when he did in December even tho they had no mutual friends, that he didn't think much of it cuz he didn't like her anymore.. That to him it was just an acquaintance, happened to think of her, added her and that's it...
As far as I know they're only contact after that was the messages he showed me..
Should I be worried? He seems to have been open about it when I ask but what do you guys think?
- Should I be worried
Most Helpful Guy
Don't worry because he's very open about it. The key thing to remember is at the end of the day, he's coming home to you. If he really wanted to be with her, why would he have asked you out? More importantly, if he did find out about how she feels about him, why didn't he just break up with you already. He's still with you, and your boyfriend sounds like a guy who won't lie to you. So, stop worrying and stand by your man.
Most Helpful Girl
Not really worried, but it's upsetting. He wouldn't want you talking to a guy you liked and almost got with just before him, so i don't see how he expects you to be all smiles about it. Personally, id have shut it down from the start and he would of had no more contact with her, but I'm probably the jealous type i guess.
Either way, he wouldn't like you doing the same thing the other way round.