My stepdad Tried to have sex with me?

[Anonymous]

im 17 he's 35 he's been with my mum for 6 years now. My mums away on a holiday with my gran and I'm left with him for 10 days! The thing that's scaring me is last night he came into my room about 11pm and he was talking to me I didn't think was weird because he's done it before he lay down on my bed on his phone still thought it was okay because I was under the a bit he was outside them. Then he put his phone down and stared at me so I got uncomfortable because he kept looking at my boobs then he tried to kiss me but I moved back and laughed, he was like it's okay we're not related we can have sex if you want! So I got out of the bed and told him he's crazy. I went down the stairs he came down about 30 minutes after me and tried to kiss me again then put his hands on my boobs, I went into total shock then he pulled my top And tried to get my shorts off that's when I freaked out and he stopped said sorry and left me alone. I was really freaked out about it. Today I was getting ready for school and he came behind me and put his hands on my hips and said sorry again and smacked my bum!
He's been acting weird all night and keeps asking me to come down and sit with him! I don't know why he's being like that I've always liked him and been nice to him!

I dont know what I should do? Help?

[cavmanier]

I'm a little skeptical that's true o_o but I guess there are people that would do that. He acted that way because he wants sex. I would tell your mom. Unfortunately she will be very stressed after hearing that. She doesn't want him to want you and she doesn't want you to got through being proposed for sex by him. She will almost certainly dump him instantly. That is like an ultimate deal breaker for almost anyone I bet. I know it would likely be very hard for you to see your mom go through a break up but I don't think she would want to say with a guy that wants to have sex with her kid. I find that disturbing.
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[SilenceMeansPatience]

Holy shit... First talk to your mom.. You can't leave it like this, try to sleep over your friend's until she comes home? You need to tell him to stop and treat to call the cops as last resort.

[Asker]

I would go to a friends house but it's really late here!

[Red_Arrow]

You can arrange during the day to spend a few days there till you mother comes back.

[Girl_Scout]

If I were you I would get your phone and set it to record in your bag or pocket so you can record this inappropriate behaviour. Tell someone close to you and if your relationship with your mom is good: tell her immediately. Call her tonight somewhere he can't hear. If you can, go stay at a friend's or a family members. Having some kind of proof would be good but don't put yourself in a dangerous situation in order to get it.

I know it sounds silly, but have you said to him clearly that you are not happy and he should stop?

[Minxxie]

Call the police because he will probably eventually rape you and you are NOT safe in the same house with this man. It doesn't matter if it would upset your mom, I promise you that it would upset her more if something bad happened to you! PLEASE call some family who are in town to come get you and call the police and tell them that he keeps touching you even when you say no and you do not feel safe with him around.

[Anonymous]

Call your mum. Go stay with a friend until your mum can get back home. Tell an adult you can trust because even if you tell your mum she can't do much about it until she gets home. And I don't know if you want to go this far but you could call the police. Please stay safe.

[Dream2winxx]

Tell his parents. Tell the world. That's disqusting and if he denies it, then you might have to let him one more time, but just record it on a hidden camera

[Dragon09]

This is totally inappropriate behaviour for him. Its hard but I'd do my best to avoid him. Is there a friend you could stay with over the weekend or something? A bit of distance my help to resolve the situation.

How long before your mum gets back?
Are you thinking you might tell her?
This is really not good at all.

I would seriously think about staying with friend for a night or two. It might give you some thinking space and perhaps there is someone you could talk to other than us crazy lot on here?

Good luck.

[jacquesvol]

Speak about it to your mom. get a wedge to put under your door: it locks better than a key and it's very cheap.

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[warren18]

Report him to the police. You're still a minor and he clearly isn't responsible if he thinks it ok to have sex with a 17 year old. The fact that he's your stepdad makes this worse because he is supposed to lookout for your welfare but this is clearly not a priority to him. What would your mother say if she found out? Do you think that she would side with you or with him?

[Asker]

I live in the uk, our age of consent is 16. I don't know she might not believe me because he's not that guy that would do that

[warren18]

Yeah I live in the uk too, I assumed that you were in America haha! Ignore the first two sentences :) If you think that your mum would side with you then tell her. If you don't think that she'll side with you then maybe tell another relative. It's always good to have someone to confide in.

[Asker]

I would tell my brother but that's a bit weird to tell him.

