He looks at me, but when I look at him he looks so insecure/sad and looks away. Why is he acting like this?

[Anonymous]

So at my gym, im there almost every day, and i met the same people pretty much everytime im there. But there is this one guy( actually more, but this guy acts a little bit different) that is there almost everytime im there. He will stare at me when i enter the weight liting room and i'll notice that he look at me a lot while working out or when im in the room. BUT when i look back at him he looks almost insecure and looks away. I mean he looks almost sad and i dont get why.... why does he act like this? He will look at me, i'll look back, hi'll look vrey insecure/sad and then look down... whats up with that?

[RichHomieGeorge]

A few years ago, when I was 15, I was a pretty chubby, borderline fat guy. I didn't have many friends and I was always trying to fit in but I really couldn't and was depressed. I didn't like who I was so I started weight lifting and working out, as a way to vent feelings and change myself at the same time. I would go every day, every week and worked as hard as I could. Initially, I still had no self confidence and was semi-depressed. I still remember this one really, really, really beautiful girl who worked there one summer (when I was 16 now) as a summer job. I'm pretty sure she didn't notice me or anything like that and every time I'd look at her I'd feel sad. Sad because I didn't think that I was worthy of anyone as pretty as her. At the same time it gave me motivation to work harder and maybe one day deserve someone like her.

Eitherway, every person has something hidden inside and the gym, I find, is most of all a place for you to work on yourself and some people (like me) have had a difficult past so when I am working on myself in a place like the gym, I often have memories and still think about instances at school, girls who never liked me, etc, etc...

Maybe he has a story behind why hes' there too.

[Asker]

maybe i remind him of an ex or something lol

[RichHomieGeorge]

For me it was that I found her very beautiful but didn't think I was good enough, so could be that.

[Anonymous]

He likes you, but he's either too shy to approach or thinks he's not good enough for you. You might have to make the first move if you're interested in him.

[Asker]

i see... by the way when you say "make the first move" do you mean asking him out or asking him to hang out, or are referng to just talking to him first

[Opinion Owner]

Just talking would be the first step here. He'd be a lot more comfortable approaching you afterwards. See if anything develops.

[Opinion Owner]

I say this as someone who's in his exact same situation... for me it's so bad that I'm nearly thirty and I've yet to so much as kiss a woman.

[Asker]

i did actually talk to him last week, or i asked him if i could work out between his setts.. but i doubt that counts lol...

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it'd have to be an actual conversation. :)

[RichHomieGeorge]

Ask him for form advice, that'll always get a convo going :)

[Asker]

well im quite strong and fit myself.. so i feel like he would wonder why i would ask him for advice, lol