So there is something called female hypergamy and all women have this to some degree but if a woman's hypergamous behavior is very high then her loyalty would be very low and call into question. [For anyone unaware hypergamy means women will only consider you a mate if you are better than them. They will jump ship and go for an even better mate if they believe said person wants a relationship with them despite the many years they've invested with a previous partner]
I can even give an example of this in real life. When i was in medical school there was a girl in year 1 who had a boyfriend and he was a cool dude who treated her well. Come year 2, she quickly dumps his ass to get with another guy who just graduated and became a doctor. Now, she appears to be a good, christian girl with morals and most people would perceive her as a GOOD GIRL. Society in fact would see nothing wrong with her behavior and many attribute it that a woman should strive for the best and not settle for mediocrity but this type of behavior is very unsettling to me. I don't look at this as a woman not wanting to settle with a loser as her previous boyfriend is not exactly wasting his life. He is studying to become a doctor right now and he is working to improve his life.
Now onto my main question. I find it strange that many men congratulate and pat themselves on the back for stealing another man's girl and don't seem to realize the red flag of getting into a relationship with her. It's one thing if u just want to fool around with a woman like this for just sex and kick her to the curb but when you actively start getting invested and going for on BF/GF mode with her is where i become perplexed.
Why don't these guys realize this is a total red flag? If a girl like this can dump her boyfriend at the drop of a hat for someone she perceive to be better then don't they realize that she can do this same thing to you?
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Now I'd just like to add the steal your girl may not be a 100% accurate. Usually ho it works is women will be keeping their option open and be talking/flirting with other men even while they have a boyfriend. If they perceive said guy is better than the man she is currently with she will slowly detach from him and start testing the other guy to see how interested he is into getting into a relationship with her. If all signs are there she will drop her current SO for the new man.
Why are men of this generation so beta they don't realize that a woman who exhibits this behavior is a MAJOR RED FLAG?
I'd like you to connect your information to these facts:
If a man (especially if he's white and from a middle class family) makes more than a woman, is more skilled/talented than a woman, holds a better more powerful social or professional position, or really any level above another woman; well that man was obviously just handed those things. There are actually statistical goals that have to be met that put women in positions of authority regardless of their qualifications or validity to be there. In short a man that does better than a woman is a pig and any man that is on the same level or lower than a woman is a loser.
OP, you ask why men are so beta that we don't see this? Well I can tell you this with absolute certainty; most men that women consider betas are not betas at all. Most of those men are brought up by alpha males, to be alpha males and exert the confidence that comes with being an alpha male themselves. Women don't like that, women nowdays want a submissive guy with perfect genetics who makes 100k a year or more. Once they find a guy who makes more, due to their inflated social value, they'll jump to the next better off guy. Women objectify themselves, they do it to such a degree that they are ashamed enough that they have to blame someone else because it's not possible for a women to make that kind of error in judgement. It's the same thing for cheating, it's never the woman's fault in her mind, the guy did something to justify it.
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Look, putting aside that ALPHA and BETA are terms which do not apply to humans because we're not pack animals, and the retards who keep using it are desperately in need of an actual education, and not some TL;DR reddit posts written by some pathetic misogynist... what is so damn alpha about giving a shit who a woman has sex with?
I don't care who a woman has sex with when she's not fucking me. I don't expect monogamy. I certainly don't promise it.
The idea that a male would subsume all his most male drives just because he wants something so ephemeral as commitment or a relationship, seems to be to be as complete opposite from the so-called Alpha, as it is possible to be.
No guy can "steal my woman" because she's not "my woman" anymore than I'm "her man". She is a free agent. As am I. And for that reason, I can't be dropped like a hat when something better comes along, because she wore me on her head in the first place.
Seriously. Get over yourselves. You can't be betrayed if you have no expectation of loyalty in the first place.
Women aren't loyal for the most part (99.99%) in my opinion and many many other men. If they are a unicorn NAWALT which I've never met and never will then it might be possible. Red flags just signify that she's sending signals to shit test a man to see if he will walk, and if he doesn't he's not alpha enough to put her shit in check and then she moves on to the 'better' male, in a sense he's a fool too. Such women play games and they will never stop, only way to stop her is be the guy she can't mess with or won't even try to mess with. Then she will be his and wet for him. Because she knows he doesn't need her and can find other options. Women are not satisfied with loving, loyal men, they want men that are 'wanted' by other women. So she's raising her perceived value probably because she has low self esteem. I walk from women who show any red flags because if someone shows you who they are believe them, get to stepping. That's it , that's all.
Sorry Mangina answer... women tree branch from man to man, only reason they stay with a man is because at that moment they don't have a better option. Women always trade up, men are loyal women are self-seeking to better their lives, it's just instinct and their conditioning to do so. Get out of the fog.