[warren18]

Well it depends whether you're close to your brother, is he younger or older than you? Telling an older brother would be better than telling a younger brother. Your brother is family and maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt.

[Asker]

He's 19 were very close but I'd get extremely embarrassed And he would freak

[warren18]

If it was me then I'd tell him but obviously you know him better haha! Do you have any other close family members that you can speak to about it? Like an aunt or a cousin or something.

[Asker]

I have cousins but there all boys I have a aunt but I hate her. I'm contemplating on going out to sleep in my mums car because he's being weird again and keeps coming into my room with his bits basically on show!

[warren18]

He sounds like a weirdo. Do you have any friends that you can stay with until your mum gets back? I realise that it's too late now, but for tomorrow.

[Asker]

I do but I have school it's so much hassle to take a full weeks worth of uniform and he probably won't let me go stay anyway because he's got other plans for me 😰

[warren18]

Haha that doesn't sound good. Maybe you could go to the citizens advice bureau or phone childline or something. Are you firmly against telling your brother? I think that it is your best option.

[Asker]

I'm not against telling him, I just don't know what to say.

[warren18]

If you're too embarrassed to speak to him face to face then send him a text saying your original question from here, taking out the first two sentences.

[Asker]

I've texted him but I can't stay in the house so I've went into my mums car!

[warren18]

I think that you've made the right decision. Post on here when he gets back to you because I'm curious about what happens :)

[Asker]

I will

[Asker]

My brother came and spoke to him so he left the house and said he was going to stay with his mother and that I could stay in my house myself which is okay with me, but he came back and took my phone off me so I'm having to use my MacBook!

[warren18]

Why did he take your phone away from you? I'm glad that your brother stuck up for you! :)

[jokersgirl]

"I don't know she might not believe me because he's not that guy that would do that"

Clearly he is...

[Asker]

He took it away so I couldn't contact anyone! I think

[Goran_]

I'd seriously call your mom and the cops and get out of the house. It might be scary to think of calling the cops, but its the only thing you can really do. I'd end it now before he ends up raping you.

[Asker]

I slept in my mums car last night so I'm going to leave the police

[Goran_]

Please tell the police for your own safety, get to them ASAP. If my sister were to tell me this happened to her, I'd beat the shit out of the person no matter who it is. Update us and tell us what happens if you feel comfortable doing so.

[Asker]

I've called my brother and he's coming to our house soon soo I'll wait for him

[AlexisLaf]

he seems really pushy and agressive, i fear he might get really agressive and you would be in serious danger, you should tell this to your mother, or perhaps you should stay with a family member or a friend

[Asker]

He is already really aggressive

[AlexisLaf]

then call the police, right away

[Randomfriend]

Don't let him treat you like that! Tell your mom, I think she deserves knowing that he tried cheating on her. Also you're under-age, that's a crime. Be strong, if you don't want something, there should be no one who force you to do it, stablish limits

[Asker]

I'm not underage in the uk

[zooeynicks24]

Call the cops and then call your mom and tell her what's going on. Don't hesitate to call the police okay? He should NOT be doing that at all. I don't care how nice he's been in the past, he's being completely inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

You go to the police. His activity is absolutely inappropriate. You then tell your mother bc that is something she should know. He is really sick in the head. You aren't even an adult!! You are a TEENAGERS and this ADULT MAN wants to fuvk you? No, he is crazy. Please go to the police.

[OverTheHill]

Four words... call mum, call POLICE!!! This is not ok in any environment! Get that filthy pig out of your house now before he takes it to the next level!

[9mfeo]

You have to tell your mother. It would also not be a bad idea to tell the police or a teacher who must then report it to child services. If you can stay with a friend for a few days, I encourage you to do so.

[Bananadream]

This ridiculous. I would ask him to stop. And I would definitely tell mom. I MIGHT even file a police incident report, to document your side of the story in the record, just incase something happen in the future.

[Doofey]

If he did those things your step dad is a creep and you need to tell your mom. I don't really know what kind of person your step father is so take appropriate precautions if you are afraid of some sort of confrontation.

[VirginiaBeachBum]

He's sexually assaulting you. If you can record video of it happening, do that. Then tell your mother. She needs to know. If she won't do anything about it, contact the police. You shouldn't have to live in that kind of fear.

