Ok, I really have to step in on this one. I dont know why you think ALL men are horndogs. Dont generalize us like that. Some of us of the male species are actual MEN. Yes there is a difference. You have boys, guys and men. Simple as that. I myself am a very sexual man. I love being intimate. BUT, I dont go looking for random women to hook up with. I dont drool over random women as you say in your post here. Some of us actually LIKE women. And respect them. The men you are referring too I can only think you are talking about the ones you see in bars and clubs trying to hook up with some random woman whos had enough to drink and such. Not all men do that. I have been in relationhips and I was even married. I have also been used as one night stands. Yes... a shocker. Men can be used as well.
But lets look at the statement you made that you said no wonder why so many of us are single and we have no respect for women. Its pretty hard when a good man walks up to a beautiful woman whom he finds attractive and tries to have an actual conversation with them in hopes to have a fighting chance to be the man that woman deserves only to be shot down because he isn't tall enough, he doesn't make enough money, he isn't hot enough, he isn't old enough he isn't young enough, he isn't the right skin color etc etc etc etc. Maybe, just maybe if more women would actually give that GREAT guy a chance in showing her that he isn't like other men most of you wouldn't think all men drool over you, that most men are the same, that some of us actually can make you happier than you have ever been. Are faithful loyal and kind. Im not the best looking guy in the world but Im not the worst either. And yet I have a beautiful wonderful woman who I can call my own that loves me for me and sees the side of me that not many has ever given a chance to notice.
A couple of last ordeals. You say all men are the same yet you date the same type over and over again. Try going for something different. Stop trying to go for the hottest guys out there and go for the good guy. You will see the difference. Oh and if you REALLY want a good relationship... go for the nerd types. Nerds do it better.
Wow. What a totally ignorant thing to believe. If your interactions with different men, continually end up the same way... maybe it's you. GO AFTER A NICE GUY! If you pick pretty jocks, whom you meet in a bar... DUH. Personally, I only date women I meet in Book stores, or Grocery stores. Oh, and when someone gives you criticism, take a minute and consider that it might be warranted. Seriously. Take a minute and think to yourself; 'The results are the same, after I do the same thing I always do. Maybe it's time for a change.' Chances are, that if you apply some old fashioned disciplined logic, you'll find that you are worth more, than the way you have been treating yourself. It's OK to be alone, until you meet a good guy. I encourage it. Don't settle. Forget the bars and social media. Go home alone, and relax, satisfied that your actions are the ones that you would encourage you daughters to take. Women need to stop pointing fingers, and take a look at how you are treating yourself. This liberal generation's "If it feels good, do" attitude is doing so much damage to your sex, and to men's opinions of your sex, it's immeasurable. At 40 this will make perfect sense to you, but its a real longshot that you have the nerve to not follow the habits of your idiot friends. Be a woman, not a girl.
It seems like most guys are this way because unfortunately most of the ones you come into contact with haven't showed you any differently.
As huge of a generalization this question is, I agree with it.
I've been around so much guys that fit what you described that it's hard to believe that are any of those that are decent out there.
However, I WILL and MUST say they do exist.
Don't get discouraged.
When you meet that wonderful guy that "all guys are this way" will change to "to some/most". You will no longer generalize.
In this case it will take a great guy to sweep you off of your feet to show you otherwise.
I don't believe all guys are, though they are more sexually inclined. I think a lot of it is hormonal, instinct, and natural human nature. Viewing a woman sexually I don't think is disrespectful at all - objectifying her sexually on the other hand is.
There's a distinct difference between finding a woman sexually attractive and then being a total pervert to her and harassing her. One is completely okay, the other isn't.
Yes. All men are horndogs. All women are bitches and stuck up.
[[ Hopin' you feel my sarcasm there, doll ]].
- Honestly, you can't say "all guys" because a lot aren't. They might think about it a lot (hormones) but it's not ALL they think about. Besides.. why is that a bad thing? ;)
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Because there is nothing wrong about sexual attraction
Let's not generalize or anything?
Listen I get it you probably just had a negative incident or two recently with some dirt bag. The world has its assholes on both sides of the fence.
