Seems like you hang with only juvenal boys. Any guy over the age of 24 (your published age) has no time for clingy insecure teenage girls. The average 24 year old guy already past that phase in their lives long before college.
Maybe because these "insecure" women were available and were the only women that are into a guy at the time? She's the "miss right now" for guys because there were no more confident women around him at that moment that he could choose from? Could be one reason. I don't know.
I'll take a girl who is confident any day over a girl who is insecure i want to be there to help out pf course however, when an insecure doesn't nelieve what I'm telling her it can be really annoying they can also be very possesive as well. So not all guy's like insecure girls i want the girl to feel good about herself and doubtful about everything.
It depends, it really does. Insecure people can be compliant, but other insecure people are incredibly stubborn because their insecurity overpowers everything else (including a desire to please).
Highly confident people can sometimes be manipulated more easily. See: Putin manipulating trump, as an example.
Because in insecure women are easily controllable or will let a guy get away with a lot. Also, guys typically go for looks. If she's hot enough they won't care about her insecurities
Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Who are always the most popular guys? always the loud ones. Girls go for insecure guys while thinking they're confident guy's.
@BuchitaBuchys something is obviously bothering you and it has nothing to do with random people online telling you they don't mind women with insecurities.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry no, it doesn't I've rejected men because I thought they were too attractive. Many times. It bothers me when people romanticize real issues
And there's your real problem. You think men romanticize insecurities. Haha that's hilarious. Men like women for them being themselves, not 'because she's insecure'. Men don't go around looking for insecure chicks to date. That's not a turn on. It's rather men DEAL with the insecurities because they love her, not the other way around. Most of the time the insecurities don't even show up until later in the relationship. At which point the guy tries to pull through it to get to her. Do you think a guy is going to just go.
You aren't reading through the responses at all, you're taking what they say at face value. You have a very deluded view of men.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry um, no many men are saying things like "it's really cute when she questions her worth" "I actually like when they don't see how great they are and I help them see that" "if it's one or the other, the insecure woman just looks more feminine to me" etc etc. Only like 1 out of every 10 responses here has said they'd take confidence over insecurity if they had a choice.
@BuchitaBuchys You've rejected men because you thought they were too attractive?
Do you have a tendency to take things at face value or is it the over-thinking department that keeps you semi-awake at nights?
I'm having trouble here. You begin by frowning on insecurity and then you follow up in this chain of replies that you rejected men because of their appearance:, hence due to your insecurity. Therefore, you frown on yourself? Fair enough, but how can you then prefer confidence? Contradiction
Yes I've rejected men because I felt they were too attractive and would eventually cheat, or that I wouldn't be able to handle him with so many female attention, or that he probably didn't want me for anything serious. Of course, I wasn't always right.
And it's not a contradiction, it's hypocrisy. I am insecure but I want someone confident because basically I don't want someone like me
Harsh truth? Women are too cowardly in general to step up and make a first move so personality traits don't weigh in as much as whether or not they are pretty.
@Pacificblue62 even the ones who give it a chance will usually give up after a few rejections. Then some women will tell men how they need to just keep trying and rejection isn't that big of a deal.
No, many of the men with choices tha have tried to date me, I let it be known that I hate my small boobs, wish my hair was curly, my quick temper, my flaws etc. I didn't date most of them, because I had to reject them because of my insecurities, not the other way around.
Well it all fits into the "nagging" stereotype. Which is women are known to be complainers and just nag constantly at their men. That's the joke at bachelor parties and basically any guys night out. It's nights where you don't have to put up with such crap. So when girls act insecure they just assume it's typical female nagging behavior.
I know I'm just saying that's how the guys probably see it. They just see it as the girl finding something to complain about. If she isn't complaining about something else then she's just complaining about herself. The guy only sees it as nagging and complaining nothing more. You asked why guys do it I'm saying why. I didn't say if they were correct or not I'm just explaining why they put up with it.