@ LadyTerror LOL... nice try at shaming because that's the best response you have to throw at me? You're what 20 years old? I'm 100% secure in myself & just because you know my response was completely true you try to shame me, it's actually incredibly amusing :P @ Milomir you don't understand guys like me? Stupid response by the way as I have a mother of course. "Once a girl loves a guy it won't matter what he has or doesn't have" Jesus Christ bro could you be anymore naive or brainwashed, get off your mom's t*ts, that's a classic blue pill mangina response, and we are VERY different from females, we're all as a species humans but definitely have different biology and differing imperatives from women as men, if you don't understand that you will figure it out one day, if not you'll live in your fairytale world & well live in your denial. I'm quite surprised that there are such people as both yourselves living in denial in this world we live in. I'm glad I'm awake.
@ Opinion Owner - I respond only because it's amusing how ignorant people are to their surroundings. Your comment "I'm not living in denial, you are Instead of blaming the women as a whole you should look at yourself You're either blind or have serious issues" is classic. You sound like a woman, shaming language because you do not have a intelligent retort to my statement. It's like saying "I'm not a doo doo head, you're a doo doo head. I'm awesome you suck". I love seeing an effeminate male try to defend his stance utilizing feminine language & shaming tactics to try to contest his point with hollow statements! Props/Kudos to you for holding a mirror to me of how I once was (although I wasn't that low in the male hierarchy to utilize women's tactics on a man/dude - I instead spoke my mind and had it out if it came to that).
@OPBinYYC dude, you should pay attention to your surroundings If you were correct human race would go extint I have two sisters, both of them have good for nothing boyfriends
How were you born? I doubt your dad was a catch
Most people live a normal life, they get married, have kids, and grow old with their loved one
@OPBinYYC Oh sure. What you said is completely true. Even though you hear more women complain that they were cheated on. Lol you're just embarrassing yourself with every comment.
"I'm 100% secure in myself & just because you know my response was completely true"
Lol your very first sentence is a sign of insecurity. The word "mangina" is only used by insecure pussies to put other men down so they can make themselves feel better. Also, go look up the definition of "shaming" before you make yourself look like an idiot.
@OPBinYYC haha nice try. But I'm already in a relationship :) Making random assumptions about people and using them as insults is just another sign of insecurity :)
@LadyTerror You're 20 years old, have a nice road... you're ohhhh so tenured and experienced. Life will hit you and when you wake up one day you will realize the truth of what's been said, but sadly you think it's insecurity, sorry cupcake you need do some growing up before you can even comprehend the degree and depth of the truth I speak, wisdom borne of experience. Enjoy your relationship for now and when it ends (as you ride the c (ck carousel) and you're old and alone you will realize your views are unfounded and based upon bias not facts. I'm so secure that I can adequately and accurately say that I turn women down on a daily basis because I know female nature (as a majority - I'm sure there are rare rare exceptions) as I've had tons of relationships, while you've had how many again? Yup, you're the experienced one though, lol enjoy life giving it to you up the a** later on. I will just enjoy the fact that reality will eventually catch up to you, ahhh satisfaction!
@OPBinYYC lol you claim you're secure but you're getting so defensive again. Why say something and then prove yourself wrong? 😂
Also, everything you said is completely off topic and irrelevant. You also keep saying that they are "facts" but you have nothing to go on. All you've been doing till now is pulling random stuff out of your ass. At least I actually used sources.
@LadyTerror your bio: "So I'm a game developer and usually NOT a people person. I've got a thing for anime and comic books. Don't try to sext with me. But feel free to message me otherwise". Jesus you live in a bubble, I've been a DJ and travelled the world and experienced life in so many ways, now I just got total satisfaction. You must be one of those 'Gamergate' chicks that side with Anita Sarkeesian. I feel sorry for your boyfriend or is it girlfriend? lol enjoy coding with your delusions of grandeur! Cheers!
@OPBinYYC HAHAHAHA now you just proved your insecurities 😂 😂 You get so defensive to the point where you start insulting people and looking at their profiles. That's 100% insecurity right there. Now stop being a pussy.
@LadyTerror God you're just so fun to mess with and probably sexy when you're mad lol. No, insecurity is not even part of it, it's called knowledge to know thine enemy, mind you I wouldn't waste my energy to even call you that. More feminist shaming, you're hilarious. Ok cupcake enjoy your illusions, I have important things to do besides mess with you. It's been a fun parlay to reinforce my views of disillusioned little girls and feminist clap trap you call life. but you go enjoy it peace out! :) :P
@OPBinYYC I've dated both men and women, and the behavior you described is definitely more common among men. Get your head out of your ass before you think that the world revolves around you.