I don't doubt there are some shitty dudes that act like they were raised by monkeys. I've watched girls get cat called right in front me and I was probably as offended as disappointed as the girls were. I genuinely felt bad for them. I almost wanted to apologize.
The truth though is 99% of guys are respectful but you just don't know it because they're being aggressive towards you. You're not keeping a tally of the men you encounter every day who don't act innappropriately towards you.
All that being said, there is a biological difference between male-female sexuality. I believe men and women crave sexual activity about the same amount but just in different ways. Men are far less picky about how they scratch the itch, as long as it's scratched. This is designed to put the focus on quantity, which is men's duty towards the continuation of the human species. Same reason we don't have a limited supply of sperm. Women on the other hand are much better and holding out for a more desirable opportunity. It's quality control, the female's evolutionary role. Women have a finite number of eggs and times she can get pregnant given menopause and the 9 month incubation period. So she's got to make it count so to speak.
I also believe there is a larger variance in the sex drive of women. Trust me I've seen some women that would put men to shame on the slut scale. On the same token I've seen some women that you'd swear we're nuns. Men generally gal more towards the middle in all but rare cases.
Given these differences, as I said before most men still learn to control their urges. You just have to respect the fact that men cannot physically go as long without sex as women can which means we will inherently struggle more than women to maintain control and there for higher potential for outliers to fail.
You aren't going to like this but you asked "Why are all guys such horn dogs"
A few corrections. MOST guys perhaps but not all.
I could say "Why do all women go to extensive lengths to make guys sexually interested in them?"
You need to blame women first. For a man to be a horn dog, they first must have an object of desire.
Women wear makeup, revealing clothing, bras that place emphasis on their breasts and cleavage. heels to make themselves taller... I can go on for a while about this billion dollar industry of women's appearance and fashion.
You can't lambaste one group of people without including it's counter component.
But to address your question, most men are because of our instinctual programming. Women are inherently programmed for two things.
1) Provide, nourish and birth
2) Be wholly dissatisfied and unhappy.
These are things you simply cannot change about yourselves. The whole ticking biological clock, etc. Paternal instinct and complaining about things being too content.
Reasons:
1) Survival, and reproduction. The first list of genetic programming traits is to ensure that our young is properly cared for, and that we have offspring to counteract life expectency
2) The unhappy part is so that instead of just existing, we evolve. So primarily women are responsible for our evolution. Take cave dwellers. If she was happy, eventually all the cavemen hunters would die off from predators or our food supply would run out, etc... But since they have a woman to complain, "This cave is too small!" or "There isn't enough food here" etc. The man is compelled to seek higher ground or adopt a locaiton with more foliage and livestock.
Anyhow as for us being horn dogs, it's primary the genetic disposition we have. We have overtly high sex drives and have a fairly dominant preoccupation with sex. So it is something we must fight to maintain civility today.
I can say this from the aspect of "respect for women" Too many act whorish which garners the horny frat boy octopus. You wan a gentlemen, be a lady. It's that simple. We ALL face libido but the mature handle it and are respectful towards women. It's probably 80% Alpha fuck boys and 20% Genuine guys.
Not ALL. Hope that helps.
many guys are very confident and have a particular person in mind yes some men from porn or from different people have particular reasons they should not do that and I am a male as well but I don't think that way at all I never dated until college when I was growing up there were potential girls that I liked to date but I never had the guts to ask them because I did not know they would say especially that I have down syndrome in factor of them to decide to date someone with special needs I always treat girls and ladies with the outmost respect for them I would understand on what they went through if you put them on there position and some guys do not like girls who say no to them when I was in high school I was a ladiesman and a big man on campus that is because I know how to treat people and being passionate to others and knowing what is going on I was there role model to them and it is wrong for the girls to be a lesbo because it is a commandment towards god for them not to be that is a serious matter for that we can be friends towards them but in a serious relationship that is breaking a commandment in some areas is allowed but when comes to faith it does not.
simple women's bodies are designed for procreation we as men are designed to enter into them for this purpose. men are naturally attracted to women and in this day and age we all know the physical /mental pleasure a good sexual experience can bring about women also gawk over men and dress sexy to garner attention some will admit it others will not but its inevitable that we are going to be horny aka have a physical feeling in our loins which says we need to do this now is the time just like the term being in heat our bodies know when a woman is ovulating as well anyhow just my opinions muddled in with some facts. i can admit im a horndog and your gross generalization is appalling i know how to control myself and im not single for that reason I've had a few different relationships and most ended on a okay note. anyways go do some research maybe open your mind to another experience with someone who isn't going to treat you in that way but no this guys won't wait forever and a day to be able to have physical intimacy i know i wouldn't put off more than a couple months and thats even a stretch unless you are very religious.