I think it's because we think that giving them love will make them feel much better and less insecure :D And being insecure is not really a property that is big turn off, as long as the girl is genuine and a nice person :D
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(30-35)
+1 y
I want a confident woman like you Buchita! I like a confident woman with some sass to her personality.
Oh dear, an innocent comment has suddenly sparked curiosity. I am someone who has frequented GAG in the past over the last two years under a few usernames.
@AriadneSky Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Who are always the most popular guys? always the loud ones. Why are women always trying to "save" a man or change him?
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
97Opinion
Seems like you hang with only juvenal boys. Any guy over the age of 24
(your published age) has no time for clingy insecure teenage girls. The average 24 year old guy already past that phase in their lives long before college.
Read the comments, men of all ages prefer them
Maybe because these "insecure" women were available and were the only women that are into a guy at the time? She's the "miss right now" for guys because there were no more confident women around him at that moment that he could choose from? Could be one reason. I don't know.
I'll take a girl who is confident any day over a girl who is insecure i want to be there to help out pf course however, when an insecure doesn't nelieve what I'm telling her it can be really annoying they can also be very possesive as well. So not all guy's like insecure girls i want the girl to feel good about herself and doubtful about everything.
an insecure person is easier to take advantage of and manipulate. thats why guys like them
It depends, it really does. Insecure people can be compliant, but other insecure people are incredibly stubborn because their insecurity overpowers everything else (including a desire to please).
Highly confident people can sometimes be manipulated more easily. See: Putin manipulating trump, as an example.
Because in insecure women are easily controllable or will let a guy get away with a lot. Also, guys typically go for looks. If she's hot enough they won't care about her insecurities
Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Who are always the most popular guys? always the loud ones. Girls go for insecure guys while thinking they're confident guy's.
And the reverse :o man oh man. Someone can't help if they were raised to feel less than, but it's still really unattractive :/
Some men are desperate and will do it for easy sex.
I like my sex hard please
I wouldn't. I hate dating those kind of women with a passion.
Most men love it lol
@BuchitaBuchys Whatever you say Ms. Salty.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry How am I salty? Look at the responses. They equate insecurity with femininity
@BuchitaBuchys How about you start by telling us what's really going on. I don't buy this whole act of yours.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry what act?
Yo, take a room :)
@sp33d
No thanks
@BuchitaBuchys
Don't act coy, you know what I'm talking about.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry no I don't know wtf are you talking about?
@BuchitaBuchys something is obviously bothering you and it has nothing to do with random people online telling you they don't mind women with insecurities.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry it's men who prefer them
😑😑
Well you seem to be insecure yet I don't see anyone with you...
😲😲
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry because I turn them down
Riiiigght.😉👌
It takes a lot of self-confidence and security to turn someone down. I doubt an insecure person such as yourself could do it.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry no, it doesn't I've rejected men because I thought they were too attractive. Many times. It bothers me when people romanticize real issues
And there's your real problem.
You think men romanticize insecurities. Haha that's hilarious. Men like women for them being themselves, not 'because she's insecure'. Men don't go around looking for insecure chicks to date. That's not a turn on. It's rather men DEAL with the insecurities because they love her, not the other way around. Most of the time the insecurities don't even show up until later in the relationship. At which point the guy tries to pull through it to get to her. Do you think a guy is going to just go.
You aren't reading through the responses at all, you're taking what they say at face value. You have a very deluded view of men.
@TheTruthHurtsImSorry um, no many men are saying things like "it's really cute when she questions her worth" "I actually like when they don't see how great they are and I help them see that" "if it's one or the other, the insecure woman just looks more feminine to me" etc etc. Only like 1 out of every 10 responses here has said they'd take confidence over insecurity if they had a choice.
@BuchitaBuchys
You've rejected men because you thought they were too attractive?
Do you have a tendency to take things at face value or is it the over-thinking department that keeps you semi-awake at nights?