And the way you come across, it's really not a surprise that your relationships didn't work out. Perhaps you're the problem here. You're just undesirable by women. Get over it.
@OPBinYYC me getting mad? Even though you're the one getting offended easily? Lmao
"it's called knowledge to know thine enemy"
Oh sweetie! Our discussion was never about women and dating. You're the only one bringing that up :P It was about our insecurities, and you just keep proving me with each comment. Besides, you never even posted any "knowledge" since all you've been doing this entire thread is posting insults like a butthurt pussy. That proves you're insecure whether you admit it or not :) I'd tell you to stop embarrassing yourself but it's entertaining watching you act like a whiny little bitch. Go ahead and insult me further. It'll just prove your insecurities even more :P
@LadyTerror lol what a selfish righteous c*nt you are at 20 lol since you like using the word pussy you can have that in return as I'm a little more direct and since you like using the female anatomy so much in your rhetoric you must be a lesbian. If the shoe fits wear it. Because you have nothing besides that to back up your statements. Your mind games are pathetic little girl and insecurity is on 'your' part hence insults vs retort/reply with some semblance of originality. I respond and you come at my statement with pushy and insecurity. That all you got? Figured as much. Kudos to you for being the standard idiot that is a result of feminist conditioning. Enjoy your life as obviously you are a drone lacking original thought. Prevalenty displayed by your default shaming tactics which are thoroughly amusing. Cheers! :)
Lol bitter MGTOW. Jesus Christ you are funny, enjoy getting raped in court, heart ripped out and lonely one day. You're part of the manosphere that is mangina and a sympathizer (simp) that has contributed to why being male in this day and age and third wave feminism has taken hold. No balls to complain (this means you would have to have a spine and not be approval seeking from females). MGTOW complain because we defend all men's rights, even unaware drones such as yourself. I have to say I was one at one point in my life, but life and experience has taught me and opened my eyes to the truth. Perhaps you're afraid of the truth?
Got it, thanks O/O just tired of people who haven't realized human nature (men & women) utilizing shaming language as a weapon, logic & reason (facts) should be basis not emotional reasoning. Thank you for clarification... cheers.
Which reply made you cry happy man tears, I love laughing till I cry at the truth that is so evident only idiots can't see it. I was once 'that guy' who couldn't see shit and real men laughed their asses off at me, when instead we should be helping our gender wake the f*ck up to the ways of the world and women. Women as a collective have own group preference and we should as well, bros before hoes is something many guys say but how many live to that, I do now without hesitation bro!
Bros before hoes can also put a hindrance on things let's not forget. I live by "cater to yourself and fix yourself before you do so for others" so I guess the bros before hoes saying fits that but very loosely at best. I just think people need to worry about themselves. If we had less people worrying about the world and focused on making themselves better people then we'd get what we are after anyways. Unless you have something different to say @OPBinYYC
Ok when a woman cries wolf on a false allegation of rape or assaults a man but his life is ruined because of gender biased laws then I guess it's ok because it's not happening to you. Wow. Self absorbed don't you think?
If we are all after equality (or rather preventing feminism from destroying that) if we all focus on bettering ourselves instead of trying to fix the world we will accomplish the same thing no? I'm the kind of person who wants to solve everyone's problems. But I don't forget to solve my own. I have more female friends than male friends. So I tend to get caught in the middle of a lot of crap. It's just I see people try to solve everything that's wrong with the world instead of improving their own life. All I'm saying is everyone try's to fix everything when we should be focusing on improving ourselves to make ourselves better people. If everyone makes themselves better before they make others better then we won't have the ideological war that happens all the time.
Monkey Branching. This is why 'Hoes Ain't Loyal'. And ultimately in this day and age all of them are. Before all you ladies get butt hurt obviously NAWALT.
This is a good comment @cchris989 because it shows female nature and survival instincts. They are biologically driven and it's their imperative to gain as many resources as possible as it meant the higher chance for survival for their offspring. It used to be dead animals for food now it's the male with the most utility (resources) or high caliber as you've said that can provide the most utility for the female to survive. It's self serving/seeking & nature. That's why women monkey branch from man to man, love DOES NOT overrule all, they seek the most benefit for themselves and trade their resources (bodies/sex) for our resources as men (utility/money/success/social standing etc.) I have experience in this beyond any of the f*cktards that say otherwise, as do so many other men. We're not bitter just awake to the realities of this world. Life is too short to live in a dreamlike state, it can destroy you, and it has for MANY MANY men with the ignorance to female nature.
I've seen this happen even amount girls with fetishes. For white girls that like black will literally be with there black boyfriend and check out other black guys, some might dump there boyfriend to see if the grass is greener.
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