Based on the update, does that mean that you are Lesbian? (Isn't Lesbos somewhat derogatory?) I have a niece that is Gay and gays, whether Lesbian or male homosexuals, are very much known - by my own observations - to drool and stare and comment (etcetera) and all of that other "disgusting stuff".
I was at a meeting the other day at a coffee shop with a mid level manager. She was dressed in loose, comfy shorts and similar top (obviously with no bra). I noted that her vision focus would wander periodically and in following that gaze I noted that a good 50% of the patrons were young adult females invariably wearing very short "short-shorts" (Daisy Dukes as we called them) or very short nylon running shorts and everything from tight tank tops to bare midriff tops to bikini tops. Casual? Sure. No problem. Except all full made up (the full make up routine) and a couple in heels! Just your typical "pop in and grab a latte attire!
Nothing at all wrong with that, and you're damn right that I looked (and in several cases received some return smiles - or maybe it was for my meeting companion? LOL)... but I wasn't the first who noticed these surroundings, I wasn't drooling (my meeting companion was close to it) nor did I make any comments or approach any - which my meeting companion did with one on her way out.
Now WHO was the disgusting, drooling, staring, harassing PRIMATE?
Hmmmm?
The reason why so many men are single is because were sick of putting up with crap like this.
If we have to choose between being single with a clean bill of mental/physical health or being with a psycho just so we can get laid which option do you think most men are going to choose?
We are a lot smarter then the media and television makes us look out to be.
Most men don't want to be with crazy women (just look at your username IamNuts).
For the average man living in or around the city we have very little to choose from as most women are crazy or not trustworthy, on the flip side women in smaller towns are intelligent, respectful, caring, have personalities and actually know how to cook to sum it up there everything city girls aren't which is awesome.
I gave up on American city girls I couldn't find not one that was a combination of intelligent, respectful, honest, faithful and caring.
To answer your question on men being disgusting, this is true in many instances, but that has nothing to do with being a man and everything to do with how he was raised and the people he surrounds himself with.
Also just a side note many women base there opinions of men over there experiences many of which think that finding the one will happen in a bar which I got news for you honey majority of men and women at bars are not relationship material majority of them are alcoholics, men looking for 1 night stand and crazy women I would say about 90% of people in bars are not relationship material.
So your trying to be a femnazi? Your going to have to do better then that. Next time mention how all sex is rape because a woman isn't capable of giving consent or how a man even looking in the direction of a woman is rape. I mean its not bad for a first try but your going to really have to step it up if you want to truly feel what its like to be a femnazi.
What's the point of this anger attack on males?
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thanks for that gross generalization.
somehow i think many will disagree. i think you've clearly had some bad experiences but just like with anything you need to be careful to put labels on billions of people based on your experiences with a tiny portion of them
Wow men expressing their sexuality? What savages!!! Women never do that..
Better vote for Hillary and become a third wave feminist.
First of all men are hard wired for sex. Men who are new to sex are especially vulnerable to it. I had asked my boyfriend about the stages of 'sex' he's had 5 partners, I've only ever had sex with him. He explained to me at first, he wanted to have sex up to 5 times a day, but eventually that part of him began to quell and now he says he doesn't even need it. He enjoys sex, we both do but he said to me "Well, I don't NEED it" and then I understood. As he matured it became less of a battle against that insistent urge. And some men don't have sex at all, one of his friends is an asexual. I think this question needs more insight. I want to have sex more than my boyfriend does, I'm new to sex, and I want to be all over him. I'm sure with time that will fade.