I'm having trouble here. You begin by frowning on insecurity and then you follow up in this chain of replies that you rejected men because of their appearance:, hence due to your insecurity. Therefore, you frown on yourself? Fair enough, but how can you then prefer confidence? Contradiction
Yes I've rejected men because I felt they were too attractive and would eventually cheat, or that I wouldn't be able to handle him with so many female attention, or that he probably didn't want me for anything serious. Of course, I wasn't always right.
And it's not a contradiction, it's hypocrisy. I am insecure but I want someone confident because basically I don't want someone like me
Harsh truth? Women are too cowardly in general to step up and make a first move so personality traits don't weigh in as much as whether or not they are pretty.
I make the first move and it never ever ever works and I've done it several times
@acka72 that's not atypical for men either
This is so true. They are total cowards when asking a guy out. Not all, there are those extremely rare exceptions, but most.
@Pacificblue62 even the ones who give it a chance will usually give up after a few rejections. Then some women will tell men how they need to just keep trying and rejection isn't that big of a deal.
My guess is confident guys might think she's easy prey and will put out more easily than a confident woman would. They take advantage of that
Yup, some men will totally prey on a woman's insecurities to get some sexual play
We don't have the luxury of choice. Usually it's either them or no one.
But even men who have many options will go for insecure women.
I think that's much more rare. The girls probably hide it very well in front of him and then unleash it in ways we don't notice.
No, many of the men with choices tha have tried to date me, I let it be known that I hate my small boobs, wish my hair was curly, my quick temper, my flaws etc. I didn't date most of them, because I had to reject them because of my insecurities, not the other way around.
Well it all fits into the "nagging" stereotype. Which is women are known to be complainers and just nag constantly at their men. That's the joke at bachelor parties and basically any guys night out. It's nights where you don't have to put up with such crap. So when girls act insecure they just assume it's typical female nagging behavior.
But its not! Its insecurity. I notice a lot of the behavioir we assume is just women stuff, is actually insecurity. Lack of confidence.
I know I'm just saying that's how the guys probably see it. They just see it as the girl finding something to complain about. If she isn't complaining about something else then she's just complaining about herself. The guy only sees it as nagging and complaining nothing more. You asked why guys do it I'm saying why. I didn't say if they were correct or not I'm just explaining why they put up with it.
I think it's because we think that giving them love will make them feel much better and less insecure :D
And being insecure is not really a property that is big turn off, as long as the girl is genuine and a nice person :D
I want a confident woman like you Buchita! I like a confident woman with some sass to her personality.
I'm not even confident lol
Oh dear Buchita, that's not music to my ears lol.
I'm sorry :(
Who is this? Lol
Nobody important, nobody important, just a blue anon.
You're important lol. Who are you? :o
Oh dear, an innocent comment has suddenly sparked curiosity. I am someone who has frequented GAG in the past over the last two years under a few usernames.
Some guys like knowing they have extra power over her. Insecurity makes her easier to control.
#this
and unfortunately a lot of the answers from guys are confirming this. this isn't something i wanted to be right about.
Unfortunately, this is something my dad taught me. 😂😕😭
Yup! ^
@AriadneSky
Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Who are always the most popular guys? always the loud ones. Why are women always trying to "save" a man or change him?
sounds sadist, but that 'vulnerability' in women is attractive. As guys want to protect and provide for their girl.
yup, spot on bro!
Maybe they're insecure themselves or they think it will be easier or they're control freaks.
Insecure people don't deserve to have someone be interested in them?
I never said they don't
You sound pretty angry about it
How? I ask WHYYYY as in wtf? not as in FUCK
thats how most women act anyways
I dont know what planet You live in, but please tell me where it is cause I would like to date someone.
Everywhere.
They are easier to manipulate. Insecure girls are more attached too. So it helps the guy feel comfortable to do stuff to the girl.
There aren't that many "secure" women honestly. Very few in comparison. Plus you can't always tell at first. Some are very good "actors"
So is it something you've come to accept?
@askuser To some degree maybe. Accept as in "it's just the way most women are" kind of thing. Depends on the person and how bad it is or isn't.
What do you consider to be intolerable?
there are plenty of secure women who hang out with low quality females