[Anonymous]

Have you made moves on him before? Like flirt and stuff. Because I don't think he'd be that bold if he didn't think you were at least somewhat interested. If it's scaring you then just keep avoiding him or even better just tell him that you think it's weird.

[Asker]

No I hardly speak to him

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, he's probably just misreading signs.

The best way is to just tell him that you think it's weird. Communication is key.

[AzureGirl]

Tell your mom. He's a creep and she needs to know about it.

[RedRobin]

Dam, that's really bad. Please tell your mum and call the police. The police have to take you seriously and look into it.

[Anonymous]

Seriously at school ask for the number for child services and report him for child molestation. Most likely your not the first kid that he has tried to rape.

[jacquesvol]

NSPCC 0808 800 5000 text 88858

[jacquesvol]

NSPCC in the UK: www.safenetwork.org.uk/.../...rting_a_concern.aspx

[LoseMyself]

Get out of that house and stay with friends. He's a creep and doesn't listen to the word 'No'.

Get out.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Call the fucking cops! This is not the place to do this, call the police, file a report ASAP and get to a friend's house where it's safe!

[Intraluminal]

Tell him you will call the police and press charges if he touches you again.

[Tarvold]

No. Pedophile rapists do not get a second chance. Call the cops now.

[Intraluminal]

@Tarvold i agree but honestly because it's her stepfather hell deny it there's no proof and she'll get thrown out unless her mom is really smart.

[Intraluminal]

I've seen this scenario play out before. If she taped it then maybe

[Alohaloli]

Get out of the house and stay with a friend and report him

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Go to your mother, and call the police before you go to her. She may be skeptical, have "feelings" on the matter or disregard what is actually going on.

[oldanddecrepid]

I would be calling a friend and going over to stay with her till your mom gets back

[UhDopeDude]

Well that's rape, tell your mom, if she doesn't believe you call a social worker and tell them what happened, or the police

[Doofey]

There was no penetration so that was not rape. He's a creep though and she needs to tell her mother

[UhDopeDude]

@Doofey yea I mean but the intent was there, and sometimes your parents just won't listen..

[Strawberryx333]

That's sexual harassment. It would only get worse from there. I would tell your mother, you wouldn't want her to be with a disrespectful pig like him anyways. People can be nice to you all they want but the minute they touch you inappropriately, that is where you draw the line. No means no.

[Strawberryx333]

I would seriously install a camera in my room.

[Hades77]

Tell your mom, do it! He's going to fucking rape you kid! Tell your mom! Now!

[Anonymous]

This happened to me a few times. It even went as far as him coming in my room while everyone else was sleep and taking off my panties. Definitely lock your door if you can't leave. Tell your mom when she comes home, trust me i wish i did.

[RedRobin]

You still can tell your mum!

[RedRobin]

If you do and you report it to the police, it'll go on his record even if you can't press charges.

[Opinion Owner]

@RedRobin oh i haven't thought of that. Thanks

[JetPack00]

You need to tell your mom and grandmother asap. That is not OK.

[Quelled]

Tell your mom. Tell the police. Please, don't let him get away with this.

[Jersey2]

Tell police, school and mom.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your mom who will get shocked when you tell her about it. She must be trusting him. Too bad

[Anonymous]

I didn't read anything except for the title. You should hop on that D. He's probably wise.

[Tarvold]

Call the cops and THEN tell your mom.

[Holygirl01]

He is not a Pedophile or a rapist. You are crazy.

[Asker]

@Holygirl01 your correct he isn't

[Tarvold]

Stockholm syndrome huh?

Go ahead and enjoy it then. I hope you make him wear a condom though, otherwise if he knocks you up, the kid wouldn't know whether to call your mom aunty or grandma.

[Asker]

I'm not have sex with him!

[Anonymous]

Call the cops that's sexual harassment... Call your mom and let her know what's going on!

[Iron_Man]

That's no step dad call the cops

[Benk111]

Tell your mom and go to the police.

[Anonymous]

Tell your mom immediately. That's not okay.

[EllieInTheDark]

call police

[apple24]

Talk to your mom!

[orphan]

i don't believe you.

[orphan]

if this really happened, you wouldn't need to ask anyone what to do.

[jwhit]

Call the police

[RandomPerson1324]

Tell the police...

[John109]

He is really horny.