I dunno. I can play the generalization game, too. Why are all girls only interested in sucking the resources out of hardworking guy's pocket only to turn around and demand more because what guys have to offer is never enough while simultaneously dumping her emotional baggage at his feet and screaming "misogyny" every time he does something she doesn't like. I'd say enjoy the horndogs now because when you hit the wall (and this is assuming you are at least mildly attractive enough to garner men's attention right now) in your mid -30s, you'll be wishing for the days of male attention. By that age, guys are thinking with our big heads and don't put up with women's shit anymore and the pleas of women fall on deaf ears. Guys like me gladly tell girls like you to go fuck yourselves.
Hmm, i wonder where you got the idea that only men are horny? I mean , everyone is horny and it isn't "disgusting" . I bet you have felt horny at least once in your life. It's natural to be attracted to others and to crave sex. I know a lot of men in my life and they are all awesome. To be honest, my life would suck without my boyfriend. He's the best man ever. He's sweet, caring and gorgeous. But, too bad you probably won't ever be able to experience how amazing it is to have a man love you and protect you. So, go ahead and stick to women if that's what you like but , just because you hate all men that doesn't mean every woman in the world does. I sure as hell don't.
Look, I am sorry you had bad experiences. We are not all like that. Let me show you how we can be nice and respectful so you feel better about me so that you can then proceed to suck my cock...
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Well I will say this, some women dress for it. They love the attention. And their response is they are comfortable, and that's fine but some outfits even females look twice. And lesbos? THEY DO THE SAME LOL! There no different. If you're attracted to something your bound to look. Women dress to impress. Now I know this might sound weird but I HATE WHEN WOMEN STARE AT ME. Yes it happens to me... as a guy, and it's effin annoying. I'm not a piece of meat for cougars or vixens... but still... why do you care so much all of the sudden? Did your partner do this? Did you get disrespected? Or do you just hate society? Either way both genders do it, pay close attention and you'll see it. But don't be upset love, hopefully you are being looked at, it just means your attractive. Yes it's annoying but hey, realize it can be worse. I hope you change your view for a better understanding, and I'm sorry for the guys that got you the wrong way.
Sigh... you ma'am are an idiot :)
Women are like fine art with a do not touch sign... It would be a crime not to admire... The issue comes when men start touching... or when a woman like you feels its insulting to your pride for a man to admire another woman... men will feel other women are hot even if they don't show it or tell you about it... If you choose to be offended then maybe thats why YOUR still single
and if all women went lesbo the human race would die out... its not all about sex and relationships... its about procreation
To all you other women out there... Your man is with you not them other women and though he may enjoy the view does not mean your less than them... He's still choosing you over them other women and if he's not cheating then what more can you expect... besides not leaving his cloths in the bathroom floor when he showers
You're looking to justify/validate your generalization aren't you? In reality, all of my girlfriends believe it or not, had a higher sex drive than I do. Sex was never the problem but other things were. I'm just focusing on me right now because no one can make me happy but me and I'm just keeping an eye out for a nice girl who is more like a best friend and actually does other stuff besides wanting to chill in the house all the time. I like to go do stuff, the last one apparently didn't when she claimed she did. Games are not cool.
@USMC-Crossroads, I completely agree, I myself have been single for 8 years. I am not a "horndog," in fact, when I meet someone in public at all, I won't see what you look like. I don't see anything lower than the face. I won't be able to tell you What the person looked like 2 seconds after I turn away, seriously. I have friends that are shocked because I don't see them sexually. The only thing I look at in a person is the personality. Are they nice to me, do they give me the time of day? Do they look at me as if I am ugly, or as the gentle giant I am? When I hear people talk about a catagory of people in a generalization, it really erks me. It is people like you that I can not stand, don't judge a book by it's cover and be nice and maybe, just maybe you will find a nice guy that cares about you for who you are and not what you are. Kindness can go a long long way in finding someone right.
i'm not like that, the only reason i'm single is because i don't usually put myself out there when it comes to talking to girls. i can see from this question you're upset about someone who's done you wrong, and my sympathies, i've been there, but just take some time to calm down, and don't worry, you will find a guy who isn't such a "horndog", but it will take time, just look after yourself, make sure you're feeling okay, and when you're ready to get back into the dating game, do it, because dating is probably the single-most enjoyable thing in life, and is something i'd recommend that you never give up, regardless of your sexuality.
I hope you feel better soon
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